This video names 4 reasons One possible reason is the cat doesn’t like the litter box. They claim cats don’t do it out of spite (mad at your daughter). I don’t know. Is the cat spayed/neutered? I think mostly the males do the territory spraying thing. I didn’t watch the full video but I have heard before that cats do not like hooded litter boxes. It’s cramped and smelly. Not sure if that’s applicable. And litter boxes should be changed out (like buy a new one) every year?

Would the air bnb give you access to a washer/dryer? Or would the hosts need to gather up bedding and you take your clothing to a laundromat? I know some hotels have a washer/dryer for guests. how often would the bnb hosts need to get involved in your stay… coming into the room to give you towels or something. I have no idea how that works! these are the types of questions I’d have

I’m not hosting one this year but when the kids were with me a few days ago I made this festive cake.

My schedule has been so sporadic I haven't participated in the threads in a while. I'm going to try to get on track more this month. Today the only exercise I did was bowling. I'm very sore on one side. Maybe a glute muscle. When I bowl I bend down low and stretch one side more. Praying I land a job near my gym lol. I have a job interview Monday afternoon.

Maybe a blueprint map with something placed on it that's not normally there for the kids to find (the kid needs to find an emergency exit. For this day the blueprint has a cow image and when they locate it, they see a print out or stuffed animal of a cow signaling they found it). I'm not sure if that type of thing would help, but during the tour I'd be more excited to spot random things than look at a plain building.

Oh! Sorry didn’t know the pet policy we were like that, too. Power was restored nearby first. And my neighbor’s meter box? was knocked off so when the street got power back she had to wait another day for the box to be replaced. Hang in there!

The podiatrist’s office has my orthotics but I can’t pick them up til they hear back from insurance. And the podiatrist office is going to be closed the whole week of July 4th so the soonest I will get them is July 10 or so. I did a recorded interview last night for Varsity Tutors. What a disaster lol on the final recorded question they say you have 15 min to prepare a lesson and then 10 min to record yourself teaching it. Googled and they don’t provide lesson plans. Sounds like a lot of work. Google had varying results for pay so I don’t know what they pay. I reserved 2 storage units. Didn’t make it to town in time for the first so canceled it. The second told me they don’t prorate (good thing I moved in on the first) and the lock I own only works on their climate-controlled units so they discounted my rent to offset the price of new lock as a courtesy. They actually discounted the rent a bit more than the lock fee. I joked with ds I’ll own every type of lock. I was told I’d need insurance. She asked if I current had renter’s ins. Once I provided my current renter’s ins info she said I won’t need to buy theirs (which is $12/month minimum). I get the kids July 7-16 so I might just stay in town all week. Ds, my dad, and I are all going bowling today. Dd doesn’t want to go and will stay home with my aunt. My gf is moving out of her place and putting it up for sale this month. She’s moving in with her bf. Good thing I didn’t move in with her. I left a bunch of stuff there so I’m going by today to get it out (food, extra toiletries, blanket). A couple weeks ago they rescheduled my intake interview for the construction class. They will tell us end of Aug if we are accepted into the Sept class. I will most likely have a new job before then.

I emailed you.

I think I've only heard "Beanee weenee" the brand... and those are a guilty pleasure that I rarely eat. I know "weenie" on its own for hot dog.

The Blue Castle. A hive boardie sent it to me a while back and I didn't get far but I've been making a conscious effort to read it lately while I ride my bike.

@Dmmetler I don't know if this is helpful at all, but the Staybridge Suites have a kitchen with full fridge. I stayed at one in Memphis a few weekends ago (using hotel points). It was like a mini apartment with couch, tv, dishes, dishwasher, stovetop. And free breakfast (and I don't mean just a bagel and cereal. Like a waffle maker, eggs, muffins you could grab to go, etc). They also have a fitness room and swimming pool. The one I stayed at is in walking distance to a theater, too, if that helps (discount Tuesdays at Malco).

