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I agree. Don’t make announcements that you’ll look for another job. But be very clear and up front that you want this job. This isn’t a time for being subtle. This is a time for frank talk. Walk in with your resume and cover letter and say, “Boss, do you have a few minutes?” Plan out what you’ll say. Something like, “Here’s my resume and a cover letter because I’m applying for X position. Frankly, I’m surprised that I have to apply for the position I was hired for and that you’ve posted for it outside the company. When did my career track change?” And then see what he says and go from there.

Apply for the job, don’t wait. Get your resume updated TODAY and write a cover letter and turn it in on Monday. Make the verbiage on your resume match the job posting. Point out in the cover letter that you were hired with the understanding that this would be your job and you’re glad they’re moving forward on that now. You can’t predict the future, so make your decision based on today, not on “maybe we’ll move”. Doesn’t matter if you need the training, apply anyway. You were told that you would have that job. It’s dodgy on their part that they’ve posted for it. I would 100% bring up in the interview that you were hired with the understanding that this would be your job. If you don’t get this job that you were hired for, start looking for a job somewhere else.

I’m a lot like you. I rarely have houseguests, but when I do, I plan it out a good 4-5 weeks out. My parents will be here as houseguests in 4 weeks and last weekend was when I made my master list of every task to be done. I do the things that won’t get messed up again earliest (decluttering any piles in the house of things that need “homes”/going on a big recycling run —we take the recycling stuff out every 3 or so months), and save the things that get messed up quickly for last (bathroom/kichen). It’s all very organized. There still will be a bit of a flurry the day or so before the event, but it’s down to a minimum.

This is why I don’t host parties. My parents are visiting from 2500 miles away for the first time in about a decade. They used to live here for about 20 years, so they still have people who know them, plus a few of my friends would like to meet them for the first time. My parents are odd people and I’ve told stories about them and people are like, “Oh, I just gotta meet your parents!” I was wondering how to squeeze in visits with some of the people who wanted to see them and my dh said, “Let’s just have an open house party while your parents are here.” HAHAHAHAHA! Houseguests AND an open house party!? HAHAHAHA! The man has no clue. Not happening. We’re just going to meet with various people for lunch out every day they’re here. We’ll tell people, “We’ll be at X for lunch on Wednesday. Come, and we’ll have lunch together.” So far almost everyone is scheduled. To me, that’s much easier than an open house party on top of house guests.

I wear a tshirt bra because I cannot stand the sensation of anything against my pimples (don’t want anyone googling words and coming to this thread), and that includes certain fabrics. I have to use readers now and I keep a pair on around my neck with a cord and I can’t stand it if the readers bump into my pimples. The bra I use doesn’t have underwire, but is just a bit thicker material around the rib cage. I buy them for something like $5 at Walmart and replace them every few months. But my bookshelf is on the small size, so I don’t have any issues with straps digging in or anything like that. For me, the bra is simply a shield against anything touching my pimples. I take it off at night and it’s ok with most of my jammies, except for one pair of jammies that has some sort of picture ironed on to it (or something like that, can’t describe it well), and I can’t stand it if that picture touches the pimples. I ought to just get rid of that pajama top. I’m the same with shoes—gotta wear them because I can’t stand the sensation of all the bits of dirt, floor, etc touching my feet all day. I like them encased and protected. So, I’m opposite other people for sensory issues. My sensory issues make it so I prefer to be encased and it makes me feel protected. But of course, I don’t have any pain issues, like straps digging into my shoulders or ribs. That $5 bra is pretty comfortable and doesn’t really hold up my tiny little bookshelf—it’s just a protective layer.

I love wearing shoes. The only time I’m not wearing shoes is in the shower and in bed. I have house shoes that I wear in the house that are for in the house only so that I’m not bringing dirt from outside shoes in. I change into outside shoes before I go out. My dh has broken too many toes going barefoot and I just don’t understand why he continues to be barefoot with all those broken toes. I don’t like the sensation of being barefoot. Every little bit of dirt or fuzz on the floor sticks to my feet and if my feet are sweaty, I’m getting that sweat all over the carpet. Yuck.

In my saddest years as an adult, I wrote a blog every day. I was learning photography and it was meant to be about taking a picture a day and sharing it, but I do tend to have a humorous streak in me, so the posts were often funny. But there was plenty a time when I would write my blog post straight, and then “humor it up.” Once I start making the change, I’m able to keep writing in the same silly vein. So, I would suggest starting to write something straight…and then humor it up. Exaggeration is usually what gets me into a funny mood.

