:iagree: with all the MUS suggestions.
My dd sounds very similar to yours. I tried everything to get her to do math but nothing ever seemed to click. At the beginning of the year (Jan) I decided that it did not matter if she was behind. My goal was to give her a strong foundation in math that would give her a place to start. We had been using MUS for a year before that but it was still a struggle. In a less than heartless way, I decided that there would be no math program that would make her happy about math. I choose to stay with MUS (and I would reccomend you switch to it) and I told her she needed to do one page a day, no more no less. There were a few tough days to start with but they were mild compared to the previous ones.
Now, I can happily say, she loves the challenge of math and is on grade level in just 10 months of work. She did 4 pages yestarday on her own. She feels confident about math and really likes it. There is something about the program that is appealing to her. It is a good one for reluctant math students and it is *easy* to implement for a 180 day school year. Slow and steady gets the job done. I would reccomend picking a cirr and not changing, doing one day at a time and getting her use to the rhythm. It is a good life skill that she needs and it is hill worth dying on.
All the best! You can do it!