The same could be said of anything. My dd plays homeschool basketball. This isn't super competitive like AAU or many of the big high schools but I still spend more money than I would like and drive 2-4 hours most weekends for her games. It is her peer group and she needs the social connection. I've also spent tons of time on Boy Scouts, theater and ballet. The truth is, for us, that without these activities my kids would have few friend/peer opportunities. We live in a very small town where not attending school is a social kiss of death. Our church only has a very few youth age kids (7 or 8?) and they only want to talk about school stuff that excludes my kids. Overall I'd rather spend time on my interests but I don't want my kids sitting bored and lonely around the house.