Michelle T Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 I don't know why I keep stewing about this, but it's bothering me a lot. It's long, like so many of my posts! I had my family over last Sunday to celebrate our mom's birthday. I have two older brothers. One is married, with two DD's, 11 year old and 15 year old. My DB and his wife have always been VERY lax about any sort of discipline, and they are kind of lazy people anyway. My nieces are incredibly smart, and basically good girls, but they call the shots in their home. Both girls dress and look WAY older than they are. But on Sunday, my eyes almost fell out of my head. I must say that I am NOT particularly concerned with modest dress, I don't have strict standards of modesty, it's not something I really think about much. But my two nieces were both wearing skirts that were so short they literally could not bend over without their panties showing. These were probably the shortest skirts I've ever seen. They looked like school girl uniforms, plaid pattern. Worn with thigh-high socks, heels, and fitted t-shirts. Plenty of make up, and hair all done up. The first thought that popped into my head was that the girls looked straight out of kiddie porn, like (excuse the crudity, but just no other way to say it) a pedophile's wet dream. I couldn't keep from saying "You would never be allowed out of MY house in skirts like those", which seemed to embarrass them a bit. Later, I said the same thing to my brother. And this is what I keep stewing about. His reply was "Oh, that's just mainstream. They all are like that, so what are you gonna do?" Okay, first of all, I see hundreds of girls leaving the local jr high and high school, and 90% are in jeans and t-shirts, or shorts and t-shirts. Nothing like these outfits. And secondly, who CARES if it's mainstream? What ever happened to dad saying "No daughter of mine is wearing a skirt like that!". I mean, drugs, early sex, and teen pregnancy are fairly mainstream too, so I'm wondering if my brother is perfectly fine with that? Anyway, it was like a switch turned in my head. I realize my brother and SIL are not parents at all, they are just inept. My brother has always been very passive, lazy and self-pitying (he does have good qualities, though!) and I hate to say, he's a sorry excuse for a man. SIL has issues with depression and self-pity, and doesn't have a clue of how to manage the girls. Is this the general level of parenting these days? Do any of you have family members who just let their kids do whatever they want? How do you keep from giving them a piece of your mind? I'm not really that close with DB and SIL, and they are VERY defensive people, so I'm not planning on saying anything more to them about this. I'm just wondering why it is bothering me so much. Michelle T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.