Dmmetler Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 DD turns 8 in about 2 weeks-and honestly, it feels more like she's turning...oh...3 maybe? Everything, and I mean everything, is getting met with tears and frustration. Today I lost it and ended up snapping at her because she was supposed to be doing an online assignment (which took her literally 5 minutes once she actually stopped whining and did it) and couldn't find the "create new comic" button. Which was RIGHT THERE IN PLAIN SIGHT. You mean to tell me my theoretically reading on a high school level child couldn't read "create new comic"? Or couldn't figure out that you're supposed to...oh...CLICK THE BUTTON??!!!??? It's stuff like that constantly. Yesterday it was "There's no meat to make a sandwich". Uh...try about two different kinds, one shelf below where she was looking. Not even behind things. Fully visible. I know there's a lot of outside stress coming up and going on. A lot of it good stress, in that it's things like having family come in for Thanksgiving, her birthday party, and so on, but still stress, so I'm really trying to let school slide and mostly just let her do what's required for outside classes where I don't have full control over the agenda, and many of them will be stopping as we get closer to Christmas (and all will take a break Thanksgiving week). I'm willing to let her sleep late if she needs the sleep and I'm trying not to sign up for too much extra outside the house stuff. I don't know what else I can do. Sigh.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Island Academy Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 :iagree: Yes. Every child, every year. My girlfriends have noticed this with their children as well. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 My dd becomes a ball of rage around Christmas. She is my child who must know what everyone is talking about, or doing, whether it concerns her or not. She obviously has some control issues. The fact that there will be or are, presents under a tree that she can't see inside of, drives her nuts. She can't take it. And to some degree, she tends to get out of control when anything "exciting" is approaching. Calm, she is not. She is adhd, and highly impulsive too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 YES! We just had a birthday (last Sunday) and in the two weeks leading up to it we had more tantrums than we'd had in a good 6 months, unable to find things, "forgetting" about morning responsibilities, crying, attitude... He seems nicer again this week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ccolopy Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 My DS was like that when he was younger. I don't think he's ever whined as much as he did at his own birthday parties. He'll be 12 next week, but so far, so good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belacqua Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Oh, goodness, yes. My husband and I were just discussing this phenomenon (and noting that it's especially pronounced for odd-numbered birthdays). It manifests much more subtly now that the kid is older, but it's still an angsty time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Any good thing, birthdays, fieldtrips, visits with dad etc are met with days of toddlerlike behaviour for days before with ds14. It is like he is trying to sabotage them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Yes, I even remember my mom saying to me every year, "am I going to have to spank you on your birthday??" That was 40 years ago. And my dd had a massive meltdown on her 5th birthday. "I don't want a birthday!" This is my mellow kid, mind you. Granted, there was a lot going on that day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth in MN Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Yes, every year around her original due date my dd would kind of regress. It was normal according to all the child development books I read, so I went with it. As you're raising a daughter I'm going to point something out. Sitting? Good. It could be hormone fluctuations. Yes, this early. My DD didn't start her menses until she was eleven, but around eight she would get these occasional emotional outbursts and go on a crying jag like she was PMSing. Snuggles, some comfort food and a movie helped her feel better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenC3 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Yep! I have friends who hink I'm crazy, but EVERY year it happens with every kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Age 8 and 9 were the absolute worse for all of my dds. I also noticed it in their friends. Teens are a breeze compared 8s and 9s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Any good thing, birthdays, fieldtrips, visits with dad etc are met with days of toddlerlike behaviour for days before with ds14. It is like he is trying to sabotage them This is my DS, and it was me as well. I had so much stress and expectation around big events. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Yeah, the more excited they get, the more my youngest two act out. Big Jenny is coming home from college (3 hours away) for the long weekend and for the past two days, I've been ready to tear my hair out. Obnoxious, bickering, whining, picking at each other, and just generally tormenting me like a research rat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Yesterday it was "There's no meat to make a sandwich". Uh...try about two different kinds, one shelf below where she was looking. Not even behind things. Fully visible. i love my husband. adore the man. but he does this too, lol. so i feel your pain, not only with my own kids - but with my whole family:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnowWhite Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 When I was a kid, I barely slept for the whole month of December (my birthday is four days before Christmas). I expect I was rather unlivable as a result. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 Yes! And it's in a book! All those Your --- Year Old books by Bates and Ames talk about this. They say it's something to do with brain development cycles, with the half birthday to the birthday being the period of growth and therefore craziness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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