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  1. ringworm Its fungal and can be treated with lotramin cream
  2. beef satay skewers cucumber salad jasmine rice watermelon
  3. I have never baked a loaf of bread from the book The Bread Bible that did not turn out perfectly. I always measure my ingredients by weight when baking and have even begun to convert my older recipes to weight.
  4. I absolutely agree with this. I tell people all the time that I am being forcibly retired. I have tried to convince my husband to adopt so that I can homeschool round 2 (he will not agree). So I had to face a change in life and while I thought that I might be fulfilled just puttering around, I found that I wasn't, so off to a new adventure it was.
  5. While agree with most everything you say and definitely bow to your greater experience, I have trouble with this statement. My parents bought an Atari for our family in the late 70's, early 80's. A psychologist who IQ tested me told them that I had a deficit in spatial relations and that playing video games would help. My four siblings and I always had a video game system. We played weekly but by high school only one played at all and in adulthood no one plays video games. My children have all had access to a game system for their entire lives and they definitely do not have issues with gaming. One doesn't game at all, one does a few hours a month and one plays a few hours a week and often goes weeks with no game time at all. Obviously this is anecdotal but I cannot believe that we are the only people in America with this experience. There has to be something more to the equation. And this, I agree with 100%. If any of my children had shown trouble managing game time, the system would have been gone. We had very limited TV at our house when the kids were growing up (less than 5 hours a week and we didn't have cable) and when they were 12, 9 and 6 we got a DVR, overnight they felt like they "had to watch" all the shows that we were recording. Instead of reading they were asking to watch TV. I got rid of the DVR that week. No one needs to feel compelled to watch Good Eats, Mythbusters and Cyber Chase.
  6. We do have a power recline sofa, but it is not in the main, public floor of our house. We have no TV on the main public floor. We have a walkout basement media room with a 92" projector screen with a u-shaped couch. On the main floor we have two living areas with a couch and loveseat in one and two loveseats in the other. Then upstairs we have all the bedrooms come off a central "loft" room that is open to the main floor. We have 7 bookcases, a 32" TV and a power recliner sofa there. The power recliner sofa is 8 years old and still works beautifully. Our children were all ten and up when we got it. My parents got a regular recliner sofa at the same time (no power).They have no kids living at home but 12 grandkids between 1 and 24 in age who visit frequently and it has been broken for a few years. I think that power ones are less apt to break because you don't have to try to jam them back in.
  7. I too have a a Silhouette Cameo. I have really enjoyed having it and I would say that I use it monthly. I primarily use it for paper cutting and for writing. It created all my Christmas gift tags for me. I have used it to address envleopes (very fancily). We also use it to cut heat transfer vinyl (shirt iron ons) and make custom t shirts. My daughter anted to get a Lord Nermal shirt for her sister (my other daughter) but the shirts were being shipped from china, expensive, slow and in unrealistic sizing (a woman's L was a girls 12) so she made her own on a t shirt from Old Navy.(yes I am sure that it is copyright infringement, but she only made one and is not selling them) My son made a shirt for his girlfriend for her birthday. I rarely do nay projects with vinyl. The silhouette design store has many, many designs and most are .99
  8. You seem very knowledgeable about genetics and neurobiology. So two questions: 1. why do some people become addicted to video games and some do not? My sister has dealt much more with sons who seem mildly addicted (refuse to stop playing, bad behavior when they do play, constant requests to play) while my children seem totally unaffected, We have never NOT had a video game system, right now we have two and we have had as many as three. One of my daughters plays very occasionally, one never plays and my 18 year old son likes to play but he has never played more than two hours at a time, frequently goes days and weeks without playing at all. Even as a child he rarely begged and always had very balanced interests. I have always attributed it to the fact that TV played a very limited role in our lives. We have no TV at all on the main floor of our home and never have, none in any bedrooms. We watch less than 1 hour a week most weeks. My sister has a TV in the living room, they watch a lot more. 2. My daughter recently had genetic testing done for medical reasons (to prescribe medicine) she was told 1. that most people are born as an"insulated wire" with a protective coating and that she was born as a "frayed wire" missing that coating and that she would find herself more anxious and more prone to trauma (which is true, she does not have generalized anxiety but she does have PTSD and OCD, both of which are in the anxiety family) 2. That her brain uses dopamine at a very high rate, higher than most people and that would make her prone to low working memory and poor executive function. The doctor suggested that when her OCD is under control she may want to try a stimulant med. If I understand this right, he basically diagnosed her with ADD? I had to laugh a lot. She is profoundly gifted and has the best executive function skills I have ever seen. Her working memory seems to be holding up as well in that she had 3.96 GPA in college when getting a theoretical math degree and has a 4.0 across one year of math grad school and one year of a special education masters degree. However, she has always had "absent-minded professor" syndrome, loosing everything constantly, and she claims to not pay any attention in any of her classes and she definitely isn't reading the text book. My question is if a brain that uses dopamine very, very quickly is an ADD brain how does that relate to dopamine and reward centers and video game addiction (as a note she is my kid that has never played video games)?