I told you I might do this, but I don't know if I will continue... even for this little video it was time consuming! I would be IN the video, but I look like a mess and I just wanted to get it done LOL

@maize I think your inbox is full? I can't send anything.

I stand corrected on step mom’s cat. They did have her in MS for a bit but rehomed her when they moved to their current home because landlord said only one pet. When xh met her she had 2 dogs and 1 cat. Now she’s down to one dog. I would have ditched the man before the pets lol

My days are mixed up. By "this month" I meant I'm moving in July, not June. Oops.

It's called Office Coordinator. There's no pay listed on the job, but google results make it look like decent pay for that role at that company. One town over from the kids.

I'm moving this month (at least, into my dad's). I'm super stressed. There's so much to tell but I can't post it all publicly. Wish me luck on my job interview Monday, please. I'm also meeting with a financial advisor (free) on Monday. I did double check with another employee about the cc advance interest rate. They said it is the same regardless of purchase. And since it changes in July I asked if they knew the new rate. She said the min. is 8.25% (up from 8). But it can be different based on your credit score or something. I have a boyfriend of a couple months (no lectures, lol) and he's going to see if the cat will adjust to his place temporarily. If you aren't a brand new user and you want details just DM me.

If they hadn’t talked on the app long, maybe that was the issue more so than the date location/time. Like if she said hi and the same evening he asked her out… too much too soon maybe? My theory on her ghosting. Semi-related — the dating app world is saturated in avoidants attachment types. They stay single, become single often. Secure attachment style is hard to find. They are often taken! And lastly is the anxious attachment style. Anxious & avoidant often meet and it doesn’t work.

And I’d try to find out if she has trouble saying no in general or just to him. Definitely something to work on.

His mental illness is a concern with reactions like this. The controlling thing you mentioned in the first post was a red flag to me. Controlling on its own is a problem and may or may not have any connection to their mental illness. She’s trying to save him or she feels stuck. Super unhealthy. He needs to be redirected to professional help somehow. A suicide hotline, counselors etc. She doesn’t need the burden of a codependent. Has she seen Renfield? Lol I kid but the movie touches on that. Get her out of there. It’s only going to get worse!

Seems to me that a lot of people have a mental illness or challenge of some sort... I think it's more how they manage it than anything else. When I meet someone I don't ask them about their mental illnesses lol. It might not come up for some time. I'm pretty open but it doesn't mean I want to blurt out, "I have anxiety/depression/ocd and I take meds for it."

Ugh I hope things get fixed soon. We lost power in a storm about a week ago. I left town with the kids and had a neighbor check on the cat. We didn't get it restored for about 5 days and the local Dollar General Market still hasn't restocked most of their cool items. Monday night of this week we lost power for an hour and a half. The power company had two things going on and one of the issues was a limb that fell on the power line (and even started a fire briefly) on our street. They trimmed back the tree and the neighbors might start a petition to have it removed. The homeowner that has the tree on their property seems indifferent/doesn't want to help. Several parts of the tree fell in the initial storm and they didn't help clear them. I was just glad the power was only out briefly as I didn't want to toss food from the fridge/freezer again. And I don't even know if the local gas stations sell ice but the other nearby places that do were closed by then so that was not really an option.

Good update. I hope everything goes smoothly.

Party planning/setting up events Each work day would be a little different because the party themes change/clients change/venue changes.

Maybe the game is the problem, not the kids LOL For one, I think charades would be hard even if you do know the shows/movies. My 8 yr old mostly watches YouTube. And I can't stand half the YouTubers because so many are obnoxious either with their voices, sound effects, or lights/images. A lot of the videos are reaction videos, but some are art or other things. She has access to Disney Plus and Netflix etc at dad's house and last I checked she was into Amphibia, Owl House, and (against my wishes - it's rated MA) Little Demon. So, I have no idea if she'd do well with that game, either! If it's any consolation, when I attend trivia night I feel like an idiot half the time because my team knows more of the impressive stuff. I'm more reliable for the tv category lol.