:iagree: Yes, yes, and 100% yes. Thanks for your post.

Hmm... these books and their themes don't surprise me at all. My 17 yr old has been in a book club for years that gets loads of galley copies of all the new young adult lit. that has been written in that year (advanced reading copies). The books on the list you linked are typical of young adult literature. Very thematic-- not much substance. Last year, a ton of the books were about girls falling for vampires or falling for boys who turn into animals. Yeah... great literature they are not! There are some hidden gems though. I didn't read through all the list of books you linked, but it's possible there may be something good on there.

Yeah.. our neuro-psych told us that the World Health Organization already uses the term Intellectual Disability and that the DSM-V is more than likely going to change to Intellectual Disability next year. So, in her report she uses both terms as a 'bridge' from the old to the new.

Yes, for years I honestly thought the 'problem' was that she had some pretty significant LDs and was speech delayed. She was obviously 'different' from my other 2 and also from other kids her age. I was surprised, but also... not surprised... when we got the diagnosis. It all makes sense now, but it was hard to hear since I had basically convinced myself it was something she could 'overcome' in time. We just recently got the diagnosis, and I'm still in the-- trying to process it all-- stage. Take care.. :grouphug:

My daughter has mild intellectual disability (think they're starting to call it that instead of MR now..) Anyway, she learned to read using Jolly Phonics http://jollylearning.co.uk/shop/ She loved the music, the colors, the animals... everything. We've used All About Spelling with some success for spelling. Math is another story. She has used all sorts of programs with Right Start being the one she advanced with the most. She's about to turn 13, and she hasn't got past 1st grade math. I am now only working on functional math skills with her. Time telling, money, addition, subtraction, measurement. She is not able to do much abstract thinking and sequencing is very tough. My daughter has always been delayed. We had her tested at 8 yrs and they weren't able to complete the whole test (including not being able to complete the IQ test) so at that point we only knew she had 'borderline intellectual functioning' Four years later, we just had her tested again. Great neuro-psych... this time, diagnosis of mild ID. It all makes so much sense. As far as outlook: I feel she will be able to live semi-independently but will need various supports. If you want to chat about it more, you can PM me. :001_smile:

I've got a 17 yr old who is involved in quite a bit outside the house. I believe all that he does is important. If his school work is sliding, I'm not particularly pleased... and if his other 'stuff' is sliding.. again, not particularly pleased. I support him in seeing the importance of both--- and attempt to help him plan his life a little better. I don't make him stay home from another commitment because his math didn't get done. I just don't see one as being more important than the other.

:bigear: curious too, now...

We've got a Toyota Highlander (seats 7) Love it. Got this one specifically because I didn't want a bench in the middle--- but it has the option of 'installing' a middle seat between the 2 captain's chairs (in the middle). Gas mileage is worse than my old Mazda MPV, but we were expecting that.

Try Kohls, Old Navy, Gap... I was just out shopping for shorts for my daughter yesterday, and all of those places had shorts I'd actually allow her to wear! :001_smile:

I have a child with JRA-- we do not necessarily *limit* where we go. I do tend to stay away from known sick people though. Flu shot every year. That's about it. ETA: my child is on immunosuppressant meds for the arthritis

I feel like I should know this, but... What are the choices for math --higher than alg. II? I've got a non-mathy kid, and I'm looking for senior yr math choice. Has to be 'higher than alg. II' TIA!

I have a child with JRA-- We spent about 5 yrs looking for a correct diangosis, and symptoms showed around age 1. It was a difficult time. My child has significant delays-- which include speech, cognitive and learning--and they have been attributed to the 5 yrs of unmanaged chronic pain. I would recommend hitting the arthritis hard to try and get it under control quickly. Good luck!

I don't have a set bedtime rule for my 17 yr old. I figure he needs to start making decisions that work for him. He has to learn what works for him. The only thing I ask is that by about 9:00/9:30 he's in his room. That way my husband and I can relax a bit alone. He falls asleep when he chooses and wakes when he chooses. The days he has a morning class to get to, he sets his alarm in time to get up and get ready. He's 17, and needs to make a plan that works for him so he knows he's capable and can be independent.

I believe there is a double standard (haven't read other replies.. and I'm chiming in kind of 'late')-- I don't 'ogle' or participate in the 'look at how cute he is..' or 'dontcha just love a man in a kilt' threads. I know it's all in fun, and who am i to begrudge other women their fun-- I just don't partake. I think it's all kind of silly and in poor taste, but...

um.. her "ghetto b*tch"? People are truly odd. I think you did the right thing. She obviously has some issues --after all she did tell one of her kids she was going to punch him--- honestly, it's no wonder the kids act the way they do. You have to protect your kid, and you weren't hurting the little boy. If anything, it helps *him* to see there are actually boundaries, and that some things like.. say... threatening to punch someone isn't socially acceptable. Since his parental figure doesn't seem to know those boundaries exist, he'll have to get little bits and pieces from other people--

I have a couple of FB 'friends' who I hide during election time-- I still like them, but don't want to read their political stuff. It's an option...

Pretty amazing stuff. Thanks for posting this..

:iagree: It takes a lot to make me think 'wha?' but.. this seems really wrong to me.

:iagree: Absolutely agree that it can be very traumatizing for men too. I have a similar 'story' to what you mentioned, and I know he was just devastated.

My 17 yr old had this issue for years and years. We learned that some things helped him to 'cope' better... but it never got rid of the actual anxiety. Being in his room with a louder than normal book on CD sometimes helped... usually baths did the trick as it was something that immediately relaxed him. I just tried to help him find things to do during the 'weather' that were soothing. Initially I thought it would help if we did a whole unit on weather. But he didn't even want to know the ins and outs of it all. He just wanted nothing to do with it at all. It made him more anxious to talk about it. Time and maturity have helped. He doesn't pace the house feeling anxious when there's a storm now :001_smile:

Hang in there. Six can be tough because he's not so little anymore and wants to exert some independence... he wants some say in his own life. You said you're trying to say yes as much as you can which is good-- It just takes a lot of consistency and knowing that these things ebb and flow. (ie.. as my mom always says: this too shall pass) His difficult behavior won't stop overnight, and you just have to keep at it. I had a very long year when my 17 yr old was 6. I had a 2 yr old and a baby as well... Rough.. rough.. year. If it's any consolation, I think he sounds like a typical 6 yr old boy who is just pushing to be his own person. It can be frustrating for him since he still doesn't have all the language needed to express his feelings (or at least the logic it takes to really understand why he's so irritable). Love him through it... and be consistent.

:iagree: This is true of many, many young people. Just looking at my own 17 yr old and his friends: not many of them think like this 'learning for learning's sake' and the ones who are in school... psh... all of them are chasing the grade. Not unusual at all. :)

Just my $.02 not putting up with nonsense would (IMHO) include not paying attention to whining and attention getting behaviors. If we're talking about grandparents here.. or for that matter... anyone besides you and your SO-- I'd say, if you're kids behave better for other people you at least know you've done something right. They obviously *know* how to behave appropriately if they do so in the presence of others. :001_smile:

Your daughter is 17.5? If she has a teacher to whom she is accountable, then there is no reason for you to be involved at all. I have a son who is 17, and there have been a couple of books he's not finished before having to write a paper-- it's his life, his education. I wouldn't think to contact his teacher to let her know. Ultimately, it's your daughter's choice to do what is right or not. She has to learn her own limitations, and have her own motivation. Sorry, but I would stay out of it.