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  1. swelling of lower extremities without shortness of breath could be kidney issues but you mention intestinal issues if you had a large hernia/mass or something preventing adequate circulation in you legs then swelling would be a symptom My concern is the shortness of breath and swelling is almost always a cardiovascular issues. The aorta is in the abdominal region so if your intestinal issues are putting pressure on the aorta this could be leading to the shortness of breath and swelling. I would contact your surgeon most likely they would want to do a cardio work up before surgery if the shortness of breath and swelling is new to them I hope all goes well for you.
  2. I have a facebook with NO friends. I am part of several fitness women health groups. I follow all types of news, local events stuff like that. So I have a big news feed. I use my real name but ZERO other information. I have gotten no friends request. I occasionally will get friend recommendations from my groups. I'm pretty much anonymous as I want to be. I guess I could of used a fake name LOL I had a real facebook with friends and didn't like the brag, gossip, and general high school "look how great my life is or I'm so passive aggressively begging you to pay attendtion to me and tell me how pretty I am so I deactivated it years ago. But realized I needed facebook for finding out events and stuff cause everyone used the facebook cult and forgot how to call or email LOL
  3. It depends on the relationship. 45 min is nothing to rural folks I drive that one way to work. I take care of my mom but we are not best friends and have nothing in common. I go see her once a month and she is 45 min away. She actually lives close to my work. She is a extrovert, hyper girly and i'm introvert, nerdy, remodels houses. Yeah guy stuff LOL. She has never done anything masculine kwim. . I hate everything she likes LOL. She is more like my sister. My sister lives 15 min from her but I actually see mom more than her. My sister and her are alike except sister is selfish narcissistic b8tch where mom likes to help people. . So its all about the relationship not the miles.
  4. I'm not sure how young you are but usually peoples income and lifestyle move up as they age. I know the recession and other stuff can change that but normally we get more finically stable as we age. In my 20's I'm sure I could relate to you more but a rural version of poor. I got married at 20. We grew our own vegetable, my dh hunted deer and fished for our meats. We lived in a trailer. I didn't go ta movie, go on vacation, go out to eat. I had to count quarters just to get a McDonald 6 nugget meal. all our clothes came from a thrift store or I made stuff from Walmart fabric. We had tough times. I also was working full time and going to college at night. I had 2 children, my dh was diagnosed with cancer when 2nd one was 6 week old. My dh is also bipolar so pretty much I was caring the family. He was not stable. This was my life for around 10 years. Then from 2001-05 everything started falling in place we lived nice, vacation estc. but that was on 2 good incomes. I then decided to homeschool, we had a job transfer, the recession hit. We went back to counting pennies but not as tight as the early years. Now both of my kids are in their 20's. My dh got a big promotion, been mentally stable for over a decade, we paid of our mortgage, we have saving, 401k. We are living comfortably enough I don't' check my account everyday to see if I can buy something. I uses to juggle how to pay bills, and what got paid late. So I understand other struggles and how you may be living at this point. I'm also sure that some people my age are struggling do to illness, job loss. Life is about solid choices, planning but also just plain luck. I'm into planning for retirement social program to be gone. We are saving incase all the social security money we paid in is burned up when we retire SO actually like a lot of people the retirement years take them back to poverty levels. I'm hoping that's not us. My parents never did get out of poverty. My mom has actually living nicer now at 70 than at any point in her life. My dad got a VA settlement after he died which gave mom a small nest egg. So I get how this board and Facebook and everything can be discouraging. we never have the full story. My dh was never one to give me gifts, flower.etc I use to get so depressed when this board would have a What did you get thread? Its sucks. I just turned 48. We never planned to help our sons with college. But since the past few years things have gotten really good. We are helping them with tuition. We never had the college saving funds and stuff you hear about on this board. So just take online medium with a grain of salt. I've been on this board for since 04. I use to be intimidated by the group that were grammar police, they sounded all academic, upper class, I'm seriously they were a few that were all about proper grammar on a forum. They call out how they didn't like this or that on a post I didn't' think I was high class enough to post or smart enough to post so I lurked for about 4 years. Then after the 08 change I started posting. I remember it took me awhile to get the flow. It was Catwomen that was encouraging. I cant' remember exactly what she posted but it made me less intimated I'm through homeschooling and don't' post often but just wanted you to know that I some of us have walked a hard life we just now may be in better place or just may make our life sound better online
  5. I did the same last year when my dad died. I live in the southeast and a granite double size for both parents with both names /birth and my dads death and also a etched church road scene cost 1300.00. There were less expensive option but my mom was adamant she wanted this for her and dad. Sorry for your families loss.
