MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 My son was asked to his first dance the other day. It's a formal freshman dance and will have a theme, so kids can dress for the theme or wear formal wear. I'm pretty sure my son's date will be wearing something formal. Anyway, the girl who asked him is very shy and sensitive. I have a feeling this is her first big dance as it is for my son, too, so I thought it would be nice to make it memorable for her, especially since traditionally the girls pay for everything -- dinner, transportation, and tickets. A lot of them shell out serious bucks although the school sets it up so they don't have to. (Thank goodness.) This girl is very wealthy, so she will possibly go all out. My son will probably give her chocolates and a corsage, and I thought maybe the florist could attach a little teddy bear keyring as a keepsake. http://www.steiffusa.com/productdetail.aspx?productid=039300 What does the hive think? Any other suggestions? Btw, we are not big on the whole dating-in-high school scene, but my son was surprised by this. He had never even heard of the dance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Thoughtful! I personally think the chocolates and the corsage are enough though. Unless he knows this young lady very well and feels like she would like some 'extra' keepsake... P.S. I didn't vote. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 $55 for a key ring?!! There is NO way we would do that.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Thoughtful! I personally think the chocolates and the corsage are enough though. Unless he knows this young lady very well and feels like she would like some 'extra' keepsake... P.S. I didn't vote. I think the corsage is enough, unless he knows her well. More might be a little uncomfortable - or sweet! All depends on the girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I thought it was a good idea until I saw the price tag. No~we would not do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I don't like teddy bears so I would not want it. And $55,?!?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldskool Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I wouldn't. It may make ds look like he has greater expectations for the relationship than it being just a dance. Maybe if they end of going to a spring formal (or other event down the road) together he could add in the key chain, but for a first dance I wouldn't. Lesley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Well, the price tag kind of shocked me too, but that wouldn't bother some people. If money is not an issue, then I think the gesture is sweet. I don't see it being some sort of romantic overture. A giant teddy bear would scream Be My Sweetheart Forever kind of thing. A small keyring is just an extra little thought to go along with the pretty flowers. BTW, I could totally see my dd19 paying for something like that and not batting an eye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I wouldn't. It may make ds look like he has greater expectations for the relationship than it being just a dance. Maybe if they end of going to a spring formal (or other event down the road) together he could add in the key chain, but for a first dance I wouldn't. Lesley :iagree:Not so much about relationship expectations, but setting gift expectations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silliness7 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Is she into teddy bears? I don't think I'd go that route unless there was a compelling reason. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 Okay, there's another part to this. Her father is one of the interviewers for his alma mater, and my son is strongly considering that college. LOL. No pressure. The girl is a real sweetie-pie. Very altruistic and kind. Many of the girls shell out about $500 for this dance. I know -- outrageous. The school knows not all of them can or want to, so they make it formal-less as well. I remember in college I spent ten cents on my formal wear! It was a beautiful, blue silk skirt I found at Goodwill that I paired with a sweater. I wish I had kept it. Steiff makes a $15 teddy bear. Maybe that one? Then again, maybe it's too much. I tend to be a too-much kind of person. :tongue_smilie: My son is not, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I think the corsage is enough, unless he knows her well. More might be a little uncomfortable - or sweet! All depends on the girl! :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I would not do the keyring -- the cost doesn't bother me -- to my dh's chagrin, cost seldom does. I just don't think it's necessary or appropriate -- approriate in the sense of what others said about relationship and gift expectations. HTH -- Hope he has a great time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 The teddy is kind of cute but not worth the price. To me it says frivolous spending, when one could probably walk into Walmart and get something similar for $5.00. Were it me I'd tie the chocolates and the keepsake together in something like this or this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 Okay. I think we won't do the keyring then. Maybe I'll get it for my other son's girlfriend/almost-fiancee, instead! She really wants a particular watering can, though. My kind of gal. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 The teddy is kind of cute but not worth the price. To me it says frivolous spending, when one could probably walk into Walmart and get something similar for $5.00. Were it me I'd tie the chocolates and the keepsake together in something like this or this. Oh, those are very nice and a clever way to give a keepsake. Thanks for the suggestions! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 (edited) Okay, there's another part to this. Her father is one of the interviewers for his alma mater, and my son is strongly considering that college. LOL. No pressure. The girl is a real sweetie-pie. Very altruistic and kind. Many of the girls shell out about $500 for this dance. I know -- outrageous. The school knows not all of them can or want to, so they make it formal-less as well. I remember in college I spent ten cents on my formal wear! It was a beautiful, blue silk skirt I found at Goodwill that I paired with a sweater. I wish I had kept it. Steiff makes a $15 teddy bear. Maybe that one? Then again, maybe it's too much. I tend to be a too-much kind of person. :tongue_smilie: My son is not, though. My dh is on the Alumni Schools Committee for his alma mater (i.e., he interviews applicants) -- typically, if he is acquainted with the family or with the applicant, he recuses himself from either that entering class or that applicant is assigned to someone else. Also, the years that we have our own children as applicants, dh recuses himself. I think you need to sit back and enjoy all of this and try not to do 'too much' here -- It's good that you recognize that you are a too-much kind of person -- cut yourself some slack and do less. :grouphug: :001_smile: And enjoy! ENJOY!!!!!!! Edited December 14, 2011 by MariannNOVA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 My dh is on the Alumni Schools Committee for his alma mater (i.e., he interviews applicants) -- typically, if he is acquainted with the family or with the applicant, he recuses himself from either that entering class or that applicant is assigned to someone else. Also, the years that we have our own children as applicants, dh recuses himself. I think you need to sit back and enjoy all of this and try not to do 'too much' here -- It's good that you recognize that you are a too-much kind of person -- cut yourself some slack and do less. :grouphug: :001_smile: That's good to know! My son will be relieved. Maybe I should get the teddy bear for me, by golly. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristyB in TN Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 No, I don't think I would but mostly because the corsages right now are so delicate, I don't know how the bear would fit in there. The corsages I am seeing lately are still the wrist type with a couple of small orchids and a small bit of color woven in. The bear is cute, though! I bet you all are so excited! First formals are so sweet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sebastian (a lady) Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 My dh is on the Alumni Schools Committee for his alma mater (i.e., he interviews applicants) -- typically, if he is acquainted with the family or with the applicant, he recuses himself from either that entering class or that applicant is assigned to someone else. Also, the years that we have our own children as applicants, dh recuses himself. I think you need to sit back and enjoy all of this and try not to do 'too much' here -- It's good that you recognize that you are a too-much kind of person -- cut yourself some slack and do less. :grouphug: :001_smile: :iagree: I do interviews for my alma mater. I am happy to give advice and suggestions to anyone who asks me. But I try not to interview anyone I have a relationship with. (Not always possible as I've sometimes been the only interviewer for a large area.) I think it would be not totally proper to interview someone who had dated by child. Too much baggage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 That's good to know! My son will be relieved. Maybe I should get the teddy bear for me, by golly. :) Now you are thinking! I think that we should ALWAYS buy ourselves something when our kids do something that makes us happy!!!!!!!!!!! Be kind to yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 The teddy bear is really cute, but unless that particular teddy bear was something she was into, I wouldn't do it. The price is too high for what one is getting. For less, you should be able to go to the mall and get her an engraved, silver keychain. I hope he has a great time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I think it would be not totally proper to interview someone who had dated by child. Too much baggage. Could you imagine? the pressure would be unbearable -- for everyone involved.:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted December 14, 2011 Author Share Posted December 14, 2011 I am very surprised that my son was asked. He doesn't really participate in much besides music and math. No sports, dances, meet-ups at the mall. He's not at all unhappy about that, though, and prefers to spend his time doing math problems, watching TV or just loafing about with friends. I still see him as a little, goofy guy. :blush5: Yes, I think I will do something for me. Since it is lunch time, I am going to grab a bite to eat at Panera. :D Thanks for all the advice, everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I am very surprised that my son was asked. He doesn't really participate in much besides music and math. No sports, dances, meet-ups at the mall. He's not at all unhappy about that, though, and prefers to spend his time doing math problems, watching TV or just loafing about with friends. I still see him as a little, goofy guy. :blush5: Yes, I think I will do something for me. Since it is lunch time, I am going to grab a bite to eat at Panera. :D Thanks for all the advice, everyone! In red: I am always fascinated at how others see my children in comparison to how I see them -- it is very interesting. You've earned the lunch at Panera! Enjoy! There's THAT word again!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I think chocolates and a corsage sound like enough since they don't have an established relationship yet. Enjoy your lunch. I love Panera! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I voted yes, but then I saw the price tag. Unless it's a longtime g/f, I don't see the point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I thought it was cute too till I saw the price tag-for a keyring! LOL agree with the other posters though that's a little much...chocolates and corsage are fine.....:iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I wouldn't do the keychain, not because it sets any kind of precedent, just that chocolates and a corsage are plenty. And no way would I pay that kind of money for something like that. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dobela Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 If the dance is before Christmas I would do a nice ornament as the keep sake, but after, likely nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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