  9. My transition is going. I have days of great excitement and days where I wonder why anyone would hire me for this job. My story, it has more that a little luck in it but I am beginning to think that is the way they all go. I got married between my sophomore and Junior year of college. When I graduated 1.5 years later (one semester early) with an electrical engineering degree I was four months pregnant with my oldest (on purpose, my husband was commissioning into the Air Force and starting an engineering career during the start of my husbands military career just wasn't going to work, too much moving at first). Six years later my son was born just two weeks after I began homeschooling my oldest in Kindergarten. I homeschooled three kids through high school. We moved all over the world and I homeschooled. I never had a side job at all. About 8 years ago we moved to the Washington D.C metro area (we live about 10 miles south of the pentagon) and my husband completed the last two tours of his military career here and then retired here. At the same time we joined a homeschool co-op (our first ever) and I began teaching science and technology classes at the co-op. About three years ago I thought that maybe I would enjoy having a job when my son graduated but I was thinking work in a store or teach homeschool classes or something. I thought of writing and selling my own homeschool engineering curriculum. I kept saying that I wanted a very flexible job. My husband encouraged me to take a year off and just relax. When my son started driving a year ago, I started spending a lot more time alone at home and I realized that I was bored. I love quilting and reading but really after two hours I was done. I looked at the dusty ceiling fan and realized that I had been using homeschooling as an excuse not to dust things for 18 years and that I needed a new excuse. I also realized that my son's departure for college made us empty-nesters and my mother started talking about all the fun crafting we could do and I realized that while I love my mom and no one can escape the passage of time, that I was seriously unready to be in the same stage in life as my mother. If you will remember, I was 22 when I had my oldest daughter and the final realization for me was that at 46, I could work for 20 years (due to my family history in the military that is a career in my mind) and still barely be retirement age. I decided that I didn't know what I was being flexible for and I decided to look for a career. I decided not to go back to school, we are already paying for my son to go to college and I have a BS so I didn't want to spend the money. I wanted to actually make some. My initial plan was to teach in the local homeschool enrichment programs. We have 4 within a short drive of my home. I had discovered over the last eight years that I loved teaching (I had moved on to an admin position at our co-op and wasn't teaching and I missed it) and really that is what I have been doing as a career for the last 18 years. I had a friend that had moved from homeschooling into teaching in the local catholic school system, I decided to get some advice from her about how to write about my co-op teaching experiences on my resume but didn't figure that I could follow her path as she has a masters in computer science and was actually employed as a computer scientist for many years before having kids while I got a degree and then went straight to housewife 23 years ago. We met and she helped with my resume (she suggested that I emphasize class size and provide a course description) she encouraged me to apply to teach math in a k-8 school. That seemed far-fetched but I figured I might. In our area, the schools do hire people without teaching certificates, part of the contract is that you will earn the certificate in your first 3 years of teaching (public schools) or 1 year (Catholic schools). The next week she called to let me know that the high school she was teaching at was losing a computer science teacher in her department and that she wanted me to apply for the job. I did. I got a call for an interview before the week was out. At my interview, I was told that there was also a position coming open to teach physics and engineering and that they wanted me for that position. They were impressed that I has taught classes of 12-20 students, that I developed my own engineering curriculum, that I knew all the physics books they were using and most of all that I told them I was looking to be part of a community and for a career, that I was willing to attend training in the summer and that I am passionate about teaching science and technology. I has a second interview a week later and was hired less than a week after that. The spring was weird. I am a linear thinker and I was still homeschooling my son and thinking about my self in that way, but I had meetings to attend, work computers topics up and training to schedule. My son is now