Elizabeth86 Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 What is it, 49 days til Christmas? Anyway, please don't buy my kids anything this close to Christmas especially when it was something I plan on getting them for Christmas. OMG. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Ooooo! :( Last year was the first year I got to get my own kids their favorite toys/things for Christmas, because I was super careful not to let Grandma know what they *really* wanted. So frustrating when you want the joy of giving your own children something they love and someone else does it instead. And before Christmas! Double whammy! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted November 6, 2017 Author Share Posted November 6, 2017 Ooooo! :( Last year was the first year I got to get my own kids their favorite toys/things for Christmas, because I was super careful not to let Grandma know what they *really* wanted. So frustrating when you want the joy of giving your own children something they love and someone else does it instead. And before Christmas! Double whammy! Yeah and it wasn't a huge deal this time specifically, but such an ongoing thing that it's really frustrating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rutamattatt Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 YES. We have been through that repeatedly with one particular grandparent... SO FRUSTRATING! It gets easier now that the kids are older, but I'm still slightly bitter. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 We quit telling family what gifts we were planning to buy for this reason. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 LOL. I've already started telling the aunties, "this is what I ordered for my kid for Christmas. So DON'T buy this." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 The solution is to become bitterly estranged from most family members. Then the worst they can do is give your kid a Barney the Dinosaur when they are 12years old. Oh wait...that actually sucks, too. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomeontheprairie Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 LOL. I've already started telling the aunties, "this is what I ordered for my kid for Christmas. So DON'T buy this." This. What one kid really wants... And she's tell anyone that asks... We're told family over and over DO NOT BUY. then we follow it with other amazing suggestions... But DO NOT BUY THE ONE TOY. SERIOUSLY. DON'T DO IT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeAgain Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Well, oldest ds swooped in this year and got what will be THE favorite gift for youngest ds. It is a specific age-related thing that we wanted to hold off until age 8. I'm struggling between feeling like it's the sweetest thing ever and the feeling of.........................something missing? Like, I don't get to do that thing like I did for the oldest. Which then makes me feel like a bad mom. :lol: Ah. Oh, well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 6, 2017 Share Posted November 6, 2017 Ooooo! :( Last year was the first year I got to get my own kids their favorite toys/things for Christmas, because I was super careful not to let Grandma know what they *really* wanted. So frustrating when you want the joy of giving your own children something they love and someone else does it instead. And before Christmas! Double whammy! Oh yeah, it took me a few years to learn not to share the kids' wishes when gramma called to ask about them. I did also learn to have a secondary item to give as a suggestion - not the "most wanted" thing, but something else that the kids' would like. (Unless it was a hard to think of something year. Then my own list is on full lockdown!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 That wouldn't worry me much. What does annoy me is giving them things that break in a day, chew through batteries or are just annoying and unwanted when I have given a list of suitable and affordable things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 Well, oldest ds swooped in this year and got what will be THE favorite gift for youngest ds. It is a specific age-related thing that we wanted to hold off until age 8. I'm struggling between feeling like it's the sweetest thing ever and the feeling of.........................something missing? Like, I don't get to do that thing like I did for the oldest. Which then makes me feel like a bad mom. :lol: Ah. Oh, well. Think of it this way, maybe... your older son had such great memories of a specific gift and he wanted to do the same (similar? not sure if it's something you gave oldest at that age) for his younger bro. Seems like a Good Mom thing to me. :-) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 I've had to tell my big kids with their own money not to buy themselves anything right before Christmas. That's an odd conversation but seriously the big kids want and need so little, if they buy themselves what I was planning to buy them I really will be stumped. We've have grandparents buy any random thing mentioned without checking even right before Christmas and it is annoying. I'm going to have to write that in my book of things to remember not to do and say when I am a MIL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeAgain Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 Think of it this way, maybe... your older son had such great memories of a specific gift and he wanted to do the same (similar? not sure if it's something you gave oldest at that age) for his younger bro. Seems like a Good Mom thing to me. :-) You hit the nail on the head. And it's something he still has, so the two of them can play together. :) I just....I feel conflicted and a little sad that I didn't get to pick it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 I just jokingly scolded my mil because when we went to her house on Saturday she showed us her new TV and new Keurig. I told her it was passed the point that she is allowed to buy herself things. Her response, " well no one is going to buy me a Keurig and I know that." All I thought was I'm glad I chose the other gift over the Keurig when I was deciding for her. As for kids, I tell the grandparents all the favorite gifts. Mainly because they're also the more expensive gifts and things we just wouldn't be able to consistently get for all the kids. I get the privilege of getting things that they didn't ask for but will love anyway. So far, I've chosen well. I would be quite annoyed if that wasn't the way I operated though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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