unsinkable Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I hate when I am on my kids Facebook pages and their friends IM them. My kids know I do this and are fine with it...it was a condition of them having FB pages. I was just on my DS's and someone IM'd him so I quickly logged off. It just just feels awkward... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 You can set it so you are shown as 'offline' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 That happens to me all the time. Its amazing to me that some kids are on at midnight! I'm an adult with insomnia, I don't know what their excuse is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LauraGB Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 That happens when I'm on dh's facebook page (he has one for one of our businesses, but in his business, everyone likes to talk and are very friendly). I just answer "this is Mrs. Dh. How are ya?" At least they know who they are dealing with, which I think is fair. In your case, you can just answer their original question and end with "I'll let ds/dd know you IM'd." Fair enough. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamturner Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I leave FB on all the time and I'm not at my desk. Sometimes I sit down at the computer and see that someone IM'd me and I wasn't there. Why don't you just ignore it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Time4tea Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 This has happened when my son is logged on to his yahoo account. I just ignore it and let him know later who IM's him. I figure the IM'er will think the account has just been left logged on but no one is there. ????? does that make sense? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ailaena Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I just answer "this is Mrs. Dh. How are ya?" At least they know who they are dealing with, which I think is fair. In your case, you can just answer their original question and end with "I'll let ds/dd know you IM'd." Fair enough. :) :iagree: Well, except for the Mrs. DH part:D Since I know her friends, it's not an issue at all with me. Except for one girl that i avoid like crazy. You could always go offline for chat if you didnt want them to see you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I was just on my DS's and someone IM'd him so I quickly logged off. It just just feels awkward... Well, if I were your ds's friend, and I IM'd him, and he immediately logged off, I might be tempted to feel a bit awkward. I'd definitely wonder if he had logged off because I was IMing him. I might even get a complex or something! :D I actually think it would be a good thing for my dc's friends to know that I sometimes hang out on their FB page. They might be less inclined to take things where they oughtn't go. I would have just said, "Oh hi, Df. This is Ds's mom. I'll let Ds know that you were here." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tangerine Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 You can set it so you are shown as 'offline' I always have mine set to offline. I'm not on facebook to SOCIALIZE! :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfatherslily Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I wouldn't really worry about it. There have been plenty of times that I've initiated an IM with someone, only to have them log off or go idle shortly after. And there have been times that people have IM'd me when I was away from the computer, but was still showing up as active (hadn't automatically switched to idle yet). I come back later and see it, but by then they're already gone. So I wouldn't worry about it:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brilliant Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 ... I just answer "this is Mrs. Dh. How are ya?" At least they know who they are dealing with, which I think is fair... I do this, too. And one of her friends wants to chat with ME when he realizes who I am. Or maybe he's just being polite. But really, if I am signed in as dd I am just checking around for a few minutes and I don't want to chat! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 (edited) Sometimes my 16 yr old forgets to log off. I just say "This is X's Mom. X forgot to log off". Kids simply say, 'Oh, sorry". I think that is pretty common and nobody seems to be freaked. I don't feel awkward. I don't read his IMs. I am friends with my 3 kids who are on FB, so I never feel awkward; I am just another visitor. I tag them with photos, my oldest teases me about my gardening talk etc. It's fun. Edited April 8, 2010 by LibraryLover Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Katia Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I always have mine set to offline. I'm not on facebook to SOCIALIZE! :tongue_smilie: Me too!! LOL! And when I'm on my dh's account, the first thing I do is set it to 'offline' so that I don't have to chat with any of his friends. I'd suggest to OP that when she logs on to her dc accounts, that she immediately set it to 'offline' then she wouldn't have to worry about friends wanting to chat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Back in the day, before FB, my son and his pals would chat via ICQ. One night, he saw a female friend log on so he sent her a message. She responded and they chatted for a few minutes. Then Ds said, "Wait a second. This isn't Karen. Who is this?" It was her father. How did Ds know? Karen's father has better spelling! ROFL! Both Ds and Karen's father got a good chuckle. Thankfully, Ds's conversation was honorable! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Journey Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 That happens to me too! I just tell whoever is IMing my girls, that it's me "checking their facebooks". No big deal and I want them (their friends) to know that I check them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted April 9, 2010 Author Share Posted April 9, 2010 Thanks, ladies. I'll have to find that offline button. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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