You are not crazy Imp, you are a perfectly sane, caring mother. :grouphug:
About 90% of the clothes here in OZ are completely unacceptable for the age they are meant for. My DD is in size 7 now, which means size 7-14 (so tween/early teen) clothes. I am SO glad I can sew clothing for my children because there is NO way my DD is wearing clothes that look like they were designed for adults :)
I totally get what you were saying.