Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I have neglected wearing lingerie for the last several years except a couple of times. My husband and I both enjoy it, though. I am almost 38, and I began wondering when it will no longer be appealing to wear it. I'm sure there's a difference between the sort of lingerie -- like a gown vs. garters, but it dawned on me that I probably won't feel comfortable wearing the more risque stuff years from now. Any opinions? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I wore T-shirts to bed for many years. Then suddenly a few years ago I was in a department store and saw some shortie all lace nighties. Just to remain a mysterious woman to my dh or because it was summer and I was starting to get hot at night, who knows. Dh hasn't minded tho. ;) I think it's a state of mind thing. If you're in the mood, you'll think of wearing it sometimes. BTW, I'm 52. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Being sexy - sorry, tea-ish - is much more about how you're feeling (and how your relationship is going, too) than what you look like. If wearing the lingerie makes you feel seriously uncomfortable, awkward or silly (as opposed to a little bit different or adventurous), then it's not right for you. So pick something that makes you feel confident. If you aren't comfortable with revealing attire, you can choose something loose and long but in a gorgeous slinky fabric that is the perfect color for you. Have fun :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2010 Author Share Posted April 15, 2010 I like it now, but I just realized that if I want to wear the fun stuff/more risque stuff, I'd better get a move on it, because the clock is ticking. :auto: I went to Marshalls tonight and found some fun stuff. :) Being sexy - sorry, tea-ish - is much more about how you're feeling (and how your relationship is going, too) than what you look like. If wearing the lingerie makes you feel seriously uncomfortable, awkward or silly (as opposed to a little bit different or adventurous), then it's not right for you. So pick something that makes you feel confident. If you aren't comfortable with revealing attire, you can choose something loose and long but in a gorgeous slinky fabric that is the perfect color for you. Have fun :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Oh, I don't know about that. I think a woman an older woman is able to pull off risque with just a little bit more attitude than a younger woman. Pamela Anderson is an example. She isn't getting any younger but I personally think she is a whole lot hotter than she was in her Baywatch days. I can think of many more like her: Sophia Loren, Raquel Welch, Helen Miren. I like to think I my better days are still ahead of me. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Absolutely. I should have added to my post, if you ARE comfortable in the risque stuff, go ahead and wear it, whether you're 38 or 58! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 It all works out ;) (PS I'm over 50) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I'm told that black and red lace never gets old... Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 This "tea" thing throws me every time! :D Reading the subject line, I pictured you in lingerie sipping your tea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 This "tea" thing throws me every time! :D Reading the subject line, I pictured you in lingerie sipping your tea! Lol, normally I know what it means but for a minute there I was thinking, whoa, wearing lingerie at the dinner table- with kids around? (we often call dinner tea here)- gotta open that thread. No lingerie here...it's pajamas or nothing at all. But....well, I would get rid of the mindset that 38 is getting up there and soon to be past it as far as lingerie is concerned. Its all in your mind. Maybe your taste in lingerie would change but you don't need to shrivel up and get old any time soon :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Closeacademy Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 There is a lot of variety out there and something for just about any body type. I am not real happy with my weight right now and found some things that cover that up what I don't want to show but still look good for tea.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookfiend Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Could someone please graciously explain where the tea reference originates? Is this a WTM inside joke, or am I hoplessly secluded and out of date? I also opened this post thinking that I was going to read about having a pajama day with the kiddos - but the lingere part was puzzling! Laughing at myself very hard right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2010 Author Share Posted April 15, 2010 Lol, normally I know what it means but for a minute there I was thinking, whoa, wearing lingerie at the dinner table- with kids around? (we often call dinner tea here)- gotta open that thread. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higginszoo Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Lol, normally I know what it means but for a minute there I was thinking, whoa, wearing lingerie at the dinner table- with kids around? (we often call dinner tea here)- gotta open that thread. No lingerie here...it's pajamas or nothing at all. But....well, I would get rid of the mindset that 38 is getting up there and soon to be past it as far as lingerie is concerned. Its all in your mind. Maybe your taste in lingerie would change but you don't need to shrivel up and get old any time soon :) I've been doing Bravewriter, and she advocates an actual tea time -- tea and scones -- with poetry reading with the dc. So that's where my mind went. :lol: I figured it out quickly enough, but I did have that 'what?' moment. :blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara R Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Could someone please graciously explain where the tea reference originates? Is this a WTM inside joke, or am I hoplessly secluded and out of date?. Yes, it's a WTM inside joke from a couple of years ago. Here's a thread that explains. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 ok, but how do you all pull off lingerie in a house w/ young kids? Mine are 7 now and what a pain to hear "mama!" in the middle of the night and have to shrug out of a gorgeous nightie and throw on mom-wear. Am I being dumb? Do you just keep a trusted robe nearby? Somehow I've stopped doing the lingerie thing because the kid think overlapped into everything too much. (Btw, yeah, my husband's thrilled w/ it all.) Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2010 Author Share Posted April 15, 2010 I try to wear it as a surprise. This has become more difficult when having a 20 year old in the house who does not need to be thinking about lingerie (LOL). We also have only one bathroom in the hallway, so the other night, I wore a lacy strap top and bottoms underneath my pajamas (pants and top). So, it was hidden. I think a robe would work, but I never wear a robe, so it would look odd to others -- like I'm hiding something. I wear my regular pajamas to bed. I'm only talking about wearing it before hand, if that makes sense. I have several left over from our honeymoon (where I wore a different one each night, so I for the most part just use these). It's infrequent enough that it is a huge deal when it happens. LOL I remember the first time in years I wore one to bed, I sneaked in from the hallway, and my husband was reading. He looked up and looked away real quickly (habit from looking away from magazines and such). His natural reaction was, "this is not something I should be looking at." It was hilarious. He said he felt like his heart stopped. ok, but how do you all pull off lingerie in a house w/ young kids? Mine are 7 now and what a pain to hear "mama!" in the middle of the night and have to shrug out of a gorgeous nightie and throw on mom-wear. Am I being dumb? Do you just keep a trusted robe nearby? Somehow I've stopped doing the lingerie thing because the kid think overlapped into everything too much. (Btw, yeah, my husband's thrilled w/ it all.) Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Closeacademy Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 We like afternoon tea and send the children out to play or watch a movie. It takes a little planning with children underfoot and generally one person prepares for the tea while the other makes sure the children are occupied. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I was reading one of those Chicken Soup type books a while back and there was a story with a lady that had a poor self image and her husband said ignore the mirror on the wall....let ME be your mirror. So I say, let your husband be your mirror. If it still opens his eyes, it's still workin' for ya, lol. Absolutely! I'm over 40, over weight, and I *feel* like a hippo in a tutu...but still...my dh doesn't seem to see any of that (and it does make his eyes light up :001_smile:). I keep a robe on a hook by my bedroom door. It's lightweight, but covers, and if I have to get up in the night I can just throw it on. It's definitely not how old you are, or what shape your body is, just go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I'm told that black and red lace never gets old... Rosie :iagree:....and neither does the woman wearing it! I'm 55 yrs young! DH is 44! I probably own more 'tea' wear than anything else -- except shoes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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