Renee in NC Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 (edited) We move in 3 weeks. Due to a previously planned vacation, he will stay here and fly down a week later and stay for 3 weeks or so. Then I have to put him on a plane and say good-bye. I am a MESS over this - I don't want to leave him. (For those who don't know he is staying here with his Dad and stepmother when we move to FL.) I cried the first 2 weeks after we knew we were moving, but I thought I was better. Now I just don't want to do this and I keep sobbing. We will see every 5-8 weeks, but weekend visits aren't going to fill the hole in our family that leaving him here is going to cause. I don't know how to even begin to explain it to his almost 3yo sister. He is closest to her and my 8yo son and neither are going to take this well. Good thoughts and prayers please. Edited June 9, 2009 by Renee in FL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Renee in NC Posted June 9, 2009 Author Share Posted June 9, 2009 (edited) Just FYI: No, I cannot make him go with us. He is 16yo and he can choose which parent he wants to live with. Even if I could, I wouldn't make him go. He has to do what is right for him and staying here is the right thing for him to do. I can admit that, but it doesn't make it any easier. Edited June 9, 2009 by Renee in FL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 I'm so sorry. I can't imagine going through this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i.love.lucy Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: You'll get through it Mom! And he will probably be closer to you for it because you trusted him to make this decision. Doesn't make it any easier. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: I remember how hard this decision was for you. :grouphug: I agree that you will end up closer because you trust him. I pray the right words come to you and him to explain to his younger siblings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Hang in there mom. We're with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: You will get through this. I'll be praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Hang in there mom. We're with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: I can relate. As I mentioned in another thread, I have one leaving the nest soon too. It can be hard. So sorry you are going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 You are in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted June 9, 2009 Author Share Posted June 9, 2009 Thanks so much everyone! I feel better this morning. I know this is the right thing for all of us, but I wish it didn't have to be this way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 You are in my prayers every day. I wish you didn't have to go through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraceyS/FL Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: I know this has been one of the hardest things you have had to do..... hang in there and i wish i had some wisdom for the younger kids. More :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 I know this is breaking your heart, and I'm sorry he can't travel down with you! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Would it be possible to get Skype of something where you could show each other things while you talk occasionally? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted June 9, 2009 Author Share Posted June 9, 2009 Would it be possible to get Skype of something where you could show each other things while you talk occasionally? :grouphug: We might do that. We communicate alot on facebook now - I imagine we'll do even more once we aren't here. We still have cell phones (left over from the business), so we can talk mobile-to-mobile for free. My Dad has agreed to take up some slack with transportation until he gets his license (next April.) I have already planned visits for the rest of this year - the 3 weeks in July, Labor Day weekend, I am coming back here in Oct., and he'll go there Thanksgiving and the week after Christmas. January through March will be impossible for him to come to us (he plays varsity basketball), so we will have to make a monthly visit here (not everyone - I will come in January, dh will come another time, etc.) We were planning this when he graduated, but that is still 2 years away - the situation just wouldn't allow us to wait. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LearnFromHome Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 :grouphug: I know exactly how you feel. I just went through something similar with my son, I thought I was going to loose him forever and it hurts. All I can tell you is pray for your son to come back to you when "he's" ready and to give you the strength to bare this pain. You're blessed that he's 16 not 5 to where he can easily forget. I'm sure you have planted some roots with your 16 year-old that will continue to grow. Keep praying, he'll come back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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