Truscifi Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Example: He has been slow and piddly about his school work all day. It is 4pm and he is just now finishing his academics. He has not even started on his afternoon chores. We are supposed to leave at 5 for this evening's activities (library, where he takes reading quizzes, and karate - so not really play activities). On a good day when he is focused, he is done between 1 and 2pm. He has already lost his free time by wasting so much time during school, and now he is wasting his time to review his books for his quizzes. What is really frustrating me is that I give him reminders and prompts, and he ignores them. Like "Ds, finish that worksheet, here is a pencil." "I need to get this pencil, it is stuck." "Leave that one there, and finish the worksheet. "But I need this one." "STOP what you are doing and finish the worksheet!" At which point I am physically standing next to him to get him to actually stop. He just keeps going, completely ignoring what I say. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 I'd skip the library and karate and stay right there til he got the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
antsam Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Could be a full moon... You've just described (to a T!) my day with my 9 year old DS!! Jodie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OK Family Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Could be a full moon... You've just described (to a T!) my day with my 9 year old DS!! Jodie Oh my... Same with my 9 yr old. We are almost done... I went to load some laundry and found him in a homemade fort with his "rifle" on guard! Ugh... At least it's a rainy stay at home in pjs day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Hmmmm. Same type of day here with DS, also 9. Must be something in the air. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Guess what! 8 year old here is still doing school work, I have a bad cold, and I'm threatening to skip her beloved dance dance tonight if something doesn't happen fast. Ready to pull my hair out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted February 25, 2013 Author Share Posted February 25, 2013 Well, at least it's not just us. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It's entirely possible that some children are allergic to February. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Yep. Almost 5:00 here and 10 year old DS is still trudging through math. He's getting over a cold and doesn't feel 100% today, so I know that's part of it, and I lightened his load a bit to adjust. But there's still been a lot of dawdling and procrastinating. Good grief man... finish up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Hi, um, you might actually have my 9yo girl in your house... :glare: It must be the age, right? Sylvia doesn't do this at all though. Please tell me it gets better before they become adults? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 8 yo dd is FINALLY done and does get to attend dance class. Hooray. I need a couple hours off! :bored: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 My 9yo had plenty of time to finish what was left of her math (7 problems!) before lunch. I mean tons of time. I found her with nothing done, making up rap songs for her stuffed animals--like she even knows anything about rap! Then she was hungry. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Critterfixer Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Another pair of sluggish nine year old boys here today too. Must be a bug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I stay pretty close to my 7 and 10 yo's when they school. DId you give him a time as a deadline? Have you already set consequences if he isn't done by x time? If you haven't yet, then give him a deadline (you must be done school by 3 and chores by 4) and come up with a consequence for missing the deadline. I've had to just recently crack down on this myself, and the deadline and consequence is keeping things under control. Our consequence is reduced game time. I won't take it all away. The consequences start small so that I can add to them. If they start off too big, then I have no leverage if I need more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I gave up on February a couple of weeks ago. DS cannot fous for anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 My eleven year-old da does this with English!!!! He is pretty good about math but he can drag English out for hours. Those are the days I have to walk outside and get some fresh air. Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted February 26, 2013 Author Share Posted February 26, 2013 Ds has to be done in time to leave for activities, or no activities. That is a more effective consequence on days he has drama, because that is currently his favorite activity. Also, he doesn't want to disappoint his director by not being there for rehearsal. His chores should really only take 15-20 minutes, so he had plenty of time to finish them as long as he actually focused and got them done. This is something we have been working on. The deliberate disobedience and just flatly ignoring me was what was really making me :cursing: today. Dh was off today and had already observed all this, then ds did the same thing to him! He was supposed to be putting away Legos left out from yesterday. He was actually putting them together instead. Dh prompted him to put them away, not play, and without stopping what he was doing he said "I am." Dh gave him a second prompt, specifically saying "Stop putting them together and just put them away" and he - again without stopping what he was doing - said "No, that's not how I do it." And with a snotty attitude too! Dh has less patience than I do and believes more in corporal punishment. Ds got a spanking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hypatia. Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Ah yes, that was my 8 year old today first! Instead of getting ready to start WWE today, he and his sisters were making letters on the floor with their bodies. He kept telling me he was waiting for the baby to get done nursing so we could start. Nice try, son, but he nurses all. day. long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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