dorothy Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Please do not preach, or tell me how lucky I am, or to make the best of it...I know all that and just want friends who know that I will behave well but that inside I will be dieing. I have to go sit with my bio family for the next three hours. They are all crazy. For some really dumb reason I felt compelled to say yes to this outing. I have not spoken to my mom in a month because of her last hysterical fit in my house in front of my children. My sister - the tyrant - is hosting us to a live production of A Christmas Carol and bought the tickets and will be IN CHARGE of all of us. I have to go solo with my four dc because dh (who would have helped as buffer) had to go in to work, Oh, my sis is POd that my dh isn't going even though he has to go to work today - OBLIGATORY. I would get drunk except that I have to drive. (That is said in jest) I may throw up though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 (edited) Ugh, that does not sound fun at all. Do you have to interact much with them? Or will the production take up all that time. I hope you make it through it okay. Stop somewhere for a treat with the kids after you leave to reward yourselves for making it. :grouphug: ( I hope it sounds sympathetic, it was meant to. I am sorry. I hate yucky uncomfortable situations and yours seems to be that and more) Edited December 13, 2008 by Mom2legomaniacs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I am sorry Dorothy. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Sympathy sent your way!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnetteB Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 You poor thing. You will get through this!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I will oblige and feel sorry for you. I am, unfortunately, cursed with a similar bio family (on my dad's side) and I completely know the feeling. Last trip I made to see my dad took me 3 years to actually do it...and it will take another 10 to make me do it again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Hm. I'm going to tell you the one thing which you didn't list as an option. I'm going to tell you to not go. Stay home. Don't feel 'compelled for some reason'. I bet you I know the reason - I diagnosed it for someone else closer to Thanksgiving. http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showpost.php?p=659200&postcount=9 You're suffering from Norman Rockwellosis and Hallmark Greeting Cardosis. These are conditions which are characterized by an irrational sentimental desire to connect with (capital F) Family. Symptoms include saying 'maybe this year it will be different', 'it is family, after all' even as your logical brain catalogues abuse and emotional trauma. (capital F) Family in this context has no connection to reality and is instead an abstract construct created from a variety of maudlin and mawkish sources, and often depicted in sentimental greeting card advertisements and saccharine Norman Rockwell paintings. Stay well and peaceful, whatever you decide to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Concentrate on the performance. Try to stay in well lighted public areas at all times! Tell them that you have an appointment right afterward (don't tell them that it is an appointment for the treat that Mom2legomaniacs suggested). It's ok if they are PO'd that you have to leave right afterward. (After all, it could happen for even reasons you have no control over - like your dh having to work!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I would get drunk except that I have to drive. (That is said in jest) I may throw up though. Try this: keep humming the "thinking" music from Jeopardy. It is my version of the private, solo "pass the bean dip". :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I am so very, very sorry. You have my complete empathy. I have had to sit through many an unhappy family gathering myself. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diana in OR Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Hm. I'm going to tell you the one thing which you didn't list as an option. I'm going to tell you to not go. Stay home. Don't feel 'compelled for some reason'. I bet you I know the reason - I diagnosed it for someone else closer to Thanksgiving. http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showpost.php?p=659200&postcount=9 Stay well and peaceful, whatever you decide to do. BTDT and I completely agree! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I'm so sorry, Dorothy. I get to hang out with crazy family members myself from time to time, and it is NO fun at all. :grouphug: I will be praying for you that it goes better than you ever could have imagined. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dorothy Posted December 13, 2008 Author Share Posted December 13, 2008 I am so grateful for all of the encouraging posts. I read some before I walked out the door. It was unpleasant but I did get through and will remember Hornblowers words for the future! My mother did start a bit of a scene in the lobby of the theater (!!!) but I whispered that I WAS NOT having it and she piped down! My sister tried to guilt me about not going out to dinner after (UGH) but I held my own and did not go. I also listened the to great advice for a treat with my poor dc. We went for sushi & gelato after! Can't thank you all enough! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Good for you! I am glad that is over and that you and the kids got a nice treat. Whew! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 I am so grateful for all of the encouraging posts. I read some before I walked out the door. It was unpleasant but I did get through and will remember Hornblowers words for the future! My mother did start a bit of a scene in the lobby of the theater (!!!) but I whispered that I WAS NOT having it and she piped down! My sister tried to guilt me about not going out to dinner after (UGH) but I held my own and did not go. I also listened the to great advice for a treat with my poor dc. We went for sushi & gelato after! Can't thank you all enough! Sounds like you managed things very well. Good for you for treating your kids afterward! Glad it's over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Good. Now next time we all want to hear that you said no to the rellies and just took the kids for sushi and gelati. ;) Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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