I’ve had a shower with all 4 of mine. The first 3 were church showers, and the last one was a family only shower that my sister threw for me. The boys are 18 mo apart, but they were very different sizes at birth and the seasons didn’t match up, either. Then of course when DD 8 came along, I didn’t have any girl stuff. Actually, I’d gotten rid of all my baby stuff. Of course, I didn’t have anything left when new DD came along. I was very thankful for every gift we received, but I also didn’t mind a bit if someone didn’t get us something, or if they didn’t come to the shower. :)