I'm in the group who uses correct grammar.

I knew this was a possibility, but didn't think it would happen. The woman who has been awful to me for the last year was promoted two steps up without interview. So, now she's my boss. I haven't been able to sleep. I wrote an essay on why I'm passionate about what I do. When I started it was just to remind myself why I like this work. I finished it and surprised myself by how important I feel it is. Doing that helped. I may not like my situation, but I like the mission I have. I just need to remind myself when I'm down. Now I will wait for the two positions at other locations that are supposed to be advertised to be announced. Perhaps my middle of the night writing will help with that too. I think sometimes I come off as sterile--I'm very logic oriented. Maybe now that I've formed a mission for my direction, I'll think clearer and present better. If I don't get a better position, I may be able to transfer to a different site. And today is my day off so when the sun comes up I'm going to visit another organization in the same field to do some networking. I still can't believe this though. Within our organization there are nine people in the job she skipped over who were wanting to be considered for that position. I will probably hear how angry they are in the next few days. She was not hired for that level job two months ago when she did interview, so it seems odd that she'd just be given something higher up. Keep moving forward...

Yay!!!

She's going to do great!

Totally awesome!!!

No question, this is a terrible time to have to fire a coach. It's likely going to be hard for all the athletes at the gym. I would not assume the gym was acting on "just poor judgement". They are not required to disclose all facts. The precipitating event could have been worse than described to you. Keep in mind you liked the coach so you are evaluating the facts given against your bias in his favor. Additionally, there could have been multiple "poor judgement" events and this was just the final in which the gym had to decide they couldn't tolerate more--ultimately they are required to protect the athletes not give the coach chances to correct his behavior. I'm sure you are doing this, try to be positive with your DS so that whatever practice time he has can be useful. Your DS won't benefit from hearing you agree the gym is unfair. If you feel that way, save any opinion you share for after you leave. It stinks. Money, time, juggling family needs.

Elimination diet, we added some other stuff in addition to dairy and gluten, resulted in reduction of wetting. Diet brought wetting down from daily to about 2-3 times a week. Chiropractic also helped, but I see your post suggests it was not affective for your child. We did the elimination diet at age 7 or 8 and then added chiropractic a year or so later. He was down to once a week at 12 and then stopped.

I hope it goes well! Clearly they are looking to save money, even if the meeting goes well your dh needs to get looking elsewhere.

Look for ways to improve your skills with office computer applications. Meanwhile look at the variety of positions for volunteers in local government. A community center position where you help check people in and direct them to what they need can also have you in place to learn a few more skills specific to the facility. That experience plus the office tech skills and the references you get from volunteering puts you in a good position with an application when something opens at the facility or when the volunteer coordinator hears of something else related within the system. You could the same at the library or as a volunteer in the main administrative building.

What the heck. Why do you think the only thing missed is bed hopping and heart break? You've mentioned the importance of being in a sorority in the past, but then I don't think you've ever described your sorority sisters as people good to be around. Or maybe you were so judgemental they never got to know you or you them. It's great you met a great man and knew it was a good thing. However, being single in your twenties is not a bad thing. Getting the tough beginnings of a career out of the way, perhaps save a lot, travel. Knowing and experiencing you being a fully independent adult can be a very good thing. Marrying young and marrying later can both be successful. No reason to be judgemental of people who don't do it one way or another.

My brother got married a few weeks shy of 20. His wife was recently 19. My aunt gave them some beautiful crystal while telling my parents that if the marriage did not last she wanted the crystal back. My brother has been married 35 years. He has 2 grad degrees. My sil has one grad degree. My brother has a very successful business. And they've raised a couple of great daughters. My aunt is still a rude jerk. I think your approach will help the couple be successful. If you aren't supportive you risk causing long term harm to your relationship with your DD and future son in law.

My parents got married on new year's Eve 1959 because it was a three day weekend. I got married on a different 3 day weekend.

Dh decided cell phones were a rip-off. He did tons of research and figured out the best way to get decent phobes from eBay and get decent not contract plans for everyone. Then he didn't like our land line. We now have a phone in the house with our same phone number and extensions in various rooms as we previously had. However it is really an additional line on our cellular plan. For the house and 4 cell phones he has cut out approximately $150 in monthly costs. He also attacked our TV costs. We used to package internet and TV. We dropped cable TV. The cable company in makes it sound like cable and internet must be packaged to save. However, getting internet only and adding Netflix and Hulu nets us over $100 saved from before. If your dh doesn't like grocery budget, then he needs to be part of the solution. My dh started doing grocery shopping when I work on weekends. He shops 3 stores and knows which store has the best prices on certain items. In the op situation, we would (and have) made major cuts in the gift and clothing budgets.

