Yeah my dh has big memory gaps of events if they are major episodes. He does remember some of the milder but wants us to ignore it. THen other times he will apologies and have some recognition of his behavior. He will also say i'm exaggerating his behavior. I figure out for us years ago was to record events for playback. It was eye opening for him and the therapist . THe only way I got him therapy was recording on my old "huge VHS" recorder" his behavior /speech. He refused help. We had a intervention so to speak. I dont' know how things are handle now days. I was dealing with this 25 years ago.

gosh this sounds like my life. I learned for our stability that I take all stressors as possible away. I handled, money kids any major life up sets. When my dad died this past winter I didn't even have him come to the hospital . He wouldn't of been help. He would of just been someone else to handle. I've had to be strong and it's lonely.. I basically protected him emotionally from as much stress as I could. He doesn't have appropriate responses to emotions.. He get overly angry at stuff that doesn't really need the level of his emotions or the opposite withdrawn. I also would also just be afraid to bring up anything cause you didn't know if he would "handle it like a proper adults or go off. My dh has never been physical violent just those big giant emotional roller coaster. What I learned is you can bring up the stuff they did wrong but they conveniently don't' remember. Then months later we would have another issues then he would apologize for the previous one LOL. I just stop caring. I decided to enjoy the happy stable man and when he was off just mentally became a "caregiver" and just ignored the crap. I so understand what you are experience. Take some time for yourself if possible. I found finding someone to watch the kids a few hours each Sunday afternoon was a life safer. I would just go sit a books store or park and just let my mind and emotional rest. You and your family still on my mind.

Op I don't post that often anymore since my kids are grown. I've read the thread and your updates trying to decide if I should contribute. My dh has mental issues. We have had some really god awful years. ONLY someone that has lived day to day with someone with mental instability can understand. I don't want to give advise cause I dont' know what you can handle or your dh's extremes. YOU are the only one that can decide. I will tell you as someone that stayed married. We celebrate 27 years this summer. I can say with all honestly the last 5 are the only completely nonstress good years for me. There were so many bad/hard years. I had so many times making my exit plan but then he would change thing would be good. Its was a roller coaster way to live. I protected the kids and gave them stability even when dh was having outburst. The thing I couldn't change was they learned how to tip-toe around him. We all changed our behavior to keep him in control. Since he has been stable the past 5 eyars. He is a totally different person now but I honestly have a lifetime of resentment cause I feel like my happy was stolen kwim My guys are adults now and we discuss a lot of stuff. Then thing that they both say is they are glad we stayed. They love there dad and without us they know his life could of been so different. So just letting you know as someone that lived it. I pretty much felt like I lived thorugh years of emotional abuse. I don't know if that was really the best decision for my kids. I'm a Christian so I felt like God wanted me stay. When thing were tough he always gave me peace. I also forgot to mention my dh went through the hyper sex stuff around age 30. It was before texting and internet so his stuff was going to strip club. He also did the prostitute thing. He paid for oral but he said somewhere in his mind he couldn't' do the whole thing. He knew he was off but couldn't help himself. This was not him. He was never a sleep around kind of guy. THe behavior was irrational to him. I'm glad some part of his sick mind kept him from the whole thing. It was rough for me. I know at that time if I would of had any support I would of left. I had a little baby, sick husband and made like 7 dollars an hour He has had other episodes but with the internet the porn got him through it . He has now been stable enough no porn or anything for about 8 years. Its hard sharing our history but I felt like you need to know someone has walked in you shoes. I know whatever you decide is hard staying or going. God loves you.

my kids were raised on well water, we used fluoride toothpaste and ACT type rinse. They had the dental fluoride treatment until age 12 (whatever age the insurance stop paying ) They both went through braces and both got one small cavity during the orthodontic treatment. It was do to them not being extra diligent with the brushing/flossing. They probability wouldn't of got a cavity had they not worn braces. But anyway they were small no big deal. I was raised with no well water, poor dental hygiene, poor diet. I had bad teeth. When graduated college. I spent my first year salary getting crown and fixing my teeth. I was only 22. Sad SO I parented with intention of my kids having good teeth. kwim

If its your dad then just tell him to bring and prepare his own food . My dad was a diabetic for years that never followed the diet. He only ate diabetic food while he lived with me. He hated healthy food. When he lived with me he at what put out buft after moving out and just viisitn he would refuse to eat anything that was not fried/breaded and nasty. SO I told my parents bring and prepare your own food while visiting. WE don't eat that away. It works if your OK just letting your dad do his thing in your home. I know others may have issues but I've had my parents live with me several times do to their poor health and financial decision so they were comfortable in my kitchen. My dad died this past December and what I hate the most he could of lived longer had he gave a crap about his diet and not sat and watch TV all day for the past 20 years. He just turn 70 he could of lived a lot longer he just couldn't give up his love of bad food and tryin to get the man out of his lazy chair was like trying to heard cats. Not gonna happens They cleaned up after themselves so big deal. I would cook my familes food separate most of the time. Good luck with the visit. My parent and my lifestyle were always different which caused issues but as I got older I just learn compromise and we can't change them Try to enjoy dad's visit

They are worse now that I'm getting closer to menopause . They are really like a stabbing pain . Cause I will cringe up and people will ask me what wrong. BUt they go away quick and only last about a day.

