No, but we are a main floor over a basement that is used as living space so the basement is always cooler. We have a door at the foot of the stairs to keep heat from rising as much too. Does your central air have a fan to circulate air even when it’s not actively cooling? That might help.

I live in an area with a ton of new house construction and *everyone* is putting in granite. I don’t think it’s going out of style. I love my granite. It does darken in places where water stands, so we seal it. It’s as easy as wiping the counters down with sealant and letting it sit a few minutes before wiping it off again. The seal lasts a long time. Quartz is engineered stone and not as impervious to heat or stains as granite is. I’m not sure that’s as big a deal in a bathroom as a kitchen though (unless you leave a hot flat iron hanging out on it). I personally prefer the natural look of granite.

Sure, but why sink to his level in our response since he didn’t put the tampon down? We can find many ways of saying his behavior was sexist and inappropriate without referring to him as male genitalia.

The P-word is p*ssy. Maybe not used where you are, but used in my area, usually by men to put down other men. I’m not offended by your usage. I just don’t see misandry as an answer to misogyny. I think the goal should be mutual respect on both sides.

Ok, so. . . if we’re going to talk about misogyny, can we refrain from using either type of genitalia for slinging insults? How is this any better than the p-word or the c-word?

Sexist

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Same! Go baby go!

Ugh my daughter had a similar assignment. I’d be tempted to go total smart-a$$ and make it all about his agony in conquering this assignment. But not every teacher would respond well to that 😄

I do too to some extent, but at least I can mentally prepare myself that I'm going to be somewhere on the spectrum between Annoyed and Outraged if I open and read, ha ha. I use the ignore function liberally.

I think you need to quit responding. I know it feels unkind, but I suspect she might be one who will exploit any little chink in the armor. She’s already trying to get info out of you that they don’t want her to have. She’s using you. Don’t let her.

((Hugs)) I know from experience how hard it is to observe/listen and not absorb it all like a sponge. It’s hard to shake off. Don’t forget to take care of you, too. 💙

Awesome!

I’m so sorry. Comfort and peace to you and your family.

I wondered if SIL would pop up while your DH was recovering. She really is beyond the pale bothering him with this.

I’m sorry 😕

You really can’t say anything else, as experience has shown. It sounds like she wants a magic fix that doesn’t exist. She’s got to make some hard choices; does she continue on or does she make some changes? I would turn it back to her: “Gee it sounds like you’re really struggling. What do you think would help?” “What do you plan to do about that?”, without suggesting concrete ways for her to balk at.

My DH routinely put clear packing tape over the speaker of toys like that. It really cut the noise down and a lot of times the kids didn’t even notice it was there. I swear some of those toys were loud enough to be hazardous to their hearing.

I think if you respond, you’ll be in more turmoil waiting to see what her reaction will be. Give yourself space to process and decide what you really want to do, whether that’s ignore or send that picture or call her up and scream until you lose your voice. I’m so sorry. You deserve better.

My college kid just did his taxes and claimed tuition and educational expenses that we paid for. Now he gets to learn how to file an amendment 😬

Aww congrats. Maybe your username will take on additional meaning 😊. I don’t have any firsthand experience, but I hope everything goes smoothly.

One by One by Ruth Ware is set in the French Alps (not sure if your DD is reading these; I’ll just note the *liberal* use of the F-bomb though).

Oh that one was so gross. I wish I hadn’t finished it.

Ugh that one was painful. I stuck it out to the end in hopes of some kind of happy ending and . . . nope. On the flip side I got a view of the ugly underbelly of some CA history. I grew up there and I don’t remember being taught any of that in school. In fact there was a museum near my house that (among other things) celebrated “Okies” and crop pickers, and there was zero mention of their abuse by state and local officials.