  6. My dh has had the short beard for 20 years cause I like it. Plus he is the type of guy that had to shave twice a day for clean cut. The first 10 years we were together he had the 80's mustache. He would not get rid of the dang thing. The beard is a wonderful improvement LOL I do not like the now popular full bushing long beard that looks like pelvic hair. It just looks unkempt nasty. As for women hairless bikini areas it seems to me the generation around 10 years younger than me. I'm 48 and been seeing the bare ladies young teen now almost 40 in the hospital. The generation has aged and kept it bare so now upper 30's. My dh supervisor with all men in a industrial setting so the guy can be rather crude talking about their sex life's etc. He said that his younger men say they have never seen a ladies part with hair LOL. Yeah to much information LOL.
  7. the switch was during the election year for the first Obama administration. Lots of drama ugly politics. I actually like talking politics but people on here had thin skins everyone was reporting everyone else's post so Susan ban on political talk. It was a very smooth transition to this forum. the following link shows you the old board Nov 30 07 https://web.archive.org/web/20071202171901/http://wtmboards.com:80/HSboardNov202007/
  8. I've had a front load large capacity whirlpool duet for a decade. I live on farm/lake lots of red clay and muddy kids and it got it all clean. Now the same washer cleans clothes of a mechanic, firefighter and our farms dirt. I also love the sanitizing cycle for my scrubs. I'm also on hard well water. I found that its the detergent that does the cleaning. I use a powder detergent and add Clorox to white and a Clorox 2 to all color loads. The fire clothes sometimes have to be washed twice but that's expected. The traditional washer have a hard time getting out smoke smells The machine has been a work horse and gets it all clean
  9. I totally understand your apprehension.. I'm like this regarding a endoscopy and colonoscopy. The are uncomfortable, embarrassing, invasive procedures. My dad died of colon cancer last year and my mom had stomach cancer 6 years ago. So with the history its time for preventative looks. I've been trying to motivate myself up for it but keep putting it off. So I totally understand .
  10. nm I'm sorry about your dh's charges. I spend quite a few nights along and worried with young kids when my dh was manic. I'm wish I had great words of wisdom.
  11. http://fox4kc.com/2018/02/06/mom-says-teens-hair-was-chopped-off-as-punishment-2-firefighters-under-investigation/ A local news source says video is being investigated. They tried to contact the mom with no response A professional hairdresser not the one doing the cut comment that it looked like a bad cut and a 3rd party was involved in this "who ever cut the hair" was at fault also.
  12. Your mom was a piece or work I'm so sorry. She a naracisitic control person. I can't imagine a professional gving a haircut to someoon crying unless its a toddler. My youngest son hated haircuts and after a few disaster at salon. I started cutting at home. Just sorry. I chose a short cut one time in 4th grade and then cried I hated it. Hugs!! those childhood triggers. I've got a few of my own
  13. if its true and not a divorce mom getting using daughter for revenge the dad/stepmom. It not consider abuse but very humiliating. I'm a long hair women and would be devastated to have short hair unless it was saving my life (like chemo treatment) So I hope it was the girls decision although honestly it doesn't look any haircut a teen girl would choose so there is a case that the father did order the haircut and the step mom did the haircut. I can't imagine a professional cutting a girls hair against her will
  14. I've walk the journey you and your husband are on with my own dh. My dh has been in remission 20 years now. So prayers and encouragement!! I had young children when my dh was sick so I know the extra stress and how scared you both are. I just wanted to give you hope. We had good weeks and bad. There were scares and celebrations. then there was Peace and Healing. I pray that for your dh and family
  15. I was raised boiling it. pan full of water with a large red diamond tea bag, then put in pitcher and fill with 1 cup sugar and tap water. My MIL still makes it that way. My mother was from Miami when she moved hear in 1968 and my grandma taught her this method. My mom would leave the tea bag in. yes her tea of potent LOL Its a very strong bitter tea compared to other methods. Once I started making money and trying different in southern restaurant I went to the this method bring pan of water to boil/pour over tea bags, seep tea bags for 5 min, add cup of sugar and water. I also only use filter water. It makes all the difference LOL We have a local restaurant that started selling their tea by the jug Milo's Its so addictive. In Alabama sadly babies are fed tea in their bottles. We still have a lot of baby teeth rot. Also we have lots of diabetes which I'm sure our sugar/tea culture doesn't help
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