graduated and I am scheduled for a two week long training about two hours away in July (I have a hotel room) and I am writing lesson plans. I am beginning to think of myself as a teacher and a working woman. It is odd at times. I worry about when I will grocery shop, and about cooking dinner and car maintenance and all the jobs that I currently do but I am also excited to try the "other life". To get to walk both paths through the woods. I worry that I am not good enough and wonder why they hired me and then I plan my experiments for kinetic energy and I get all excited for the fall. It is a lot to adjust to at once, no kids and a job but maybe that is the best way. My opportunity came about through networking and through leveraging my experience. Obviously a lot of luck was involved in that I live in an area that hires people without teaching certificates to teach and in that I had someone putting in a good word for me. Although I will say that last week, I got a call asking if I had a position for the fall at another diocesan school where I know no one. I would love to have a group for others making this transition and who have made it. We can compare notes on our new careers and on handling all the responsibilities left from our "old" ones too.
  10. I don't think that there is one here, but I would be interested in one too. After eighteen years and homeschooling three kids through high school, I am going to work full time in August. Our home life is going to change and while I am very excited by my job (and chose to make this transition) I am sure that having others to compare notes with will help. Tania
  11. Warning...Light moment ahead. its a joke. Yes, but according to our pledge of allegiance, we are indivisible...except 50 is definitely divisible and so is 52. 53 would fix that.
  12. Every word in this is full of common sense. Amen.
  13. I do not have a stance on requiring visitors to get immunizations. I know that I am going to be eaten alive for this and I debated not posting at all but someone needs to bring some serious reality to this discussion. I am not saying that parents shouldn't require guest to be immunized, they can do whatever they want. I am not saying that people shouldn't get the immunization. They should I am not saying that watching your child suffer with pertussis isn't awful. It is. I am simply saying that acting as if this is a common danger lurking in every corner is utterly ridiculous. We, as humans, are very bad at assessing actual danger vs. perceived danger and the kinds of statements people are making upthread do not help this. Posters are discussing what a tremendous and real risk this is. According to the CDC fewer than 20 people a year die from pertussis. in 2016 there were 323.4 million people living in the US. According to the CDC there were between 15,000 and 50,000 cases of pertussis. Going with the larger figure that means that .015% of the people in the US got pertussis and 99.985% didn't. Fewer than 20 died according to the CDC so .00000618% of US residents died from it and 99.99999382% didn't.
  14. It was not a fraternity situation. It is a military school and every student is required to participate in the organization that perpetrated the hazing.
  15. We live in a major metro area with a very large and tight-knit homeschool community. Everyone knows everyone else. My son is attending a small but well-known college in our state in the fall as a freshman. I learned last weekend that a well-loved acquaitance from our same homeschooling circle who attended the same college that my son will attend is leaving because he was the victim of a rather egregious hazing incident. My husband, son and I have spoken with the victim and his family. The victims family feels that it was a rare and isolated incident. The school initially handled it well, calling the police and punishing the perpetrators. The victim's family however is leaving because they want to see a most robust prevention plan. My family is content with the prevention plan and the handling of the affair so our son is still going. But now every time I see someone they feel a need to tell me about the hazing and express shock that we are still allowing our son to go. It is going to be a long 10 weeks until August.
  16. That is weird. Congratulations on the job though! I accidentally got a job when I was 19. My roommate worked for a local hotel as a banquet waitress. It was in January and the hotel was swamped with banquets between winter weddings and dining-ins (a military tradition, I was at a senior military college) Anyway one weekend they were especially busy and they asked my roommate if she had any friends who could come in for the weekend. My fiancee was away at Desert Storm and I had nothing better to do so I went in to help out. At the end of the weekend they passed out schedules for the next weekend and I was on it. I showed up and just kept working until finals in May.
