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Long story short, I've never had a good relationship with my mother. She did, however, seem to really love my children for awhile, but she has not bothered to contact/see them in 10 months now, even though she lives 20 minutes away. She even missed my DS's 2nd birthday (said she would be there, didn't show up, no apologies, no recognition of his birthday). Now I find out from my sister (my mom has yet to tell me personally) that she's moving to another state to live with a man she met online.

 

My sister was over the other day and she said our mom said to her about me, "Doesn't your sister even care that I'm moving?" because I haven't contacted her about it. Now, she hasn't bothered to contact me in 10 months, she missed my DS's (and technically my DD's as well - she was sick) birthday, she hasn't told me she's moving, but *I* am suppose to contact her now??

 

Unfortunately I do have to speak to her at some point because I have to get some of my stuff out of her house, but I really don't feel I should be the one to reach out to her.

 

WWYD?

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Since she has some of your stuff you want, you probably have to contact her. But it sounds like it's time to make a break, and also remind deal old mom that sister isn't a go-between. It's not fair to your relationship w your sister to put her in the middle like this, and your mom has to stop doing that. If she wants you to know something, she should tell you.

 

Moving away to be with a guy she met on the internet? Yikes...that would worry me!!

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If you want to see your stuff, suck it up and talk to her. You could turn the table on her and say "Were you even going to tell me you were moving? I had to find it out from your other daughter."

 

:iagree: Seems dangerous to wait for her to call you; she may throw out your stuff. Don't stand on principle, unless it's stuff you don't care about losing.

 

I'm sorry your relationship with her is so bad. :grouphug::grouphug:

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If you want to see your stuff, suck it up and talk to her. You could turn the table on her and say "Were you even going to tell me you were moving? I had to find it out from your other daughter."

 

Since she has some of your stuff you want, you probably have to contact her. But it sounds like it's time to make a break, and also remind deal old mom that sister isn't a go-between. It's not fair to your relationship w your sister to put her in the middle like this, and your mom has to stop doing that. If she wants you to know something, she should tell you.

 

Moving away to be with a guy she met on the internet? Yikes...that would worry me!!

 

:iagree: Seems dangerous to wait for her to call you; she may throw out your stuff. Don't stand on principle, unless it's stuff you don't care about losing.

 

I'm sorry your relationship with her is so bad. :grouphug::grouphug:

 

:iagree: These ladies are spot on. If you want your stuff, you're gonna have to contact her.

 

I'm sorry for your relationship with your mom; it doesn't sound close at all. That stinks. And I know all about not being close with a mom. So :grouphug:.

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Unfortunately I do have to speak to her at some point because I have to get some of my stuff out of her house, but I really don't feel I should be the one to reach out to her.

 

WWYD?

 

Sorry she doesn't have much interest in your family. :grouphug:

 

Yes, you should speak to her about getting your stuff. It isn't "reaching out," it's getting your stuff. The same way as if a stranger, acquaintance, neighbor or storage place had your stuff.

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Hello everyone,I am totally with you all,but mine mother is always good to me ,even though she left my dad coz of me,but still there are many friends of mine who still don't get love from their mother or parent for many reason,so they come to my mother.I don't understand how could a mother can react in this manner....??

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Yes friends You should definatly contact your mother,even though she is not leaving wit you,but its our duty to love and protect her

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:grouphug:

 

I don't have any advice to give because I can't think straight because of all the mixed feelings I have about my mother. I also have a terrible relationship with my mother. She recently married a man and neglected to tell me about it...then things went really downhill. Too much drama for these forums...

 

I just want to offer a hug and support.

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