Hooollllly FaaaaaaaaaaaaaaCk! NO!! I mean, Yes - burn it down. Burn it all the way down! This us why I live where the air hurts my face in the winter time. It is 100% worth it.

I have no advice, but want to offer hugs.

Just set her in the litter box on a regular basis after waking and eating. She'll do the rest. You may have to cover it at first, but she'll figure that out, too. She will also groom herself.

I wouldn't be in any rush to move back to the U.S. anytime soon. Also, being in the same country won't guarantee proximity for university. We are gearing up to drive DD 36 hours, 1,730 miles to university this fall. We will still all be in Canada... 🤷🏻‍♀️

I hope he can find some answers and figure out why it happens.

So scary! Sending him healing vibes, and supportive hug vibes to you. I hope he recovers fully with no permanent damage.

Have you thought about hiring an accountability coach. It sounds like your "tendency" (Gretchen Rubin, The Four Tendencies) is full on Obliger. You will only meet outside expectations, not internal ones. It is an innate part of who you are. But, instead of accepting that part of you, you beat yourself up for being that way. So maybe all you need is a coach to hold you accountable for those weeks he is gone.

Sending healing vibes for him.

Not a thing. Just a thanks and move on moment

I get heartburn / reflux now. 😩 The only other time I had that was when I was pregnant. I just eat Gaviscon when it happens.

I'm sorry for your loss. Chances are that the tensions may spill over this week. Grief will do that. I'm sorry to say that you will have to handle it even if you "can't". It might feel hard and crappy, but if these are long-held tensions there is no way of "fixing" them, so you don't need to try. It's mainly letting them all have their big feelings and trying to keep the kids away from it. Regarding comforting your DH, if you know his love language, "speak" it more often this next while. There is nothing to make the grief easier, but knowing that you are supported and loved helps. Just be honest with him, too and say, I don't know if I should hug you right now, or leave you alone with your feelings, so I'm going to do both - I'm giving you a hug then walking away, but feel free to hold on if you don't want me to walk away and let go when you do want me to. Give him permission to not have to "use his words".

Book the ticket to Paris. Pack up your 5 books, and sit for a week reading books under the Eiffel tower and eating all the french "crap food" you can handle. I hear it's pretty good there. You already know what you want, you just won't allow yourself to accept that you want to be a junk-food eating couch potato. You are so burned out from trying to be what you think everyone else wants you to be that you don't even know who you are anymore. The thing is, you need to give yourself permission to stop pleasing others so you can figure who you are and what you want. I don't think you'll do that because you can't even eat a doughnut without hiding it. If you think it was a mistake a no longer feels like relief, book a ticket to Africa and go with him. Or meet him there later. Book to Paris AND Africa. Or sit on the couch and binge Netflix and chips. They are all valid choices. The only thing that makes any of them "wrong" is your judgement about them.

I'd never choose stacked, so I'd go with whatever option alllows side-by-side. So in this case side-by-side in the basement.

Congratulations!!

Happy Anniversary!

Very rational complaint, IMO.

Your dog sounds like a sweetheart. Sending kitty a bunch of "fattening" vibes. 💕💕 Put that weight on Chloe.

It is a LOT of work. But, they are so precious and worth it. And yes, it's just like hauling a baby around. You have to make sure you pack the "diaper bag" with all the right paraphernelia. 😁

We went pretty fast with him because he would get hangry, LOL. We'd usually do 1/2-3/4 of the syringe full, then stop and burp him and clean his face and chest up because he'd make a big mess trying to grab/latch when he was so hangry. Then we'd do the rest of it at a more sedate pace while he dozed off.

Oh, I missed the bottle part. At first we put the nipple on a small syringe because Kevin couldn't suck hard enough. He'd expend too much energy trying to eat. I'm trying to find a photo of it to show you what I mean. ETA: Yes, this little white kitten is the same brown/grey/white/black kitten from above. He changes colour every day. 😁

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My goodness, she is adorable. My sister has a 9 week old kitten that she bottle raised from the day he was born. He pooped better on homemade formula (made w/goat milk + other stuff) than the commercial stuff. He did have to have a few enemas at the vet before we got his food figured out. She used recipe #1 on this website, it was recommended by our vet. https://www.thesprucepets.com/kitten-supplement-formula-552272 Anyway, here is a photo of 9 week old Kevin McCattister, who is a now a big boy and uses the litter box all by himself. 😁

What a beautiful tribute. Rest in peace, Trooper. @history-fan, I'm sorry for your loss.

Consultant. I'd fly all over and be paid big bucks to tell everyone what they're doing wrong and how to fix it. Corporations, small businesses, schools, whatever. I have lots of opinions I could share.

Mental hurdle- Yes and no. It depends on my mood and self-talk for the day (thanks perimenopause and hormones!). Some days I'm a failure just because. Other days I'm a huge success. Like, the whole point of a being a mom is to work yourself out of a job. You still love and support them, but you've raised adults, not children. So they (except for DS23) should be capable of feeding themselves at minimum OR cooking dinner for the whole family at least a couple times/month. At this point, it should not all rest on your shoulders.