I'm the only one in my family with it. I was diagnosed at age 41. I was one of those that never had acne and stuff so when I started the bumps then flushing I thought it was hormonal changes. I'm now 47 with clear skin but I have to watch what I eat.

I started with flushes, then small pumps underskin, then acne like stuff and then painful pustule I was intially prescribed Oracia pills (tetracycline slow release and finacia cream. I researched and found for me its all about the diet. I eat an anti-inflammatory diet and drink plenty of water. I haven't had an red flair/ mulit bumps up since 2012. THe last time I had a Oracea prescription. I know this specifically cause I just cleaned out my medicine cabinet and had a bottle of Oracia half used from that year. I was diagnosed in 2011 so it took me 18 months to figure out food/diet were my issues. I will occasionally get a pimple and wil use my fincaia but its more hormone driven pimple always pms time and its only a few times a year. YOu may want to reserach rosacea and the GI track. I knows there is a lost in the science community about a cause and lots of therory but for me its all about the inflammation GI/gut flora also if you already have damaged blood vessel and then get in a remission state like myself. There is a limelight laser that in my area was 150.00 that got rid of a few broken blood vessel and permanent redness that had already develop before I got a handle on the stuff. When I first got dx I was scared of the nose scaring and stuff. I researched like everything. I didn't' want to be on low dose tetracycline for life and didn't want the scaring disfiguration that can come with unmediated rosacea. NOw I buy a thing of Finacea foam once a year. I keep it on hand cause I'm still afraid of going back to where I was in the beginning. I will be preemptive application if I know I'm gonna eat or drink something acidic like wine. ;) Good luck

Welp in my teens undies fit but once adult hood happen and my hips go larger and my butt bigger they haven't fit in 30 years. I think who ever designs undies uses teen or Barbie doll bodies cause they have never fit this women. I've tried all types and the cotton liner sits to far back LOL Gosh what a crazy conversation LOL

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This is true so I guess for me its coming from an American that had less violence and seeing how dark/change has happen in the past 30 years since I graduated highschool. My sons/dh watch violent movies /video games they just aren't my thing. I couldn't figure out how so many Christian thought it was a good thing to watch passion of the Christ not my kind of entertainment

I personally think this is a culture of death of violence when movies lke this are made and we think they are ok for enteraintment. We as a sociiety are the issue. WHy do adult crave this type of eneteraintment much less exposing children? I work ER and see way to much real violence I would never choose it for entertainment. I'm being judgmental to everyone :ohmy: :closedeyes: :laugh: We each parent different . I had one kid that matured faster and could play teen video games early. My other son was not emotionally or psychology ready so he was older before he played the videogames. I had parents judge me because I allowed my sons to play violent video games. SO I do get being appalled that someone would have young kid at a violent movie. This is not something I would of done. I screened movies and played the video games before I would allow my kids. I had my standard and they were not as high as some but also not as low as other. We all have different standards depending on our own family of origin, culture and religion My sons are both adults with very good jobs. They have never committed a violent act or been in jail My parenting was successful . :thumbup: even if they played teen and mature video games ;)

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No suggestion but as a Christian I would love to explore biblical sites. What a great opportunity for your family ! If your not Christian or Jewish than you can call it exploring ancient mythical sites ;) Blessing

I don't remember any shows but I'm a 47 yo nurse that entered nursing when the staff had to smoke outside but the patients could still smoke in their rooms this was in 92. I was smoker back then and had a women that had a partial lung removal. She was still on oxygen begging for a cigarette. Part of my orders was to turn off oxygen every 2 hours and let her smoke. This was in 95 which is when I quit at age 25. She was a wake-up call for sure. THe hospital went complete smoke free late 90's except for outside by the trash can smoking areas. THis was in Alabama which usually 10 years behind the New York/LA type places. I know its only been the past 10 years that their has been a campus free smoking for employees but the patients still have the trash can smoking area. We usually do a nicotine patch while in- patient but some pt refuse so they are taken out to the loading area/dumpster area of the hospital. I don't see many anymore because most will just do the patch at least while a patient. I off course don't' know how many stick with it when discharged. as for second hand smoke issues the CDC no type ventilation can prevent spread of second hand smoke. THis is why the hospital went completely smoke free. They thought negative pressure room stuff like that would work but the science proved not . I dont' understand all the science but there is no indoor safe way to smoke and not spread it with current science knowledge

I wore a button down puff sleeve version of the shirt for 8th grade graduation picture May 84. We also sat in the big wicker chair.

I'm 47 and never had a daughter. I do have a sister and ours were not at the same time when we lived together as teens My period has stayed 26-28 days never changed.

