My MIL didn’t, but my mom sure did. My dad didn’t, he actually got nicer as he got older. The all had various forms of dementia. I think dementia takes a person to the base of their personality, and with no filters left you really see the true self that was always lurking underneath.

I am not familiar with this family, but it is quite common for wives to defend their husbands in DV situations when they are obviously victims, so I wouldn’t worry about how a bunch of random people on the internet interpret what she says.

It popped on on my YouTube feed, so I watched it. I burst out in tears when they walked out to the truck. About 15 yrs ago, long before my dad had any dementia symptoms, my DH and I bought a truck from my dad. My dad loved that truck and liked knowing we had it. We still have that truck and drive it frequently. Last thanksgiving, we took my dad for a ride in “his” truck. My DH had to almost pick up Dad to get him in the truck. While my dad didn’t have the memory recall that the grandmother in the add had, he was so happy to be out riding in “his” truck.

I know there are people on this board much more knowledgeable than me, but I have a couple of thoughts. Have you seen a pain specialist yet? My mom used to go to one regularly, and that doctor offered different treatments than what she could get from her primary care. For the HBP, I take my meds twice a day rather (every 12 hours ish) than just once per day. When I was first diagnosed, my primary care Dr had previously had a long career as a geriatric specialist, and she said that she saw much better BP control with the 2xs day dosing even though it isn’t standard protocol. She did offer for me to take a larger does one per day if I preferred. I went with her experience and it has worked well for me. After she retired, my next doctors have been willing to continue the 2xs day dosing.

We are having smoked brisket and ribs. Not sure about the side as no one but me even cares if we have sides at all. But there could be fist fights over the ribs (just kidding)

I found this https://www.va.gov/records/get-military-service-records/#how-do-i-request-someone-elses

I had one porcelain crown that broke and had to be replaced. It was around 10 yrs old, but I clench my teeth very hard when I sleep, so I think most of the fault is mine. When it was replaced, the new dentist went with a crown that was some kind of metal with porcelain over the metal. It was cheaper than all porcelain. The other crown I have was put on the same time as the first one. It is over 20 yrs old now and still fine.

I don’t have any experience with toothpaste causing an issue, but I do know that old fillings can eventually fail and need to be replaced. If new decay develops, or the filling cracks, that can cause pain.

I don’t think it is either one, but I agree they are expensive. My adult DD was on Medicaid for a time. Medicaid does not pay for crowns at all. It only pays for extractions at that point, so I guess there is an alternative. There are different types of materials that can be used to make the crown. I would imagine the more visually pleasing the more the cost, but I don’t know that for sure.

The week of Christmas to New Years is the single most busy time at Disney. If this is a first trip for everyone, most everyone will probably end up unhappy with the trip. Imagine hundreds of thousands of people squeezed shoulder to shoulder at times. Combine that with the fact that most people start planning such trips a year or more in advance. Dining reservations open 60 days from the actual date (plus a few extra days for certain people). At this point, it will be next to impossible to schedule restaurants on Disney property for that many people to eat together. My personal recommendation is that you could start planning for Christmas 2024. It is much too late to plan trip for such a large group for this Christmas. All that aside, the first thing to do is to find out everyone’s expectations. Are there people who are expecting everyone to stay together at all times? How often do they expect to eat all together? Do they want to stay on Disney property? Staying on property will be easier for transportation, but it is more expensive. Renting a vacation home will be cheaper, but transportation will eat into park time. How many days will the trip be? I would want at least 5 days for Disney and at least 2 days for Universal (Harry Potter). How much money are they willing to spend? How will expenses be handled? Another suggestion is read the Disboards site for more suggestion on planning a large group trip.

My arm hurt for several days, and I felt all-around lousy for 24-36 hours. My stomach did bother me a bit, but hard to tell if that was because of the vaccination. FYI for others- The age recommendation has lowered. My insurance now pays for shingles vaccine for anyone over 50. I was 52 when I got the first one.

For body lotion I have been using Dermasil brand from Dollar Tree or Family Dollar. I like that it is a bit thicker than other low cost brands, but it doesn’t take a long time to rub in, and it doesn’t leave me feeling greasy. The brand also has facial products, but those have been harder to find.

