Ours has been in an ebb and flow. Dh works as a US Army Recruiter, so he puts in an amazing number of hours, but I have a PT job as a nanny, too. I have been doing the greater amount of housework, cooking, etc., but have recently reached a point of being overwhelmed and a little resentful, too. So, after much discussion he is helping out a lot more and it makes a HUGE difference. I've really tried to make a point of thanking him and telling him how helpful it is.