Copswife Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Ugh, I'm still just sick over it. Our two foster children were moved and placement had 30 days to look for another placement. They waited until the last day and then called us and asked us if we would keep them another night. We said 'yes'. So, yesterday they were supposed to work on a place for them together. They call as the caseworker is here to pick them up and they were going to ask us is we'd keep them another night. Well, the cw said to be firm with placement or they will just do this again and again. We had the kids totally packed up and ready to go. They called the cw back again and the baby was going to the office for emergency placement. ie they just call foster homes to find someone to take her overnight. And the 6 year old went a county away to a boys shelter; the shelter was the reason why we took him in the first place. We felt ill. We were mad. My husband called our pastor (his dad) for counsel and he (not emotionally attached, as we are) said to stick to our guns and let the kids go. We had prayed about this, received advice from several sources and knew this was the thing to do for our family. Even the cw thought they were trying to play into our hand and get us to keep them because we didn't want the 6 y/o to go to the shelter. It's mostly for teens and here is this 6 y/o boy going into that environment that isn't really supervised properly. It's a zoo there. I feel guilty and relieved. We were not equipped to take care of the baby. She needs a medical foster home and we are not. After our adoption of Rachel is finalized, we won't be foster parents anymore. I was torn because my heart is for fostering, but God showed me through this ordeal that my 5 kids, my husband, my family HAS to come first. I have my plate full. My kids were troopers through this, but also endured a lot. The last few weeks, I (we) were all so stressed out and that's not good. Anyway, please pray for us that we could heal from this, as we especially miss the little boy. Please pray for R and R that God will be with them and His will be done. It's looking like they will go back to bio mom, and that may not necessarily be the best thing as she's had them back once and they were removed a second time. The system has totally failed this little boy. Honestly, his mother should've lost her rights a long time ago and he'd be adopted and in his forever family. The cw thinks he'll end up back in the system along with his sister and then they'll be in limbo again for a year and a half or longer. He has trust issues as it.. I could go on and on and really have to get going as we have an ortho appointment soon. I guess I just needed to vent. -Tracie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 discharged back to local sources we just never know if they will get the care they need. I worry so. I can't imagine having to worry over a minor. Take care of yourself. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A.J. at J.A. Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 I am so sorry for what you are going through and will definitely keep your family and R&R in my prayers! This just breaks my heart and I'm not even closely involved. Hugs, Angela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ELaurie Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Your post brings me to tears for these little ones and what they have endured already in their short, sweet lives. I will pray for them, for you, and for your family. May the L-rd bless you for the care and love you have given them, and may you have a peace which passes understanding, knowing that you and are doing what He has called you to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 But try to remember that you have done a wonderful thing for them and probably made a huge difference in their lives already. Let yourself go through the grieving process or you will never be able to move on to a place of peace. Praying for your comfort and healing here. And of course for the little children that they may find a wonderful fmaily to love and take care of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 I know your heart aches. I will pray for these little ones. I have watched this happen with three different foster families. Overworked, overburdened caseworkers unfortunately focus primarily on crisis management, and kids get marginalized and hurt in the process. Yes, you had to stand your ground. It was very wrong of them to create this situation. I am so sorry. Let us know if you hear anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basketmaker Amy Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 How sad. I will pray that God give your family peace and for a miracle to happen in "the system" so the little ones don't get hurt any further. So sad for everyone :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbie in OR Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Will definately pray for all of you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melora in NC Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Praying for you, your family, and those poor children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 As heart-breaking as it is, I think you do have to put your family first. I am praying for you and your family - and for these two young ones. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Your post brings me to tears for these little ones and what they have endured already in their short, sweet lives. I will pray for them, for you, and for your family. May the L-rd bless you for the care and love you have given them, and may you have a peace which passes understanding, knowing that you and are doing what He has called you to do. Ditto :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Have been there, done that before. For us it was a sibling group of 4 kids. They waited until the LAST possible minute---as in I was in the driveway with my kids loaded up to go to a specialist. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Copswife Posted April 24, 2008 Author Share Posted April 24, 2008 Have been there, done that before. For us it was a sibling group of 4 kids. They waited until the LAST possible minute---as in I was in the driveway with my kids loaded up to go to a specialist. How do you just 'let go'? I just feel so bad for that little boy today. :(:(:( This was so hard and I feel like I let him down. Head says it was the right thing.. heart is aching. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 How do you just 'let go'? I just feel so bad for that little boy today. :(:(:( This was so hard and I feel like I let him down. Head says it was the right thing.. heart is aching. I have nothing but prayers for you and those dear little ones. It makes my heart ache just reading your words. (((Tracie))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jail warden Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 I'm so sorry, that has to be tough to deal with. I will pray for you, your family, and those poor children. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 I'm so sorry. It has to be truly heart-breaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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