MrsWeasley Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 My nine year old just said she wants a boyfriend. No one in particular. Just to have one. :scared: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Did she say why? Is she wanting a closer friend? What exactly does she think a boyfriend does or will fulfill in her life? And hugs and good luck. Parenting is...interesting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsWeasley Posted February 17, 2016 Author Share Posted February 17, 2016 I asked her but got a non-answer shrug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 I asked her but got a non-answer shrug. Those are so helpful... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Can you ask her if she'd prefer a cat? She might say yes. ;) 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 We had a dating age requirement in long before anyone brought up the subject. It sounds like a good time to consider your future rules. :thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 As someone who was not interested in boys until 15? 16? I was stunned when DD was chasing boys on the playground in third grade trying to kiss them. She has ALWAYS been interested in boys. *sigh* I think some kids just start earlier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedicMom Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 My 3-year-old has nine boyfriends, if that makes you feel any better. I asked her what in the world she does with her 9 boyfriends(they are all at her two day a week preschool) and she said, "They tell me I look pretty and give me things I want." Sigh. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 My kids are 18, 16, and almost 12. No relationships yet. I admit, I am thankful. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsWeasley Posted February 17, 2016 Author Share Posted February 17, 2016 (edited) We had a dating age requirement in long before anyone brought up the subject. It sounds like a good time to consider your future rules. :thumbup1: My parents had an age requirement of 17 when I was a kid, and it really didn't work well. I started dating a guy at 14 and just lied about it, for years. (Yes, I'm a weirdo who married their high school sweetheart.) I ended up marrying and having kids with that guy. I don't want that kind of relationship with my kids. But, I also kind of thought I had a few years! Edited February 17, 2016 by MrsWeasley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsWeasley Posted February 17, 2016 Author Share Posted February 17, 2016 Yeah, I spent a long time brainwashing my kids into the 'it's pointless before you're an adult, it's just going to distract you and end up in heartbreak, trust me, I'm your mother and I know these things!" We managed to get to 16 before one daughter started dating; the other is waiting till she's ready for a serious relationship. Ds has a 'crush' but he thinks dating while 12 is so silly. So I'm guessing the brainwashing kind of worked. I married my high school sweetheart, so I think I messed that up. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 When DS was in public school kindergarten before we started homeschooling, two girls were arguing over whose boyfriend he was. One girl was from his class and the other he didn't know. He's also made plans to marry one of the other girls he knows from first grade. I blame an episode of "Arthur" that was about weddings. We've told them that they have lots of time to think about dating and marriage when they are older, and their dad and I didn't even meet until college. I'm not sure if we'll ever tell them that DH was once engaged to his high school sweetheart but then grew up more and changed his mind, but maybe one day if they get too serious too young. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpyTheFrog Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Makes me glad my 9 year old is adamant that girls are totally yucky. Let's hope he continues to think that for another 7+ years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted February 17, 2016 Share Posted February 17, 2016 Can you ask her if she'd prefer a cat? She might say yes. ;) DD11 says she never wants a boyfriend, never wants to get married. She wants a farm...to raise cats! LOL I told her that's OK, I'll be just as happy with grandkittens. I just need something sweet to cuddle. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kerileanne99 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 Give it a month. Valentine's day just passed! Poor kids are inundated with it:) At coop we just spent about 3 weeks with kids age 4-11 having various boyfriends, girlfriends, etc., until we just told them we weren't having it at coop:) My dd6 came home from the party and old me she had a crush on a girl:) Okaaay...I wasn't ready for that, but said okay, who is it and what do you like about them? Turns out the older kids had told her a crush was when you really liked someone and wanted to have dates (which she took as play dates!) with... 😄 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 My 9yo has had long-term crushes since KG or maybe pre-K. Recently she has started "liking" 2 boys simultaneously. :P She is still so very shy and giggly about it that I'm not exactly worried ... yet .... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 My ds wrote a marriage proposal on the front sidewalk with sidewalk chalk in kindergarten. Another son used to sneak my Lands End swimsuit catalog with him at nap time when he was 4. We were very strict with media and what they were exposed to. They were just very interested at a young age. We don't forbid teen dating. I knew when they were little it would be a losing battle. Some kids are just wired more that way. That said, you do not need to let your nine year old have a boyfriend :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsWeasley Posted February 18, 2016 Author Share Posted February 18, 2016 Give it a month. Valentine's day just passed! Poor kids are inundated with it:) At coop we just spent about 3 weeks with kids age 4-11 having various boyfriends, girlfriends, etc., until we just told them we weren't having it at coop:) My dd6 came home from the party and old me she had a crush on a girl:) Okaaay...I wasn't ready for that, but said okay, who is it and what do you like about them? Turns out the older kids had told her a crush was when you really liked someone and wanted to have dates (which she took as play dates!) with... 😄 I was wondering where this came from, but V-Day totally makes sense. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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