Ah! See, my dh grew up raised by his step-grampa. He had no idea, beyond television, how a married couple worked. IOW, I was supposed to do ALL of the "women's work" and he was supposed to provide and relax. You can imagine how great that was for me. The resentment explosion was good for one thing, though... we understand each other MUCH better now, he is more kind, understanding and helpful and I am much more open and supportive.