My mom took the box of Mac and cheese and added to it.....and I ate it. Never really thought about whether I liked it or not. Got married, cooked it for my husband, one day it occurred to me, ‘I don’t like this. Not going to make it again. ‘ and i didn’t

I think my daily coffee is both. I toss around the idea of giving my up my 2 cups a day, but I know the ritual (psychological dependency) is a strong pull for me....I get up at 6:00, go get coffee for dh and me and sit with and start our day together.

There is definitely a threshold where a little helps you sleep but more keeps you from sleeping well.

Mine too.

Macaroni and cheese.

Ha, I have had this experience many times looking at new cars. How much is the car? Well, come inside and let us check your credit. What the what! At this one particular dealership I was not the only person who could not get a price out of them. It was insanity.

To me it is the ritual. I am that way. Even with something as non controversial as coffee....If I don't have my cup of coffee in the morning things feel off for me. Sometimes I don't even like the way it tastes. I will sometimes just hold it in my hands and take a few sips over the course of an hour of watching the news with dh in bed. And I can see myself being the same way with a glass of two of wine in the evening. When I have thought I needed to cut back for whatever reason (finances, weight, just drinking more than I should) I have sometimes replaced it with a cup of herbal tea. So I don't think a person who is cranky without his nightly ritual is necessarily an addict.

Liars totally suck. I would not work for a dishonest person a minute longer than I had to.

Young adults are the worst! I feel the need to call my mom and apologize.

I am listening. I want to have a good relationship with all future DIL, but even girlfriends seem tricky to me.

Yes, exactly. My ds19 can spend a lot of money eating out and going to movies. And he spends a lot of time with his friends. None of them are doing drugs. My dss18 does too, and he is currently not doing his high school course work. He doesn’t want too. I honestly don’t think he would care if he failed completely.

That is what I was thinking. After a couple hours of feeling icky, which was probably mostly in my mind, I felt fine. We had a wonderful evening.

It would be interesting to hear more from the older ones who did see things change. It might offer some insight into the progression of mental illness.. Hopefully some professional somewhere is gathering that info.

Well, kids or anyone really can get themselves in trouble with drugs. It happens. Hopefully, that isn't the case. If this young man were in the beginning of his senior year I would offer different advice. September might be the time to exercise tough love and take away the car and the job until he gets his grades up. But the truth is at this point, 6 weeks away from graduation all that would do is cause a major bad blood between them. Now is the time to point out his options, offer help and then set their own boundaries.

Well it has been 3 hours since I ate the bad food and I think I am going to be ok. I had my son bring me an unsweet tea and that has really helped to settle my stomach. I wouldn't say I feel 100% but I don't feel like I am going to be really sick.

They didn't charge us for anything. I do normally have a strong stomach....but my mind is weak. Ha ha. Meaning I think I am over thinking it.

I am so annoyed. Met my dh for lunch and I ordered a Rueben. I took two bites...and I thought it smelled off. Third bite I spit completely out into a napkin. I had dh smell the sandwich and he agreed it was bad. So they took it away and apologized and asked if I wanted anything else. I asked for a bowl of chili....but I only took about 3 bites of that which was fine, but my stomach was just not feeling like it wanted food by that point. Now I am back at work all worried that I am going to be sick with food poisoning later. Ugh. I have a very important engagement this evening and I can. not. be sick. I wonder how long it will take to show up if it is going to make me sick?

This story is so horrific. I keep hoping to read some explanation as to why they did it.

This is a great idea. If he doesn't do the Khan Academy and master it then it might not even be a good idea to try it again in the fall. What is his major? Maybe another math might be better for him.

I feel your pain. Ds19 had pre-cal (A & B for 5 credits) and Cal this semester for 4 credits. He has had to work his butt off and I've been super proud that he has finally learned to study. And yes parenting young adults is so difficult. My least favorite so far. 😉

That is so presumptuous. Wow.

How well I remember my mom saying, 'you are not the sun and the world doesn't revolve around you.'

This is not our practice at all. Not saying we would refuse to pray for some one if asked, but not random strangers that we haven't established a relationship with.

ITA and I don't know how long this young man has had his own car and the job, but it just changes everything for teens when they get that taste of freedom and independence. Also, there is a chance he will fail and also not want to do summer school. So then he might go to the trade school (I think I read up thread there is a path to GED with that trade school) Or he may decide he doesn't even want to do that. In which case the next step is full time work and a plan to become independent with that full time job. I think it is really hard for parents to face that things they always thought would just naturally happen indeed will not be happening. That doesn't mean his life is doomed. There are many paths to happy lives.

Ha. See this is how I wanted to answer but everyone else was so understanding about her I thought I might be way off base. I do know ds19 hates to give up his room, and he is cranky about it to me but not really unkind. I do try to thank him for giving up his room and do what I can to make it easier on him. (I wash all the bedding for him after they leave and make sure nothing gross was left behind in his room)