I’m sorry, I don’t have it. My dh was the one looking it all up and he told me about it. You’d probably find it on a google search. I can try to get him to track it down again for you.

ETA: you isolate for 5 days from the first day of symptoms. So, you’ve sort of missed most of your isolating window. You might as well skip that step around your dd. Just wear a mask if you go out, and preferrably don’t go out. Oh wait…I see the pp says to count test day as day 1. My dh had read to count the first day of symptoms as day 1. Well…I don’t know then!

Take extra vitamin B complex, C, and Zinc. They help fight off sickness.

You isolate from anyone who is not infected. So, if your dd is in the house, you stay away from her, fully. Either she is holed up in her room, or you and your dh are holed up in yours. You don’t share space with her at all. If you have more than one bathroom, you don’t share it. You move your and dh’s stuff to a different bathroom from dd. The person/people not isolating will need to bring food and water to the isolator. You do this for 5 days. If your symptoms improve, you can come out of isolation, but you wear a mask 100% of the time around other people, and that means at home around your dd. After 5 days of mask wearing, and the symptoms have continued to improve, you’re free. You don’t bother retesting. We’re at that point now. My dh is a few weeks out of having covid and he tested himself and it showed up positive. He’s researched it and discovered that people can continue to show up positive on home tests well past their illness being over and well past their ability to infect anyone else. My ds17 has it right now. He’s on day 4 of isolating in his room. My dh also isolated in a single room while he was sick. The both complained mightily of how bored they were, while the rest of us had to pick up their chores. I was thinking of “getting infected” so that I could isolate in a room by myself for 5 days being “bored”. Think of all the books I could read! On a more serious note, I hope you two continue to have mild cases and improve quickly.

I went through 3 difficult years and cried, alone, every day. Well, going back to childhood, I had some serious struggles in childhood and I cried every single night from about 10 years old until 17 years old, but only in bed alone. I think my husband is the only person to have ever seen me cry, and then only a handful of times. I feel much too vulnerable/exposed crying in front of others. I like to go to movies alone because then I can cry in the sad parts. If I’m with a friend, I don’t feel the need to cry as much, or if I do, I suppress it. But if I’m alone, I can let it out in the dark of the theater. (I live in an area where the theaters are empty most of the time, so I’m rarely right near someone when I’m watching a movie.) I am not sure that I could cry in front of someone even if I wanted to. It’s just so against my grain. If you want to cry alone to let out emotions, you could try watching a sad movie. Maybe Manchester by the Sea. I bawled in the theater with that one. Or a movie about a dog dying. I don’t find it manipulative when someone cries in front of me if they’re clearly upset, but I know that others do, so it might backfire if you cry in front of the other people. Depends on what their thoughts are on crying.

I bite the bullet and spend the money on the cleanser, treatment, and moisturizer from acne.org. I *think* it works, but I just can’t get my 19 yo to use it the way he’s supposed to. But when he skips a few days, I can 100% tell, so on the weeks when he’s not skipping multiple days in a row, his skin gets better. He just Will Not Use It like he’s supposed to. But at 19, there’s not much I can do other than provide it for him and let him use it or not. Since it does clear up when he’s mostly using it as he should (I don’t think he’s ever used it religiously…I think he skips treatments quite often), I think it probably works for people who use it day and night as they’re supposed to. If you get it, read the instructions carefully, esp about starting with a small amt of treatment and building up to the full treatment over time.

If it was me, I’d prefer for it to be a day trip. For the overnight trip, I might say no, or I might say yes, but inside I would be wishing so hard that you hadn’t asked and made me figure out what I was or wasn’t comfortable with. Interesting. I am more like bolt. At that age, I fell hard for my crushes. Very hard. I know people write things off as puppy love, etc, but the love I felt back then feels an awful lot like the love I feel currently. I’m not sure I buy it that kids only feel puppy love. Maybe some do, but some fall into something deeper. Or maybe my love is shallow now but I don’t think it is.

I know a man with 4 daughters. When Frozen came out, it was on perpetual loop in their house. He learned all the words to all the songs. One day, he stopped at a light and the car next to him was playing a Frozen song and the people in the car were singing and the windows were down. My friend is a very good singer and he aaaaalmost started singing along with them, but chickened out and missed his moment. He has regretted it ever since. Ever since hearing his story, I’ve been waiting for someone to be playing a song at a light and singing along, because if I know the song, I’m going to join in. So far, I haven’t had a chance to sing along with strangers in their car, but I’ll be ready should the opportunity present itself.

