Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 (edited) Hey friends. Care for an update from your favorite turtle-with-a porcupine-name? Dy is doing well, healing nicely. I have worked my tushy off watching the kids, cleaning, cooking, etc, and have honestly loved every minute of it. Zorak and I took the kids trick or treating, I took them to piano and guitar, took them for long nature walks, supervised school, did art lessons, picture study, read out loud, etc with them. Good stuff. Dy is feeling better now, and we were just starting to be able to do some fun stuff together, but my Man is not doing well. I don't want to go into too many details, but his work situation is worse, and financially we are not doing well at all. He is very depressed, and honestly, I am very worried about his mental status. So much so, that I am going home early. I will be flying in Friday at midnight, instead of Tuesday. I am very bummed, worried, upset, angry. When I let myself be. I have been handling his long distance trauma with as much grace as I can muster, but man is it hard. I have been emailing and setting up appointments, doing research, etc. tonight. I need to get more respite care clients asap, sign up for CNA training, help him find and get to a doctor, try to convince the family to all attend counseling, and so on. Trying to get as much of it set up as I can before I get home. And I have to pack tomorrow. Please continue to pray for my little family- that I can continue to keep my cool, show my family grace and love, and get some clients asap, as well as adjust to working even more than I already do. Pray that I will still be able to take care of my mother while working. Pray for my Dude- that he can forgive himself for his perceived weaknesses and mistakes, and push through to fix problems and get better. And that he would consider anti-depressants and counseling. And for my teens, who are having to face these adult issues- that they will pick up the slack while I am working, continue to improve in their school work, and have grace with each other. Thanks for the PMs, the hugs, and the prayers/good thoughts. As always, your love helps keep me afloat. I personally am feeling much better- the vitamin D is really helping stabilize my moods, as has my newest mantra- I am a peaceful person, and wish peace for my family. And I am not getting on your darn roller coaster. :glare: LB Edited November 5, 2009 by Needleroozer spelling typo, as usual Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Thanks for the update. Glad to hear that Dy is doing well, and as always, will keep you and yours in my prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I'm happy to hear you & Dy are doing well; sounds like you had as great a visit as possible under the circumstances. Worrying about your dude though. Sounds like you're piling a lot on your plate - remember 1. you can't do it all, & 2. put on your air mask first. :grouphug: & best wishes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizzyBee Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug: I'm sorry things are so rough right now. I will pray for you. I didn't know you were going to Dy's. That is very cool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Dy is doing well, healing nicely. I have worked my tushy off watching the kids, cleaning, cooking, etc, and have honestly loved every minute of it. I am a peaceful person, and wish peace for my family. And I am not getting on your darn roller coaster. LB NB: the all-important positive note at the beginning and the end. I'm glad you're doing well! Happy travel, and roll your ankles on the plane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 LB, I'm sorry to hear you're having so many troubles. I'm also disappointed to miss you at the airport. :( I hope that all smooths out for you soon, friend. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug: Thanks for the update. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 NB: the all-important positive note at the beginning and the end. I'm glad you're doing well! Happy travel, and roll your ankles on the plane. Thanks for acknowledging that, Kaye. I am doing my best to be positive! And what do you mean about rolling my ankles? 'Splain please. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 LB, I'm sorry to hear you're having so many troubles. I'm also disappointed to miss you at the airport. :( I hope that all smooths out for you soon, friend. :grouphug: I know. I was so looking forward to seeing you, if even for a little bit. Next time for sure!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 Do take care of yourself, my friend. You are so good at caring for everyone else, but you must not forget YOU. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 Thanks for the prayers gals. I will be ok. I can do this. Surrounding myself with folks who believe in me is really helping. My plate is full, yes, but I don't feel like I have a lot of choice in how much is on it- I am sorta fighting for my family, and there is a lot to be done. But I do have a choice in how I handle all the stuff on said plate. No more pushing the peas under the mashed potatoes!!:001_smile: Keep praying, LB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 Do take care of yourself, my friend. You are so good at caring for everyone else, but you must not forget YOU. :grouphug: Yep. I promise to take care of me. I'm working on it. Even going in for an evil pap and evil mammogram next week. Bleach!!:tongue_smilie: How're you doing? Wanna try to squeeze in a visit sometime soon? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I'm working on it. Even going in for an evil pap and evil mammogram next week. Bleach!!:tongue_smilie: What a coincidence. I just did the former last week and I'm scheduling the latter today. Is it funny or strange that when we think of caring for ourselves in the middle of a big mess that we think mostly of our physical selves? How're you doing? Wanna try to squeeze in a visit sometime soon? I'm...okay. I visited my mom yesterday. She's in a bad place. She's ready to let go... I'm not. Yes. Let's visit when you have some time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 LB - I'll call you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 What a coincidence. I just did the former last week and I'm scheduling the latter today.Is it funny or strange that when we think of caring for ourselves in the middle of a big mess that we think mostly of our physical selves? I'm...okay. I visited my mom yesterday. She's in a bad place. She's ready to let go... I'm not. Yes. Let's visit when you have some time. Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. It can be so hard to let go of our loved ones. Know I am thinking of you, and your mama. I will give you a call here in a minute to see if we can set something up for Wed. I could use some of your mad photography skills, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMCassandra Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 LB, you can do this. One minute at a time, if necessary. And I want to be there for you. To be at the other end of the phone. To come across for the weekend to help with whatever is important to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMCassandra Posted November 5, 2009 Share Posted November 5, 2009 I'm...okay. I visited my mom yesterday. She's in a bad place. She's ready to let go...I'm not. Crissy, I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needleroozer Posted November 5, 2009 Author Share Posted November 5, 2009 :grouphug: I'm sorry things are so rough right now. I will pray for you. I didn't know you were going to Dy's. That is very cool! Yes it was. This is my third visit out here in the last 16 months. If was good to be of service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 Thanks for acknowledging that, Kaye. I am doing my best to be positive! And what do you mean about rolling my ankles? 'Splain please. Don't get a blood clot in your leg on the flight home. I've had two no-risk-factor (other than being over 40) friends get DVTs on a simple flight. So lift your legs off the ground and roll your ankles, tensing all your lower leg muscles as you do while in flight. Simple thing to do, to avoid a very unpleasant clot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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