I need to do this.

finally land a full time job (and drop back from 4 part time positions). For anyone who remembers my last posts on job topics, My boss got promoted. The woman who has been terrible to me in consideration for his job (it's not clear why she's eligible. it would be skipping a step in promotions. Right now she and I are at the same level). My no longer boss moved out of our site to headquarters. In leaving he told me he requested a couple positions they were planning to fill quickly with people from interviews in the last couple of months be left open and readvertised. And he told me what I needed to do to interview better. So, I may have an opportunity to apply for something again soon. Oh and I really need to develop a new fitness routine with weight training. I know I feel better when I do this. I've been inconsistent for a while.

Just got home. Thanks. Glad I went.

I've been increasing my hours over the last few years. As I've increased work dh has stepped up what he does at home. I say this because some of you have said you were hesitant to add work or add hours because you feel stretched. When I'm working, dh is grocery shopping, making dinner or doing other stuff that keeps us going. Don't think you have to.kerp doing all the home stuff if you are picking up work to help the family Budget.

A few years back I had these two boys multiple times over a few seasons in my swimming classes. I got to know the dad and mom a little bit. The boys are about 3 years apart in age. They also attended the same daycamp for two weeks one summer with my ds. They were very nice to ds. My ds has intellectual disabilities so this is a big deal. It was just a regular community program, not something advertised as "inclusive." So that's my connection to the family. I haven't seen them in a couple years. I changed jobs so I don't know if they continued swimming--the older one would have aged out by now. However, I know quite a few people who know them. During the time I regularly saw them the mom had cancer and then had a recurrence. I since heard her cancer was back again last year. She died 12/23. The funeral is this morning. I'm thinking about going to the funeral. Is this weird? They are a really nice family. I always enjoyed those kids. Once I ran into the mom in the store and she told me her kids didn't get into my class. This was just when her second round of cancer started. I went into work saw how long the wait list was a requested my class be over enrolled to the point where her boys would get in. She was happy, but I was too because I liked having them in class. Anyway, it's been awhile since I've seen them. Should I go?

I have not found a cap that doesn't leak that doesn't mean that wearing it is not helping. having a cap on still protects hair. You do not want the chlorinated water streaming through your hair for the entire time you swim. 1. Wet hair before you swim. Hair is porous. You want it to absorb the tap water before exposing to pool water. 2. Put some conditioner on the wet hair. Again, this is another bearier to the chlorinated water. Generally wearing anything (conditioner, lotion, sweat, dirt) is discouraged, which is why you are asked to shower before entering the water, but if your pool doesn't have rules they enforce regarding conditioner, then put it on. The issue the more dirt and oils bathers bring in the faster a pool filter is clogged. Keep in mind a filter with some dirt and oils works better than a filter that's perfectly clean. It's a balance that pool operators work on. 3. Wear a cap over wet, conditioned hair. 4. After swimming rinse hair. If you feel you are just removing conditioner then maybe rinsing is all you need. Otherwise, wash and condition. Aubrey organics makes a good sport and swim shampoo. Another is ultra swim. Sally beauty supply sells another brand of swim shampoo. These are design to help remove chlorine. Follow with a conditioner designer to deal with your texture hair, that should help with the possibility of overwashing drying your hair out.

I think it's interesting to see opinions of people who are not that close to having DC making decisions about college. Everything is different where you are eye to eye with a situation. Having some fluidity on handling the variety of circumstances DC throw at you is important. All kinds of things could happen. I was a much better parent before I had kids.

No way. I'd never believe that BS claim.

I would not invest in a spin bike until you've tried it out a few times. Some people really like them. But some people do not. You won't know until you do it for the full length of a workout. A lot of gyms will sell their spin bikes after a period of time and get a whole new set. I know a few people who have gotten at home bikes this way

For the second time I took two of my kids on an overnight trip and left dh with young adult 2e ds. I do my best to make it a fun adventure. It was fun. DD commented at dinner about why we do this last night. I agreed it was a bummer, but we could still enjoy what we were doing. And we did have fun. Anyway, it's not a family holiday as seen on TV, but this approach is working for us. I'm working on ideas for a nearby overnight trip next year.

OP, I hope you find a way to gracefully back away from doing this again. The woman in charge is too much of a control freak.

I'm going to work early. We did a nice dinner today and then had friends over for Festivus activities so we've gotten started on holiday stuff.