I rarely drive with the windows down, but if I was driving with the windows down, I would keep it at whatever volume I like when in motion, but would turn it down at a stop light if others are nearby. But I am not a 22 year old who has extra speakers that make it extra loud so I can get attention. My idea of loud is not what other people think of as loud. I mean, I wear earplugs to every movie and to church every Sunday because those places are too loud. People who have their music up super loud are rude, IMO, especially if they don’t turn it down when they’re right next to other stopped cars.

My dh had covid just last week. The guidelines say to isolate for 5 days and only come out if symptoms improve. Well, my dh’s symptoms sort of improved insofar as some of them got better, but he still had debilitating fatigue. I was like, “Dude! You are still feeling sick as a dog! Your symptoms have not “improved” enough for you to come out of isolation. They don’t mean, ‘Some of your symptoms went away, but you still feel sick as a dog, so come on out and hang out with the family!’” I made him stay isolated for another 5 days. On day 9, he woke up feeling really good. That is the day I say that his symptoms improved. He finally had energy and wasn’t falling asleep every other minute. So, yeah, 54 year old middle-aged men aren’t going to be the same as 20-something college students. We already knew that the younger set has milder symptoms.

Not to be a contrarian, but are those older movies (anything made before 1990, still culturally relevant to the younger generations? I’m meaning, have movies before 1990 shaped their culture and are there still significant references to the movies or do people still quote them? E.T. and John Hughes movies were big when I was growing up, but were they big for anyone born after 2000? Does anyone under 45 reference E.T. or Pretty in Pink regularly? I’ve thought about this a lot, because I’ve been showing my son movies that I see as “important movies” but I’m realizing that a lot of the phrases that were famous are no longer famous. For example, just last month we watched Casablanca. My dh and I were like, “This is where all those famous lines are from like, ‘Here’s looking at you, kid’”. My ds 19 and 17 both had never heard that line. “Ok, how about ‘Play it again, Sam’ (which isn’t even the real line)?” Nope. they’d never heard of it. “This is the beginning of a beautiful friendship?” Nope. “Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of your life?” Crickets. They didn’t recognize a single line from that movie, and yet many people my age and older would have (probably) recognized them. But you don’t find references to Casablanca anymore. (Note, I watched When Harry Met Sally the other day and they referenced Casablanca, but that movie came out in the 90s.) I’m not sure that the very old movies are referenced anymore. Time marches on, you know? My best friend had posters of Humphrey Bogart in her dorm room in college, but they don’t sell Humphrey Bogart posters anymore. And John Hughes’ movies (Breakfast Club, etc.) are NOT what it’s like to be a teenager now, if they ever were what it was like to be a teenager. My kids think those movies are pretty awful and clearly see all the racism, misogyny, etc, that we didn’t see back then. They don’t see the antics in the movie as realistic or relatable at all. Wizard of Oz is maybe still relevant because little kids watch it, but maybe not. They don’t really sell all the knick knacks and posters of WoO the way they used to when I was growing up, so it’s not like people are out buying Wizard of Oz snowglobes they way they did in the 80s. You can share the movies you enjoyed as a kid, but I’m not sure they’re still relevant today, especially movies like Gone with the Wind or Citizen Kane. Maybe some later ones…maybe. I’d agree with Star Wars, but only because it’s still a big thing. Probably those Marvel movies. Those are the movies of the current generation that are shaping culture (though I’m sick to death of them.) Maybe Napolean Dynamite? It was after the 2000s and had a pretty big cultural impact, and that movie is still probably quoted by the younger set (anyone under 45), so your kids might be interested in knowing where those quote come from. LoTR is something that will still be referenced for a while, so they ought to see those. Check out this list of movies that shaped Millennials: https://www.cleveland.com/entertainment/2015/12/50_movies_that_shaped_the_mill.html Here’s a list of the favorite movies for 13-37 years olds. And lo and behold, Gone with the Wind is on there! I stand corrected. https://www.ypulse.com/article/2019/10/29/a-new-movie-has-taken-over-as-gen-z-millennials-favorite-of-all-time/ If I was going to create a list, I’d pick movies from that second link.