  17. I have no experience when it comes to actually running, barefoot or otherwise, but I can share this experience which makes me think that what works for one person may not work for another and some people may just do well with shoes with no support. A few years ago my mom gave me two brand-new pairs of sandals that had never been worn. They were just too small for her. They were a famous brand that is well known for supportive, quality shoes. That whole summer I had the worst plantar fasciitis ever. I could barely hobble each morning. When summer ended it went away and was gone all winter. The next spring I pulled those sandals out and it came back. I figured it was the shoes and threw them out. It never came back until this year. For the last couple years I have worn Born sandals with almost totally flat soles and no support at all, no problems. This spring I decided to take up walking and build up to running. I went to the running shoe store and got fit with very expensive shoes after foot scans, video, etc. They cause plantar fasciitis in me. I also bought 2 new pairs of sandals. They are by Merrel which makes hiking boots. They are also causing PF. My feet feel better when I am barefoot (which I do not really enjoy) or wearing totally flat-soled shoes. Of course this is exactly the opposite of most peoples experiences who find that if they have PF they cannot go barefoot and must wear supportive tennis shoes all the time. I am about to try minimalist running shoes, my feet seem to like the idea.
  18. Cooks Ilustrated rates the cuisenart dutch oven as highly as the Le Cruset and it is 1/3 the price.
  19. I am pondering this and trying to decide if I agree. I was the young girl you mentioned. I was in no way raised to early marriage or forced to it. I met my husband 3 months into my freshman year of college and I knew that he was my husband. We were engaged six weeks later, I was 19. Married before I was 21. I had my first baby at 22. My husband was in the military. I went to college on a full scholarship for engineering, graduated from a 5 year program in 3.5 years with a 3.5 GPA. Than I stayed home and raised my kids for 18 years. I sacrificed but so did he. I didn't work so we didn't have the "stuff" and vacations that his co-workers did. The thing is that I didn't lose my intelligence or drive due to our early marriage. I have run more groups that most people will ever contemplate, brought three organizations from paper systems online. Taught engineering to homeschoolers and have now parleyed all that experience into a full time teaching job next year. I am having my career, just at the end of my family, not at the beginning. My daughters are both now older than I was when I got married and one is the same age I was when I had my second child. They do not have marriage prospects in the next year. They are having the careers first and both would, frankly, rather be married. Meanwhile my 18 year old son has expressed a plan to be married within a few months of college graduation. He is rethinking his career goals because his previous goal isn't very family-friendly. If he truly does marry at 22 he will be sacrificing just as much as I did. I do not think that early marriage is a cure for the hyper-sexualization for our culture. The problem begins long before age 18 or 20 and has nothing to do with purity, marriage, or religion.
  20. my thought. In the video, Dr. Dines makes comments several times that the age when kids are first exposed is 11. She also mentions the brain's desire at that age for adventure, new information etc. There was at least an implication that the longer you can put off exposure and full access the better. On the "conservative about teen cell phones" thread these is a group people (me included) who have adult children that now say that their children will have no cell phone access until they are adults (my daughters didn't have cell phones until 15 and 18 abut had iPod touches at 11 and they are opposed to any personal devices that access the internet). Obviously we all admit that the can and will still have access to unsavory things though friends devices etc, but that is wholly different than carrying around and having access to unsavory things 24/7. So what we can do is limit our childrens access. No TVs or computers in bedrooms, common room access only, no personal devices until they are much older and their brains are more developed. Yes, they can and will be exposed but Dr. Dines implies that there is a difference between single, limited exposure and full access. I know for a fact that all three of my adult children were exposed. One of them was given unrestrained access and she is dealing with PTSD today from the culture that arose from that exposure.
  21. I gave natural deodorant a try because every white shirt I owned turned yellow in the armpits after the first wearing. It was ruining my clothes. I seemed to find that it was due to oxidation of the metals in the antiperspirant but I couldn't find any product for women that was deodorant only other than natural stuff. It was try a men's product or try natural, I decided to try natural. Not a single one of my shirts from last summer had stained armpits at the end of the summer.
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