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  1. If you are looking at mid March I'd consider Sanibel.
  2. OK this is bad. I mean, I've been wanting this available, but I've learned that when a series is available I compulsively watch the whole thing in order. It would be ridiculous to watch 15 seasons of any show they way I do this.
  3. Cookie sales used to start in early January, but not the first. I had to make sure DD was out the first Saturday after it started, because there was a family that drove their daughter to our neighborhood because it was easier to make sales with less walking in a townhouse neighborhood. (I thought that was obnoxious, since there were three scouts that lived here trying to sell already). I thought sales were moved back so people could hit up family over the holidays.
  4. I've suggested prescription goggles from swimoutlet to adults in my classes and they've reported back good reviews.
  5. This screening was done on my oldest 20years ago in the pediatricians office. The NP who did the check was quite alarmed and stated our journey of raising a 2E kid. I don't remember doing this with DD, but everything she did fell in the typical or just above typical range. And at that age she was having siezures and her younger brother had multiple health issues, so any unremarkable testing would not have gone into my memory.
  6. I'd send dh, with instructions to say some kids are sick and vomiting. (Usually people who think you should still do stuff sick back off at the mention of vomit.)
  7. I think some people naturally have negative personalities. And it takes time to learn you can't tell everyone around you life is bad and parents are the source of all unfairness. As hard as it is, try to let it roll off you and move on.
  8. At 7 my oldest was required 2 sports fall, winter, spring. One was swimming. The other was his choice. He had to finish the season and then try something new if he didn't like it. In summer he did swim team daily. My oldest had motor skill problems. Going to many different physical activities was cheaper than physical therapy. These activities were also a little bit social and we did work on social stuff a lot. Left to his own devices he would have stayed home and played Legos by himself.
  9. Yup. Some of the stuff on this thread really hammers home why it is hard to find people to lead activities.
  10. my college dd is an officer in a club. I asked her how they communicate. They use -public facebook page (their club is sponsored by the university, but open to the public to join) -discord -app (I forget which one) The officers have a group text for just the officers. I've been involved in groups that used only one form of communication. It's fine. I disagree in calling that poor leadership. In clubs run by volunteers, if you want more than one form of communication I think you need to take on the responsibility and manage the solution.
  11. Any weight discussion is probably a bad idea. My within normal weight range DD lost weight this fall, a noticeable amount for the short time of a semester. She is definitely happy at school and involved with people and activities as much as an introvert can be. If this were last year I would gave suspected a mental health component. I talked to her about it because she is off campus now. She does have small meal plan so she can eat with friends for social purposes. The problem seems to be her cooking repetiore is limited ( steamed veg and, rice and salad, no protien, no fats) she's overly concerned about grocery costs. Anyway I tried to talk to her and she was upset at me for bringing up losing weight. At home she's eaten a lot, so I'm not worried about eating disorder. I'm hoping we've modeled how to fuel herself better in the last few weeks.
  12. OK, I see where the leader didn't even agree to provide alternative communication to the OP. "Good to know" is not agreement to anything. It's more of a " I've got a lot going on and figuring out this extra thing is not priority right now. (And maybe I will remember to figure it out later)"
  13. I can't imagine a leader in the middle of tenure as leader changing the communication method that is working. That said, if one decided they were against FB and wanted out, I would expect them to request someone to step up and volunteer to manage the group communication for her. She could then give info to the communication coordinator. The communication coordinator could then be the person to find out the best universal method to contact everyone. The best universal method may still be FB. I would be surprised if a leader would decide to complicate the group communication though.
  14. Again if you've never made an accommodation you may not know you actually can't do it consistently or at all. At the point of being asked the leader, who is already volunteering to manage a lot of stuff for the group and has a life beyond the group, doesn't actually know that one more thing on her to do list is too much. So, she says yes she will do it. However, IME this kind of agreeing to the EXTRA thing is really a polite "I'll try." Honestly, "I'll try" is all we can expect. Now, the OP knows it was too much to ask. Remember the leader is a volunteer. The leader has more to keep track of than one family. The leader has her own family to take care of, other volunteer work and possibly a job.
