On the days when my 17 yr old has to be at a class, he sets his alarm and gets up early. So, I know it's possible for him to follow a schedule and set an alarm. I don't sweat it when he sleeps late on the other days. Everything gets done in the end. Wake up time is not a hill I'm willing to die on. :001_smile:

Interesting... thanks for posting! I've been telling my 17 yr old for quite awhile now that I think schools are looking for someone unique. Lots of kids have high test scores, great AP scores, wonderful GPA. All of those are good, and will get a foot in the door during the admissions process--- but the activities and essays are where your kid can really shine and stand out. So, I've encouraged him to really follow his passions. And it has paid off! He's already been accepted to his top choice univ. which is good :001_smile: He's waiting to hear from the other two he's applied to.

I would ask person A: do you want to be right or do you want to have a relationship? Yes, person A and you have your religious convictions--- but we're talking about person A's child here. Our children need our acceptance at a basic level, regardless of our own religious convictions. I'm not Christian, but this happened in my own family (who are mostly Christian). Grandparents removed one of their children from the will due to their perception that she was living a sinful life. They made a judgement of her, which I felt at the time (and really still feel) isn't what Christians are called to do. They preferred to die "knowing" they were right. That was more important to them than to have a relationship with their daughter. It left that daughter wondering about grace, wondering about the Christian upbringing she had had. It was a very difficult thing for her to cope with. I feel that we shine a light into this world, and draw people to us with love. If person A can get past the needing to be right due to their convictions, and try and show compassion, there is a good chance that there can be a decent relationship between the two. Adult daughter most likely is well aware of how person A feels. She may not be asking person A to agree with her, but just to accept who she is. Does person A want to be right or to have a relationship with their daughter; the same daughter who was a baby who needed diaper changes, a toddler who shouted 'no', a pre-teen who rolled her eyes, a teen who needed space... she is the *same* person she's always been. And she still needs to feel accepted and loved.

no. I did have to get one of the transcripts notarized though,and mail it directly to the univ. (this univ. was also on the common app and wanted an uploaded one too).

She doesn't have to do it all at once. The recommenders write one letter and all schools she applies to within the Common App will see the letters. I would suggest calling the private schools she is applying to and asking if the recommenders could send a LOR directly to the school. Good luck!

I wonder if GPA might be more useful on the resume (??) unless they are wondering how many credits have been taken----

No. I just put 12th grade and his GPA next to it. Didn't mention anything about credits. He had to turn in a transcript as well, and on that credits were mentioned.. but not on the resume.

My son has to turn in a resume as well... We designed it in a similar format as a regular resume: personal info (name, phone number etc..) Experience: (anything that would show what he's done regarding volunteer work and also the 3 things he founded --a theater company, ethics team, and ethics club) Activities: (drama he's done etc...) Honors and Awards: (any awards etc.. he's won) ETA: at the top of the resume (under his personal info) we put Education: name of our homeschool, grade, GPA and also the name of the univ. he's dual enrolled in (along with the 2 current classes he's taking there)

We have the same problem... I put a tall, wicker basket by the back door that we put the leash, towel etc.. in.

Yes. My 17 yr old son has many friends who are girls.

When our kids were younger, they tried a lot of different activities-- we encouraged them because we wanted them to find something they were passionate about, and also to find like-minded peers. Now that they are older, each of them has settled on just a couple of activities. I feel as though it gives them a community, and I want that for them. :)

ETA: figured it out..

Problem with this is that not *all* children respond in the same way to this kind of thing. It takes a sensitive, patient parent to work with kids with strong wills. The old 'show 'em whose boss' just doesn't work. There's nothing wrong with letting the kid know bossing grandma around isn't ok (and why), and that 'his' room just isn't really 'his' (he's welcome to use it, but not ok to try and force people out of it)--- but honestly, 'learning his place in the family' isn't what's going to really help a kid like this. To the OP: I've got an intense child. He's struggled his whole life with a will of steel and an intensity that requires endless patience. He used to tell me things he 'thought' about too. He's sensitive that way. It's been really difficult but with direction, patience, and a whole lot of trying to understand and help meet his needs (and teaching him to get his own needs met) he's turned into a teenager who shares with me, thinks about other people, speaks his mind, and doesn't follow the crowd. I believe in the idea that we need these kinds of kids. They are the ones who will change the world-- for good-- if we take the time to direct their intensity and really try to work with them not against them.

