73349 Posted October 24, 2021 Share Posted October 24, 2021 My mom has had the last name of an ex-husband longer than she was married to the guy. I'm wondering what others do when divorcing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 I kept the same last name as my kids. Plus I'd had the name for more than 20 years at that point and it would have been a total PITA to change my passport, drivers license, bank accounts, car title, house title, and various other documents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippymamato3 Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Kept DS's last name after divorce, then hyphenated it with DH's name when I remarried. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 I have my x-husbands name. I had it longer than I had my maiden name and he didn't mind if I kept it. I like it better than my maiden name, so I don't plan to change it. We have a very amicable divorce, so I may feel differently if it was a contentious marriage or divorce. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 I am not divorced, but my last name is hyphenated and I would just drop the last part of it if I were divorced. In fact, some of my stuff (health insurance for example) only has my maiden name on it, so I go by both already. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 My mother divorced my father when I was still a baby. Kept that name. Then married a stepfather briefly and took his name. Went back to her maiden name after that, so her last name was different from mine through most of my childhood, at a time when that was extremely unusual. Then she married my stepfather, who she was married to for almost 30 years. She didn't take his name but his last name was the same as her maiden name, so she didn't need to. I took my ex husbands name when we got married, kept it after the divorce so it would be the same as oldest dd's. Then changed it to dh's when we got married. I don't think he would have cared if I kept or changed to my maiden name, but he wasn't really on board with me keeping my ex-husbands name, especially once we had kids. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 14 hours ago, Carolina Wren said: My mom has had the last name of an ex-husband longer than she was married to the guy. I'm wondering what others do when divorcing. My mum has too. Married from 1956 to 1979. Still alive 42 years later. When my father died, she briefly described herself as a widow, which was weird. My dad was married to his second wife for longer, but my stepmother chose to keep her original surname. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 9 hours ago, Tap said: I have my x-husbands name. I had it longer than I had my maiden name and he didn't mind if I kept it. I like it better than my maiden name, so I don't plan to change it. We have a very amicable divorce, so I may feel differently if it was a contentious marriage or divorce. Well, not exactly his decision, so there's that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, Ellie said: Well, not exactly his decision, so there's that. No, but since it was amicable, if it bothered him, I would have considered changing it to my maiden name. Same if he gets remarried and If his new wife is bothered by my having the name. I would consider changing it. Not 100% certain, but I would consider it. it would take a lot of work on my side to do all the leg work to change it (2 employers, multiple professional licenses/certifications etc.) I would have to be persuaded, but I’m not completely opposed. Edited October 25, 2021 by Tap 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Divorced recently. Since the kids were grown, I decided to revert to my maiden name and made it known at mediation. A month later, xh wrote me and prohibited me from using his name after the divorce. 😝 The control is strong with that one. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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