Employers can ask uniform questions not intended to discriminate on the basis of disability and after an offer can require physical, mental etc. testing. Post-offer but pre-employment testing must be required uniformly of all employees. Here's some resources: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2092557/pdf/304.pdf http://www.coaa.ab.ca/portals/information/documents/workshops-fitnessforwork-paper.pdf https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/practices/inquiries_medical.cfm https://www.ccohs.ca/oshanswers/psychosocial/fit_to_work.html

Woe betide the sibling who eats the last of the vanilla birthday cake Oreos.

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My ASDs are the same. They leave the one single oreo in the package and open a new one so they can have a fresh pair. :glare:

Start with the ADHD diagnosis and do some research. Often, we receive the dx but we don't get the full map of what that means. ADHD is WAY more than not being able to concentrate or being hyper-the things people usually associate with the condition. It is very complex and affects most areas of cognition. So, start reading and find out about the details.

ADHD involves impulse control and executive function issues. So the ADHD could be the cause or there could be other underlying issues. You might consider having her see a therapist a time or two to see if there is something else going on. Resource: https://www.understood.org/en/learning-attention-issues/child-learning-disabilities/add-adhd/adhd-and-lying-what-you-need-to-know This is just one of many articles, so it appears to be a common problem.

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IMO and experience, a child with ASD is going to be behind from a maturity standpoint. My child does not want to go to college. I am not pressuring him to do so. I am providing him with high school classes and waiting. He's not going to be on the traditional college track or the traditional student time frame. If your child knows something he wants to do, encourage it! Don't turn it into a negative by tieing other expectations and requirements to it. You'll end up killing whatever ambition he might have. There are plenty of options to get a college education and degree now. Not everyone is going to be ready to go at 18. Particularly for and ASD, you can't convince them to be ready for the next step just because you think they should be. ETA: Whether our children live with us the rest of their lives isn't always a choice. I guess it is. If your child cannot support himself and you feel your job is done you can legally put him on the street. My SN sister has lived with or near my parents all her life. She receives social security disability and on occasion qualifies for subsidized housing. But yes, someone in her family or in social services will have to provide some structure for her for her entire life. That's what special needs trusts and planning are for. The idea that you are going to take a child with known, diagnosed limitations and just launch them like any other child is ridiculous. You should be reading every book on the topic, learning about adult transition services and talking with your child's health care professionals about his status. If you don't want him living with you, then you need to start finding out how SN children transition into adulthood, not putting the onus on your child to overcome his limitations so you don't have to worry. It is possible he will bloom late and find his way, but he may not. You don't have those limitations and you and your DH both have college degrees? Find a way to provide for the child you've brought into the world.

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We have to be very cautious taking DS anywhere. He has a life-threatening allergy to dogs and cats. That is really difficult to navigate. People insist that their pet is friendly and should be allowed to get close, but a friendly pet that might lick DS is more dangerous than a barking one that keeps its distance. Sometimes, Ds has a reaction to a room or building and we have to leave without even knowing the cause. For the most part, if I don't feel secure at a location without having to ask strangers to change their behavior then we avoid the location. I don't have the emotional tolerance for the negative responses.

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You realize that if it were impossible to survive an international flight without eating nuts, then those who are food allergic to nuts wouldn't be on the flight- as they would starve to death. It may not be easy, but it seems rather ridiculous to pose a question (presumably to the parents of a nut allergic child) asking if they know how many foods have nuts in them. Uh yeah, we do and it sucks for us every single day, not just for a one day flight. FWIW, we don't fly ever. I guess if we travel overseas, we'll take a cruise. I am not willing to take the risk.

"I'm sorry, you DH called me a b$%6C. I don't know what he says to you or about you, but we don't use that kind of language about other people."

I don't think those dietary restrictions are really extreme. OP isn't even entirely vegan as far as I can tell. But even then, vegan isn't exactly uncommon. My kids don't eat egg or dairy. It's really not that big of a deal for them unless someone waves fabulous looking sweets with those ingredients in front of them. But we can make most things using replacement ingredients. I'm really surprised that anyone would think a person's diet choices merit such an unreasonable response. I don't like being lectured about what I choose to eat, but I surely don't care if someone else makes different choices for themselves or their children.

I don't let my children spend time with people who attempt to get them to do anything I don't allow. An adult male where my DD is spending the night, telling my DD she shouldn't listen to me? Not acceptable. The dad sounds really mean and acted totally inappropriately. If you know that he has called your daughter names (whether she knows or not) that in itself should be reason enough to say 'no way, no how.' Too bad for the mom and daughter, but no way would I let my kid near that guy again EVER.

Aw, man! I thought I was going to finally win something. LOL I still have the neighbors beat. : )

Anxiety about the meds is keeping her from taking the meds that could help with the anxiety. If she goes on medication and improves, she can talk to her doctor about easing off. It is VERY difficult to know you need the medication when you are at the bottom of the pit.

I would absolutely HATE having to do little bits of a project over months. I don't even understand those who are indicating that is a best practice. It sounds like a nightmare of lost work, forgotten tasks, and confusion to me. Give me my work, let me get it done when it is due and move on to the next thing.

Almost $500. But we are always the top user in our neighborhood according to the mail our power company sends out to get us to conserve more.

Sorry if this isn't allowed... I had someone ask me if I knew any moms who would be willing to contribute to her mommy blog. If anyone wants to make contact with her, PM me for her blog address. Susan or Mods- If it is inappropriate for me to post about this on the forums, would it be possible/permissible for me to start a group that shared this type of information?

She could use a speech to text device to assist. That would be more robust than spellchecker. Is dysgraphia an issue or slow processing speed?

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I tried these: https://www.amazon.com/Shelley-Metten-M.S.-Ph.D./e/B00KB8X2OC/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1 I usually try to check the negative reviews to get the details of what is in the book. Even if I don't agree with the review, the negative ones usually provide details.

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