Prairie~Phlox Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 We are good friends with our next door neighbor & for about a year have been doing a "family" dinner on Sundays with them. Recently she became good friends with a new family to our neighborhood & started to include them, not a huge deal, but did not even consult with me about it. Even more recently they added another next door neighbor that lives next to the new family. We don't have young children, but the two new families do. We also have several food sensitivities & have worked around them. It just seems such chaos & I'm torn what to do & don't want to be the negative Nelly about things, all families seem nice, it's just not my thing when I's rather have a nice quiet Sunday evening. Wwyd? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 If you are not enjoying yourself be honest with your neighbor. Tell her the weekly get together is too much with all the families and your food sensitivities and you need to cut back on your participation. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomeontheprairie Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 If you are not enjoying yourself be honest with your neighbor. Tell her the weekly get together is too much with all the families and your food sensitivities and you need to cut back on your participation. I agree. If you will miss the time with them individually you could suggest an alternative. Maybe get together on a Friday evening once a month? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nd293 Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 I'd feel the way you do. Extra families would be too much for me. I like the idea of suggesting an alternate get together less often. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 I might bow out vaguely a time or two first and just see how things go. Maybe that season is over and New things await you! Or maybe those families with littles will start to flake, or maybe you will decide that it is worth it to attend once a month, or, who knows? If asked, I would admit my concerns, but if not I would wait and see what happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted September 18, 2016 Share Posted September 18, 2016 Will your kids miss these dinners? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairie~Phlox Posted September 19, 2016 Author Share Posted September 19, 2016 Will your kids miss these dinners?No, they are 15-18 & these kids are 3-10 & there are at least 5 & 1 family has her sister living with her with more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 I miss having "living life together" neighbors. I think I am literally jealous of your "problem"! I hope something works out! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairie~Phlox Posted September 19, 2016 Author Share Posted September 19, 2016 I miss having "living life together" neighbors. I think I am literally jealous of your "problem"! I hope something works out! I know right! I hate wining about this, part of me is like suck it up, get to know more people....My neighbor was stressed & in a bad mood though, she usually is always complaining, so I just don't always enjoy the atmosphere. It is nice not having to cook a main dish every week, but then I feel I need to make gf daughter something anyway. We've not had it at anyone else's house except our neighbor, the other 2 families live a road over in our neighborhood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momacacia Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 What about doing it just once or twice a month? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prairie~Phlox Posted September 19, 2016 Author Share Posted September 19, 2016 So I texted my neighbor and told her this morning, funny thing is, she felt the same way and didn't want to take away from our time together and so she's going to tell the other families that they can do something once a month. Praise that this worked out the way it did. 25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 So I texted my neighbor and told her this morning, funny thing is, she felt the same way and didn't want to take away from our time together and so she's going to tell the other families that they can do something once a month. Praise that this worked out the way it did.Just reading this, but that's a great ending! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 Ha, that's funny! Glad it resolved itself like that. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted September 19, 2016 Share Posted September 19, 2016 We used to go on a camping trip with another family every summer. One summer other family invited several other families without even discussing it with us. I'm another one who prefers smaller groups and gets overwhelmed by large groups. Friend is a "more the merrier" type, and it did not even occur to her it would be an issue. It's okay to be different types, just communicate and bow out if your friends prefer more people. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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