It can mean they don't want to deal with the consequences of stepping over someone's boundaries. I don't love it when people say "sorry" when they mean "that's a shame."

What is involved, if you don't mind my asking? I've been reading stories about people having or not having experience in managing multi dwelling properties. The authors assume I know what that means and what the difference is between managing single and multi dwelling, and I don't.

Yeah. One thing he knows is how to use debt. Nobody makes that kind of money if they take the time to save up.

From what I read yesterday, serious money is made on the stock market not by buying shares buy by buying options.

What kind of pathways are there out of a trade? I've known some whose business made enough that they could hire younger people for the tougher work. I've known some who retrain as teachers. What else do people do?

Nor is posting on this forum. You could try writing to your elected officials about your legitimate grievances. You could sponsor financial literacy programs in schools. You could donate appropriate materials to libraries. You could write materials if you think the currently existing products are inadequate. Around here, we use the acronym JAWM in thread titles, to indicate "Just Agree With Me." If you'd known to use that acronym, we'd have all been happy to agree that the state of financial education in schools could be a whole lot better. Since you didn't, your posts did seem awfully personal. Obviously we don't have control over what schools teach, therefore you must be reprimanding us about what we do in our own homes, and what our values are. When people think they're being told they are inadequate, they tend to get defensive. When people who are busting their butts to raise their children, forcibly pushing the limits of their own circumstances, feel they are being told they are doing a rotten job, that's personal. A reminder about board rules

Tell him you're using Australian manners. :)

I could get any combination of the poll options, dealing with my cognitively challenged relative, because of mood and because the cognitive challenges come and go. If someone told me to put on more clothes when I'd be sitting around cold, my most natural reaction would be to wonder why I was being an idiot. :lol: A note the next day would irritate me, since I'm obviously not going to behave like an idiot in the same way, two days in a row!

Here in Oz, you don't start paying back student loans until your income is above a certain threshold, well above minimum wage.

CSMP is pretty gentle, and free online.

If you see the purpose of conversation as problem solving, you're going to seek to understand the problem and provide solutions. If you see the purpose of conversation as bonding, you listen, agree that is the best/worst ever, and share relevant anecdotes from your own life. If you see the purpose of conversation as wasting time because the line at the grocers is long and you're bored, you'll comment on other people's shopping with "Baking day, is it?" or "It looks like there's going to be a party at your house! What's the occasion?" or other such pleasantries that neither you nor the person speaking to will bother to remember. If the purpose of the conversation is to make your nanna feel attended to, you'll say "Oh yes, I meant to ask about Elsie at the garden club's recovery" even if you didn't remember Elsie had a hip replacement done recently or that there ever was an Elsie at the garden club.

It sounds like you need more reasons for conversing. You read different books depending what you want out of that "conversation." A how-to book for problem solving, a fluffy romance if you're on a downer and need *someone* to live happily ever after, a classic or a recent publication for cultural literacy, etc.

In what area do you think you are deficient?

They are. Travel to and from work isn't the employer's problem.

You've described your motivation as vanity, and you think vanity is bad. Either you need another motivation or you need to change your feelings about vanity!

It's about bloody time!

Definitely $, lol. I can have enough money. The education habit creates discontent for me. There is always something I wish I knew but I don't yet and may or may not be able to learn.

I used to have dd do craft workshops locally to make presents for all her relatives. If I was going to pay, she was certainly going to put in time and effort. Mum started me off decorating biscuits for all the relatives when I was 3. When we were bigger, it was school art works and whatever money we'd managed to acquire that year.

No, it's not a box subscription. It's sort of behaving that way because I was supporting them on Kickstarter. They're a bit pricey and I wouldn't spend the money (like I said, international postage!) if I was still homeschooling. Since I'm only 'every second weekend schooling' it's good to have something kind of cool like that as an anchor. The exploratory approach will eventually teach you those things, so maybe you want to keep doing that but with one of the DK Eyewitness books as a reference for yourself?

I'm basing our art studies on the 'This is Art Day' figurines, lol. Except for their latest because I think his art is too ugly! (With international shipping, it costs too much to buy figurines of people who make art that gives me the heebie jeebies, lol.) We do our usual thing of read books and watch Youtube clips. 'This is Art Day's' first figurine was Vincent Van Gogh. By good luck, there was an exhibition of his less famous works at the art gallery in the city. We went to see it, then came home and watched the Dr Who episode :laugh: I found a book with glossy photos at a local bookshop and had bought a calendar featuring his work for dd for Christmas the previous year. (Usually she had a free one from the local politician, but she doesn't approve of the current one and refused to have his calendar, lol.) The second figurine was Frida Kahlo. She featured in a few of the books we have around here, so dd read some of her story there. We looked at pictures online and watched some biographical clips on youtube, which told us why she painted what she painted. Number three hasn't arrived in the mail yet. :) I like to know the stories; why they looked at the world their way. Dd mainly seems to want to be taught a reason to care. We approach these things in an exploratory way, rather than a knowledgable way, obviously. :lol: What is it you appreciate about art?

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I guess it depends on the mood of the person hearing it. Are they feeling exuberant or Scroogey? :lol:

At my house, they'd find those dishes sitting on their pillows when they got home and they'd run out of wash cloths because I don't wash anything that isn't in the laundry basket.

If that's how you like to dress, dress that way. Make sure they are nice shirts and bling yourself up a little. Well placed accessories can make all the difference. :)

And when you've got kids who'll be moving out in a year or two, you might find it is time to transition from 'make your bed out of respect for me' to 'are these kids going to call home? It's going to be awfully quiet around here.'