I was born in 70 and my first singer crush was andy gibb ( the cute younger brother that of) I loved the beegees had to keep my disco era music likes a secret for years LOL My sons knew my secret and always thought it was a girl group too

I lost my dad on Dec 31, 2016. We just now getting life insurance pay out. I've got funeral expenses on my credit card that can finally be paid off. We are in process of moving my mom. Its been a crappy year. I'm currently working on taxes and it Just sucks!

lets see I had to work the weekend which meant I had to work an extra 2 hour Saturday night. Then I come home to 3 hypothermic puppies my son found in the middle of the road. We live rural and people will just put out dogs they don't' want. It pisses off. So instead of sleeping a good 8 hours I was feeding and warming puppies, worked last night and now just getting up to puppies. We want to give them a chance but man its a lot of work. The good in all that is the puppies today are active and 2 seem healthy. There is one that has coordination issues, sleeps more not sure if its do to less mom milk or the cold nights. So its been a fun monday

well we live in a society that has a syndrome or name for everything and right now normal reaction to just plain grieve or stress someone will say its pTSd My dad had PTSD after 2 tours in Nam. He had flashback if you woke him by touch. He would snap with certain sounds. I could describe my childhood and now days it would be consider a unsafe home or abusive. WHat it was a young man 19 first tour and 21 second and saw and did unimaginable things then he gets discharge with and suppose to act like it never happen. HE drank excessively trying to deal. He check out mentally at times. My mom had unimaginable physical and sexual abuse as a child. She use to space out and be angry a lot. There is a generation of Vietnam that never got help. SO many suicide or death by drugs/alcohol We no more we are so connected but guess what we are still loosing our young men and women to the dang Afgan/Iraq war. SO I have heard people saying they have PTSD cause Trump won. Seriously :huh:

gosh I can't remember age of growth spurts but I know with both of mine they would sleep a lot more. THe youngest got a final growth spurt at 17. I'm 5'3" and my dh is 5'10" average guy. my boys are 6'0 very skinny eats like crazy never gains weight, my youngest 6'3" and looks like linebacker :confused1: genetics are fascinating . also my sons looks nothing a like everyone ask they have the same dad or are they adopted

I know 2 familes like this they blame homeschooling on their kids "hating them" The first one the mom is bi-polar had 9 kids and not emotionally healthy. She may of been better when younger. But I meet her when her 16 yo daughter was homeschooling all the younger ones. I watch the older kids leave home quick. She put the others in public school. The older girls and boys left the state. The mom is bitter. The kids are still early adult I talk them on facebook. They are just happy to be away from mom The other family was a pastor family they adopted 6 and birth 6. I meet them when the oldest girl was 11. She was taking on full parenting roll. No joke I kept dropping by the house unannounced and she would be left there with all the younger kids. I just started doing this and helping her when parents disappeared. The parents would leave them overnight. I confronted the parents. They were al labout how mature she was. I kept telling how dang wrong it was and tried to help for a bout a year. It took 4 more years before dhr took the kids. There was other stuff going on in t he house. There were plenty of us reporting. The parents divorced after DHR took the kids. The women lived under years of spiritual abuse. She regret homeschool, regret all the ultra religious stuff. She is very anti-homeschooling but I think at this point she just regrets her life choices She is getting healthier but I'm guessing homeschooling will always be about being controlled so I'm guessing she will continue to be anti-homeschool

i'm 47 and my cycle is still 26 days I have one heavy day then tappers off no more than 3 days max and regular. I use progesterone cream starting on my 20 th day that keeps me from spotting or starting to early. It also slows the flow/cramp and all the pms stuff. https://www.amazon.com/Emerita-Pro-gest-Cream-Tube-Packaging/dp/B000IMQE5U this book is wonderful I read it round age 42 when I started getting the crazy period problems. I'm been 5 years just eating right, working out and using the progesterone cream for 7 days each month. I also found the calcium got rid of the night sweats for me. https://www.amazon.com/Hormone-Survival-Guide-Perimenopause-Naturally/dp/0974206709

the first think you need to ask self. What is the goal of my news source? If you watch any cable or network or read a blog its all about the viewer ship and hit. They will play up and out right lie keep their tarket demographics still watching. . ALL of them there is not going to be one that is actually unbias So then you start looking outside off the coutnry BBC is most definaitly left leaning even when covering american politicc LOL I guess cause most of the UK nations are to the left. I guess for a news source I find Reuters to be a bit more balanced. I'll read Forbes, economist and wall street journal l also. They each seem to keep journalist from both sides so different articles have differnt bents. What I don't do is watch TV or read yahoo, huff puff , daily caller and no way in heck would I get my news from facebook. I see a very dumb down america from both sides. They both will just repeat talking points from their talking heads.. But neither actually start study for themselves. I will here someone from either side make a comment regarding something like Syria. I then go into some history and decisions made that lead us up to the mess. People from both sides give me this lost look. LOL They both shut up cause they don't' really know anything regarding the situation. They are just a bunch a kids that will repeat and do what the coach tells them the play. Then when there side looses they bitch fits. I saw it 8 years ago and we are seeing in today. Yes I'm another INTJ. We really do not like stupid. LOL I'm less judging as I've gotten older but man people still just drive me crazy LOL