Wow. That is really fantastic! Pretty amazing on the 2nd dr.'s part.

This is pretty amazing! I am trying to get my head around this.... did a neuro-psych. test your son, and diagnose him with mild MR only to try an ADHD med. and he could no longer be 'labeled' MR?? Was it a different person who suggested the medicine?

My daughter (13) has intellectual disability and struggles with math. I bought this book: http://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Syndrome-Hands-On-Learners/dp/1890627429 and have had great success with a lot of the activities.

Oh good! I've only got the first one, but so far I've been really pleased with the activities.

Honestly, I don't think LOF would work in this case... I have also checked it out for my 13 yr old who has mild ID --and math is one of her biggest struggles. As someone else said, with LOF you've got to 'discover' the math in a way-- and it sounds like your son might be better off with something more explicitly taught. It wouldn't work at all for my daughter. Check out this book: http://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Syndrome-Hands-On-Learners/dp/1890627429 It has some really good ideas and has been helpful. We had some success with Right Start Math (level A and B). http://rightstartmath.com/

I don't tell any lies about homeschooling :001_smile: There are good days and bad days, just like anything else. When I started homeschooling 13 yrs ago, I knew absolutely nobody who homeschooled. Our family thought we'd lost our minds. My oldest was 4 and had never been to school--- but I just had this feeling that his life would be somehow better if he homeschooled. I don't know, of course, if it was any better--- none of my kids have ever been to school. But I do know that I feel confident that all 3 of my kids are growing into the people they were supposed to be, and that was one of the main reasons I wanted to homeschool. I wanted them to have the freedom to think what they wanted, learn in a way that best suited them, and have a whole lot of time to wonder, play, explore etc.. All of those goals have panned out. So, I feel we've had success! I don't try and sell homeschooling--- I've known (and know) many people who do--- I just do my own thing and if people have questions, I answer what I can.

:iagree: I agree with this whole heartedly. The homeschooled kids I've come in to contact with who literally only spend time with their family or with other like-minded people do come over a little awkward. And I'm not just talking about religious homeschoolers either. I've met quite a few unschool-y (dare I say... unparent-y) kids who only socialize with their own families and other families just like them--- I think they also are at a disadvantage. (and seem a little.... awkward) I see value in knowing and sharing conversation with many different kinds of people. It does prepare kids for a more rich and diverse life. ETA: Thinking more about it... I am not saying it is homeschooling that causes the awkwardness... but being socially 'limited'.

You know what? He's 18... it's basically his 'job' to take a look at things with a critical eye. My 17 year old (always homeschooled) started to do the same thing this past year. We've had numerous discussions about whether homeschooling is good... whether it's ethical etc.. It's his way of sorting out his own thoughts. Initially I felt threatened by the discussions, but now I just listen to what he's saying and respond with my opinion when he asks.

I am interested in this information. I wonder if this is what your neuropsych. told you? Did your he/she tell you that the final cognitive age will be 9-12? We were not told anything at all about 'what to expect' with regards to cognitive age-- and it's something I've been trying to see if I can find out. Thanks!

About friends/friendship: my daughter does not really have friends. She is very close to her younger brother though, and they spend a lot of time together. He 'gets' her-- and that helps. I am pursuing some kind of a play/social group at the moment (slowly but surely). It is more *my* need than hers though, as she has never asked to have anyone over and seems entirely happy playing on her own. I agree with Kinsa in that the ARC does not seem to offer anything for kids who are not in their late teens--- I have found it very difficult trying to find support. I still do not have any in my area. I know there have to be other local kids who are 'like' my daughter... finding them has been tough though!

Yeah.. the book completely transformed my relationship with my oldest. I discovered it when he was about 5 or 6---

Thanks. Initially I couldn't really quite get why they would have said something.. I realized, though, that there is definitely something more going on. It's a little deeper than a few coloring books grandma brought out. I'm now working on sorting my own feelings about it out so I don't disrupt my mom's relationship with my brother and his wife--- I think it's just about *me* taking some of my own advice and trying to keep my mouth shut about the whole thing! (not so easy to do :tongue_smilie: )