  15. I don't think it's fair to say that the OP should have been told immediately that not having FB and needing the group to communicate in an alternative for to her was a problem. The leader of the group may not have known adding on that extra step was going to difficult for her to remember on top of all the other crap in running the group. At the point of the request the leader had not had to take an extra step so she really did not know. OP I think you have to accept this is the way this club communicates. If your DS is going to miss too much because of it, he should step down as an officer. Being the leader of a group, even a small one is hard. Sometimes leading smaller groups is harder because every member wants a say in how things are run without taking responsibility for actually running it. When I managed a swim team with 100 kids, we'd just announce "team is doing X on Y" and no one questioned it. When I did a 8 person science class/activty for 6-8 year olds everyone was always chiming in about every detail and it really was hard to actually provide the activity.
  16. Wow. I've never paid for a background check. I've been finger printed a few times in the last decade.
  17. I agree she wasn't realistic. She probably is unrealistic about her generally crappy season this year. My statements are in general, not specifically to Wagner, but they do apply. The athlete's behavior has to be weighed against his actually skill by the selection committee. If the athlete has the skill to be truly competitive, then the committee needs to evaluate how bad the behavior is. Say Wagner had an amazing season. Say her performance in all parts of the competition were better than she posted, but three other women still scored higher. At that point the discussion would be concern about someone who has been performing better in international competition recently. The person who is most recently consistent internationally is likely the best skilled and it would take away from the competition part of the Olympics to not have that person compete. Wagner's behavior should not come into play for team consideration because she never displayed she was actually better skilled this season. If she actually had displayed better skill, then there would be a quandary for the selection committee. (How bad is the behavior? Will the behavior affect other team mates? Etc)
  18. I get that. I think it really is subjective to how bad it is perceived. We've had people who were known not to behave well selected. It is a competition after all. If I'm watching a competition I want to see the people who really are the best skilled compete. If the best skilled person is left out because he's a doofus, it really ruins the excitement of the competition itself. And it devalues the performances of this who do win, because there will always be the cloud of X wasn't there so we'll never know if the winner really was the best skilled. That's why it's a balance. You don't want whiney bad sports on the team, but you do want to win and have a competition that reflects the true top level athletes.
  19. Well her skating was not as good as the others. Additionally, her record this season is subpar. Tantrum or not, she should never have been in consideration. If they were even considering her for the team, something is terribly wrong with the selection process. I thought the comments about her behavior were related to her behavior in Kiss and cry. I actually didn't see she had interviews and what she said (I went to bed due to early work schedule) If she had a tantrum later I did not see it and my comments do not reflect that. I actually don't think general temper tantrums should affect team selection (for more extreme behavior, there may be consideration for whether it affects the training and performance of team mates or if it has an affect on the team overall) Selection should be 1. Performance at competition 2. Consistency of performance over the current season 3. Consistency of performance of other competitors over the current season. (IOW if her performance had been better and still scored just outside of medals AND she had had significantly better performances at every competition all season AND someone who did place higher had had very inconsistent performances all season, then maybe considering her for the team would be appropriate. That is not what happened.) The punishment for general tantrums (whining "I am owed more") is loss of sponsorships. That is huge in skating since that is the main way to get paid. The additional cost is potential work commenting for news organizations on future competitions. Any 26 year old who doesn't understand this is really stupid. At that age she is unlikely to compete well again so that how her career is remembered, thus reducing her chance to earn anything from her career. Someone who is younger may be able to roar back in later competitions and have relevant opportunities to show she's learned sportsmanship to redeem herself to the public.
  20. I'm sorry is more generic. It's used to show empathy ("I'm sorry, your friend died") and to respond to guilt (I'm sorry I dropped the vase)
  21. I thought the reaction was more of a recognition that score would not be high enough to place. It didn't seem like she thought it was unfair, but more a general disappointment for herself. I do think she should have retired. I never liked her style in the first place.
  22. If you choose WDW, you can take a couple days with a rental car and drive to a nice beach to get in some ocean time. If you are limited to certain times of year for scheduling, I'd study crowd calendars before choosing between WDW or cruise. Disnry has vacation pay packages where you do both WDW and cruise.
  23. swimoutlet has a section for D-cup an up. Here is a one piece listed there: https://www.swimoutlet.com/p/penbrooke-krinkle-active-back-chlorine-resistant-one-piece-swimsuit-(d-cup)-45771/?color=9325 It's sort of odd that many of the models in this section are obviously far from well endowed so it's hard to judge from the pictures. However, some of the reviews are pretty specific.
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