Janeway Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 And he gets angry when I try to tell him-when he hears me. Also, he keeps using loud things like this horrid carpet cleaner, with no ear plugs in. And me telling him that I think he is having a problem makes him angry. Also, he is having a sight problem but has bad habits. He actually only watches TV in the dark and he works on the computer for a living, but leaves the lights off when he works. He gets angry when I bring this stuff up. I feel like he will be deaf and blind by 50 and he doesn't even care. Anything I can do to get through to him? The other day when trying to buy tickets, he said he couldn't see the map of the theater. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Sometimes adults have to find things out for themselves. they get upset if someone points out obvious things to them. On a side note, my grandmother age 88 watches TV in the dark and always has. She only has glasses for reading. She claims it is better for the eyes to watch TV in the dark. It hasn't negatively affected here. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 My grandparents watched TV in the dark and were not blind. The hearing thing would drive me nuts, but I think that pointing out the obvious to some people does make them really really stubborn about figuring things out for themselves. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Offer to make him appointments to get hearing and vision checked. He can prove you wrong that way! ;) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Oh, yes. Apparently all 6 of us mumble, which is why he can't hear us. :glare: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amo_mea_filiis. Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 Oh, yes. Apparently all 6 of us mumble, which is why he can't hear us. :glare: I agree. Everyone else DOES mumble! 😉 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I don't know if watching TV in the dark is actually a problem. Unless you have good data on that, I'd drop that from the conversation. If failing hearing is getting in his way, then he will seek help for it. I would lay off the subject and wait for him to come up with the idea on his own. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I would say this is common in adults nearing or in middle age. I guess it's hard to admit we're on the way to being older adults whose bodies just aren't as young as we would like to believe. Perhaps admitting that sight and hearing are impaired means he's getting old and he's not ready for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 I've learned over the years that you can't tell some men anything. It has to be their own idea. My dh can't hear well either. Our TV is usually blaring loud enough for the neighbors to hear :glare: He did, however, finally break down and get glasses. You'll laugh at his stubbornness though. He kept putting off reading glasses. Then he had to go on a business trip and realized that he couldn't see to read his book for the plane. So, *in the airport* he bought a pair of reading glasses. He sent me a pic. They were ladies' glasses. With rhinestones. Apparently he was oblivious to what the glasses actually looked like. :lol: :lol: :lol: He finally relented when he got home to go to the eye doctor. (after we teased him mercilessly about the glasses he had to have stolen off of some grandma) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 (edited) nm Edited October 27, 2016 by 1' n'ye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethben Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 (edited) My dad had hearing issues probably starting in his 50s due to working for 30+ years around heavy machinery never using ear plugs. He never got hearing aids even though he clearly needed them. I have no idea why he refused to wear hearing aids, but as a kid (he was an older dad), it affected our relationship because he couldn't hear me half the time and it just wasn't worth it to me to have to talk so loud that he could hear me. Maybe come at it from a "do you want a relationship with other people?" angle. Edited October 18, 2016 by bethben Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted October 18, 2016 Share Posted October 18, 2016 And he gets angry when I try to tell him-when he hears me. Also, he keeps using loud things like this horrid carpet cleaner, with no ear plugs in. And me telling him that I think he is having a problem makes him angry. Also, he is having a sight problem but has bad habits. He actually only watches TV in the dark and he works on the computer for a living, but leaves the lights off when he works. He gets angry when I bring this stuff up. I feel like he will be deaf and blind by 50 and he doesn't even care. Anything I can do to get through to him? The other day when trying to buy tickets, he said he couldn't see the map of the theater. My husband was having some issues and we went to the ENT. Turns out he just forms significant plugs of wax in the last few years. The ENT pops them out and he is good again for another year. His telltale sign was that he was also having tinnitus. It was the pressure of the wax. So could it be something simpler? I'd check that first. About the sight, the man needs better glasses or bifocals. That can be pretty dangerous if he is out driving and needs to see something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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