NotSoObvious Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Sometimes I wonder if all the work that goes into trying to make the right choices for my kids is worth it. I see other parents making different decisions that make their lives easier (in the short term, at least) and wonder, in the end, is it really going to matter? Good people come out of all sorts of homes, right? Sigh. I'm just tired. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nd293 Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I know what you mean... I have a secret desire to raise two children entirely differently and answer once or for all the 'does it make a difference' question/s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Oh i hear you! I HEAR you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotSoObvious Posted March 2, 2013 Author Share Posted March 2, 2013 Oh I'm glad you understand. After I posted this I got worried that some would be offended, thinking I'm judging others' parenting choices. That's not it at all. Quite the opposite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I totally get what you're saying....I seem to always take the road less traveled and much harder. Hang in there! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara in AZ Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 I have these thoughts, too, sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 No advice, just :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted March 2, 2013 Share Posted March 2, 2013 Yep, I get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I really do get it. Hugs to you...your not alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitestavern Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Oh i hear you! I HEAR you! :iagree: I think about this a lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Ah, yes, I know this feeling well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I understand, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I hear ya. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomsintheGarden Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I absolutely get what you are saying. I've felt that way many times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 ITU! Constantly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 Totally hear you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 I totally get what you're saying. From my (albeit limited) experience, while good people come from all sorts of homes, teaching kids - explicitly or by example - that the easy way is preferable to the conscientious way just results in a new generation of adults looking for the easiest way, regardless of result or impact. Of course, sometimes "quick and dirty" is the appropriate way, but I want my kids to grow up in the habit of vetting the options to decide on what is the right way for the situation. Know what I mean? (And I remind myself of that often because you're right: it can be very tiring.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiramisu Posted March 3, 2013 Share Posted March 3, 2013 :grouphug: I've very tired, too. It doesn't help that I'm physically tired. Though I've been doing it for years now, with some success, I still question if I have the physical and emotional stamina to do it well...and what for? if kids in school seem to be turning out just fine. It probably doesn't help that I have one in ps who is getting a good education. The other issue is money. We need more, period. There's nothing more to cut back on. I should really be trying to find a job, but I hate to give up this lifestyle. I'm trying to remember why we started hsing and what we've accomplished that we wouldn't have without hsing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotSoObvious Posted March 3, 2013 Author Share Posted March 3, 2013 I'm not convinced their lives are easier though. For example, I don't have to live my life around other people's schedules. I don't have to be upset about the quality of education my children are receiving. I don't have to drag my kids out of bed at the crack of dawn and drive them to school. I don't have to do homework with them for the only wee bit of time I'd get with them if they were in school. I don't have to shlep down to the school because one of my kids did some minor kid thing and be treated like he'll surely turn into a criminal. I'm not saying that what we do doesn't have it's share of challenges, but I'll take many of them any day over the alternative. Yes, I have to remind myself of this frequently. School made our lives more difficult (I have a dd with sn). I guess it's not so much hsing vs psing, but stressing/researching/trying over...well, not. I have a lot of mom friends who just do what works best for them and don't stress about it they just let it go. It's like they just function within the system- school, clothes, food, pop culture, life in general- and they don't think a whole lot about doing anything different, because it seems to work for them. I don't know. Maybe sometimes I just wish we were "in the box" people. We aren't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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