Oh—And my dh would get upset when I would talk about it, but that’s because from his POV it wasn’t a big deal. He had NO idea how much he was doing it, because he couldn’t remember. To him, it was only a couple of times that he forgot, so why was I being so over-the-top about it? The more I talked about it, the more hardened he got because he really felt like I was just picking on him for no good reason. From his POV, he was listening to me. But…he didn’t realize that he was immediately forgetting what I said the majority of the time (almost all of the time at the end.). So, all he knew is that he listened and then I still got mad, because he didn’t realize all the times he was forgetting. You could try keeping track of it if you think he needs that bump to make him take it seriously as a possible medical issue. Maybe with actual figures he might understand why you keep mentioning it. My dh is the sort that wouldn’t do well if I presented him with a list of times, dates, incidents, but my dh has self-esteem issues and would have thought it was just me picking on him even more. He would have felt attacked, even though I was just trying to help him. Anyway, it took my dh realizing his coworkers were complaining, and falling asleep at a red light, for him to get scared enough on his own to take action.

The reason you’re pointing it out (I just read the reply above mine), is that it’s not normal. Tell him that when someone close to you realizes something not normal is going on, they’re not telling you to shame you. They’re telling you to help you. Tell him that you’ve researched a bit and realized this could be related to sleep. Ask him to get a sleep test because if this keeps up, he is headed to early Alzheimer's. The less sleep you get, the more likely you’ll have dementia/Alzheimer's when you’re older. It’s strongly linked.

DIdn’t read all the replies because I’m supposed to be doing other things and not hanging out on social media, but after reading the first 10 or so replies: My dh used to do this. It got worse and worse. He couldn’t remember what I said, and he didn’t even remember that we’d talked at all. So if I said, “We were in the kitchen and I had just dropped that pot and I said, “Blah blah””, he couldn’t even remember that we’d been in the kitchen at all with a dropped pot. I had gone through first feeling very hurt that nothing I said mattered to him. Then angry that nothing I said mattered to him. Then scared that he might be going through early dementia in his 40s. He didn’t believe me about how bad it was and so I just shut down and didn’t talk to him pretty much ever. Not in a mean way, but because he simply didn’t remember anything I said, so it was pointless to talk. Finally, it dawned on him that he was forgetting things at work. And one day, he fell asleep waiting for a light to turn green. It was then that he FINALLY took his snoring seriously and had a sleep test done. He had sleep apnea. He got a cpap and the memory issues went away within a couple of weeks. Now…he’s a man with ADHD, so he still misses things I say, but it’s a “normal” amount for a man with ADHD. (Sorry men with adhd, you guys are notorious for not hearing your wives.) It was back to an amount that was slightly irritating, but not deeply hurtful like it had been getting. So, all I can say to you is see if it’s sleep issues. Sleep issues are very strongly related to memory issues and if he can’t even keep his short-term memories, he needs help.

I saw Dr Strange at the drive-in theater with my son. By about 2/3 of the way through, we were openly mocking the movie. Thankfully, no one else could hear us in our car. I didn’t like it at all, but I also didn’t expect to. I only went to see Dr. Strange because we wanted to see the 2nd movie (drive in is a 2-fer.) (The second movie was Morbius which most people didn’t like, but my son and I found it to be much better than the stink-fest that was Dr. Strange.) Once a character has unlimited power to change reality, the movie no longer has anything to do with story and is all about CGI. I find movies like that boring. I haven’t enjoyed most of the recent marvel movies because it’s all just a CGI-fest. At the point when that single harp note flew through the air and did…I don’t even know what…what were those stupid notes even doing?….I rolled my eyes so hard they fell out of my head and I had to dust the lint off and put them back in. I was like, “Wait…is that harp going to produce a note and it’ll be all poignant or something??” and it was and my son burst out laughing. I could go on a rant about it, but I’ve done my best to drive everything about it from my memory because it was a huge waste of time. But it was just dumb. Nothing made much sense if you thought about it for more than 2 seconds. I hear they did a bad job of editing and that’s probably why it seemed so very bad to me. It was a hot mess of a movie.

Our local SPCA makes you buy a tshirt with a logo and it’s required that you wear it if you’re volunteering with the animals.

It didn’t help that it was this particular Doctor Who costume. The costumer designer created it as a joke, but the director didn’t understand it was a joke and loved it. The director made the actor wear it, and that particular actor is a bit of a curmudgeon and hated the costume. It’s literally a clown costume. People don’t really treat you with respect when you wear your clown costume. Poor kid. I wish we could all get away with wearing stuff like this whenever we want to.