If it's *her* money, then that'd be a choice that she makes. Maybe your dd needs some sort of budget, with the understanding 'you'll have $20 (or whatever) for outings (or whatever) this month, but when it's gone, there's none left'. I mean, she'll run out and end up not being able to get food at the movies/bowling, and that'll suck. But in the long run, she needs to learn a) budgeting and b) some people are moochers, and the more you let them mooch the more they'll do it.