Carrie12345 Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Disjointed rambling on my iPad... sorry for the lack of editing! My sister is having some serious but temporary financial issues, and desperately needs to cut back on expenses. She's a single mom with sporatic child support, with a job that has odd hours, so she pays for full time child care plus our mother covers some night and weekend shifts. She's asked to move back in with our parents for a few months to save on rent, but no one is particularly eager for that arrangement. Our parents have the house to themselves for the first time EVER right now, and we kids range from 27 to 37, so it's long overdue. The babysitting already takes a big toll on them. They haven't given her an answer yet. Her maybe-backup plan is to move near me and rent her own place, with me babysitting her 2yo to save daycare costs. This would be relatively difficult for me, as I already have two little ones around while homeschooling the two big ones. On the other hand, I had the littles around while homeschooling all three big kids until recently, so my load *has lightened. Dh and I haven't had an official conversation about this yet, but he did hear my phone call with my sister, and we do plan to talk about it in the morning. He's definitely leery, though. He doesn't want me to be overwhelmed. There is one perk, aside from obviously helping my loved ones - We have no family or close friends nearby right now, so we almost never have anyone to watch OUR kids. A date night a few times a month would be a HUGE thing for our marriage! (Not that there's any trouble, we just miss each other, lol.) My sister would definitely do that in exchange. FWIW, this isn't a presumptuous thing on my sister's part. I've always told her I'd be happy to help homeschool my neice. I just never really had a 2yo in mind when I said it! I think part of dh's hesitation may be because his own sister is struggling, and due to have a baby this spring. She's rebuffed any offers to help that we've made, but maybe he thinks she'll change her mind. I can't save the flipping world here. If two people need help, but only one is asking for it, I'd think that'd take priority. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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