Oh yes, I feel like that quite a lot with my parents/siblings over the past couple of years. Thankfully,I am almost done with it. I’m spending my thanksgiving driving 12hrs each way to clean out my deceased mother’s storage unit because not one of my 4 siblings that all live much closer would take any initiative to do it. Also, I may have yo come back next spring to meet with an attorney to get probate started. When this is all done. I’m a never stepping foot in this town again! (Maybe an exaggeration, but today I’m not so sure) after reading everyone’s posts a second time, I just had to add this like to the song from Encanto. https://youtu.be/tQwVKr8rCYw?si=GC9dQjVSLoJ_FSgd

I tried for many years to do composting here, but the climate is so dry that I have to constantly water the pile to get it to break down, and even then it takes forever. I took a class last spring on worm composting which I am considering, but with all the craziness of the past year, I haven’t gotten past thinking about it.

I agree!

I just want to say that my DD28 has yet to out grow Harry Potter, and my DS21 still likes Lego sets although he now prefers the model cars or architectural sets rather than “playing with” sets my suggestion would be a video game system such as a Nintendo Switch.

Not hyper mobility, but I had shoulder surgery two years ago, so I’ll respond since no one else has yet. As a slide sleeper I had a difficult time. I slept on a wedge pillow at first. It made sleeping on my side less pleasant so I wouldn’t roll over. Later I used a small rectangular pillow that I would put under the affected arm/shoulder when I was laying on my back. Later I would put that pillow parallel to my head pillow and make a little trough for my shoulder when laying on my side. Even now, when the affected shoulder is the up side, I use an extra regular pillow in front to support that arm when sleeping and keep the shoulder better aligned.

4 houses in 3 states before marriage. Since marriage- 2 apartments then 2 houses in one state. One house in different state Totals- 3 states and 9 different homes

I’ll have to try that sometime. The difficulty is that I never know in advance when he is depending on me to get up on time. I do intentionally wait so that the person has to rush to get ready on time. The techniques worked on my DS who was motivated to change, but haven’t worked for this other person.

I am frustrated with a certain family member regarding waking up. This person generally fine getting up on time for work, but anytime that we have to get up at a set time for other plans, this person depends on me to make sure that he gets up. Today, there is a PT appointment at 8:30 am that is at least 45 min from the house. From there we are leaving on a road trip to Texas. I set my alarm for 6:00am. I finally wake this person at 7am who then states “I didn’t hear your alarm go off”. Of course, I am sitting on my bed typing instead of getting ready, so I won’t vent too loud, but this person is perfectly capable of setting the alarm on either or both of his iPhones. (One is a work phone, but neither leave his side). I not for the PT appointment, I would not have bothered to wake this person today.

Unless you want to go skiing or snowshoeing, I would look at locations south of I-10, or at least south of I-40. I’m in northern NM and every campground that I know of is closed in the winter. - That isn’t exactly true. There are a couple of RV resorts that are open all winter for skiers.

One sunny day last summer, I decided to set mine out on the back porch for a few hours. Unfortunately, I found out too late that the deer would eat it, and it got quite the hair cut. It is growing back but there will be no flowers this year. I was able to root some of the broken branches in a new pot, so maybe I’ll have a good picture for next year.

I heard a phrase on a YouTube recently, “choose guilt over resentment” Basically, if you set up boundaries you will feel guilt. If you don’t set up boundaries you will start to feel resentment and worse which isn’t fair to anyone.

I get so mad for you just reading this, and I’m sure what you post is just the tip of the ice burg. He doesn’t respect you at all. He seems to see you only as an extension of himself, and he talking to you as if you were a child. My DH and I do lots of things without the other - including visiting relatives and taking vacations. I would not have been able to stay married for 30+ years if my DH had the same expectations as yours.

In trying to figure out what to do with all of my mom’s collections (hoard), I am starting to think about selling, or trying to sell, on Etsy. Does anyone have any experience to share? I just don’t know if it is worth the effort, but there are boxes and boxes of vintage sewing patterns, craft kits, salt shakers, decorative figurines. Most of her stuff fits in the Etsy categories of either craft supplies or vintage. It seems like it might be safer than selling on Facebook marketplace but I might try that too.