For me it was always the worst when the kids were young. It gets better but I always miss having a little one. I'm promoting early marriage for my children. I told ds if he waits until he's 40 I'll be 80 and not looking so young. :)
This sounds complicated. I do know that when one is tired and not well they don't care about friends. I would concentrate on her health. Does her insomnia have anything to do with anxiety or depression? Just a few thoughts. Prayers for all of you.
My dd found some men's socks to her liking when she was a baby in a carriage. She grabbed them and I never noticed until we walked across Manhattan and I took her out of the carriage. What a pain!
I was a nurse at one. In the elementary grades I noticed that there was a big focus on writing and they also started foreign language early. These are things we also do at home but aren't always done in public school.
We also have parents with children on field trips. To find a form ask church groups or summer camps for a copy of their forms. I would not give any medication to a child unless it was most necessary and authorized by a doctor.
You will be reassured after you get the test results of a standardized test at the end of the year. He'll do very well. You could keep the basic standards of the 3 Rs but which history or science he learns which year won't matter.