We have had the forgiveness discussion on this board about 1000 times. I am of the mind that forgiveness, in the Christian sense, DOES require remorse, repentance whatever. But even if/when there is repentance that would allow for forgiveness that does NOT require the relationship to be completely restored or at all. And also, even without forgiveness a person who has been harmed CAN let it go and move on but the relationship won't ever be the same. I think it takes quite a bit of work to get back to the same place after something like blowing up a family with an affair/s.