I was thinking about posting something similar about my son. He grew up doing chores and having to earn money for extras. We have tried to bless him with gifts and surprises, but nothing anyone would think was overboard. I guess it is normal for some kids to be this way, but I just don't think like he does, always trying to avoid paying for anything he can and avoiding work. I try to remember that my husband was rather spoiled with few chores and plenty of money handed to him, but is now a wonderful, giving husband.
I heard SWB speak this weekend about the "odd one out" teen and I really think that applies to any child that thinks in radically different way than we do. My biggest take away was that these kids just need more time to get to the point of maturity. We expect them to absorb our values by a certain age, but some simply don't. They need our love and patience more than anything. And that isn't easy when an adult sized person is expecting others to serve him as if he is 12.