I'm up early because of the time change and an exciting day ahead. My 25yods is getting married this afternoon. It's going to be a long day but fun. Leaving our house at 8 to help with decorating the venue. All my kids are in the wedding except for one. All my grandkids are in the wedding except for the baby. Can I share the cutest thing? They have 10 kids walking as the flower girls and ring bearers - calling them "The Fellowship of the Ring". They are so cute - youngest boy is 18 months. Oldest is 10. Instructions to the oldest kids - if a little one is stalled or laying down in the aisle scoop them up and carry them with you 🤣

My mil came down with her first case of Covid last week after flying for the first time since 2020. Now she has passed it on to my fil. They are both in their mid80s.

Lol! We order ice cream cakes from a local dairy store and found out early on that it's not an everyday thing for their employees to ring up. We order frequently so quickly figured out that the cash register key for the cakes was under "pies" after watching employee after employee hunt for how to ring these cakes up. After a while we would just tell them when we started the transaction and would get really strange looks 😆

We've a rehearsal dinner to host early in November and I've decided for dessert we're doing various cookies but my future dil is gf and dairy free (also sugar free but she does make exceptions for that). Any suggestions for some choices for her that aren't too complicated to make? I was going to find a bakery but then thought maybe the hive would come through with some great suggestions 🙂. Thanks!

I was asked in that thread why I didn't just make a dentist appointment for my dh who has had two crumbling teeth for the past two years. I answered that he's an adult and needs to make his own appointments. Is that an unusual thing? Do you make your dh's medical appointments? I have seen my fil become so totally dependent on his wife that it scares me. She hands him his meds and vitamins to take at the right time and makes all his appointments. At this point, he doesn't even clean his own glasses, she chases him down every morning to clean them for him. Now she's starting to have some age related memory stuff and I'm sure that soon I'll have to take on that role and it's ridiculous! There is absolutely no reason he can't do that all by himself. A few years ago something came up with my dh's health and I told him he was the one dealing with making appointments and refilling meds on time and I told him it was because I didn't want to become so dependent on me that he can't do that kind of stuff for himself. So I guess what I'm saying is that I have deliberately made the decision that as long as he is able, my dh is in charge of his own health. Is that unusual?

Because he is an adult and is perfectly capable of scheduling an appointment that will fit in with his schedule. If he asks me to schedule it for him, I will be happy to and have offered to do that.

My husband has a similar situation only he has two crumbling teeth since before the pandemic. He just thinks he's ignoring them but he picks and picks at his mouth with toothpicks constantly and it is driving me nuts! Dude, just get them fixed already! I've just given up asking him to schedule an appointment. He's not going to get much sympathy from me when he finally starts having pain.

My 7th grade dd: Volleyball (soon will be basketball): Practices and games average four times a week thirty minutes from our house. I keep the books so I can't skip any games. Co-op three Fridays a month from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. (40 minutes from our house but I can drop them off). Teen Bible Study twice a month in the evening (another 30 minute drive in a different direction). My 8th grade son: Soccer (averages three practices/games a week) same distance to drive and I can combine those trips as they are in the same general directions most of the time. I've only seen one soccer game this year. He also does co-op three Fridays a month and is considering playing basketball for the first time ever this year. He also does Teen Bible study twice a month. My 11th grade son: Soccer (see above) will soon turn into basketball with an up in the amount of games/practices. I keep the books for basketball too so no skipping any games. He also works between 20 and 28 hours a week at our local dairy . . mainly three days a week (the days of no practice but when he has any other unexpected day off from sports they are pulling him in to help cover. It's his choice . . . he wants to go to flight school and this is how he's going to finance it - I'm proud of him! He doesn't have his license yet so we have to drop him off and pick him up - about a 10 minute round trip. Only problem is he closes which for Saturday nights means I need to stay awake until after midnight - one of my biggest challenges! We are way busier outside the house than we have ever been and there is no way I would have been able to keep up with this schedule when my house was full of babies and toddlers but our lives have changed and now we can. We still did sports back in those days but that was all. . . in fact, this is the first year the word co-op has entered our vocabulary!

I must be getting old, too.

I was almost Carrie which was my mother's grandma's name. Ended up Janet after my mom's best friend who also named her firstborn daughter after my mom, Karen. When I was younger I always wished that Carrie had won. I never met the lady but from all reports she was a spry, happy person and I would have been honored to have her name 🙂

Praying for your brother

Love my Bosch. Worth every penny

We've had two broken necks among the elders in our family in the past three years. Falls are a big deal and anything that you can do to convince her avoid them is important. I tried and tried to talk my mom into physical therapy but none of her drs. ever mentioned it and she was loathe to bring it up so her walking continued to deteriorate rapidly over the last years of her life. Her last fall led to her demise as she was on the floor for several hours, broken neck and bleeding (blood thinners). She never regained her strength. I wish she had begun to work at the physical therapy when she first began to have trouble walking but she wasn't willing and that was her decision. If you can convince your mom, I would push for physical therapy! Maybe you or your dad can get her drs. on board with specific recommendations.

I was reading parts of this thread to my 17yods last night and now we are even more thankful for his job at a local restaurant/ice cream place. Yesterday morning we realized a soccer game had popped up on our schedule during a time when he usually works next week. He requested it off and was notified within 30 minutes that it was approved. He also has a very consistent schedule. In the summer it varied a bit but since school and fall sports have started it's the same every week.

Yes, at least I will get it an my three youngest who live at home. I assume my dh will get it, too, we just haven't really discussed it. The timing is a challenge though because we are smack in the middle of volleyball and soccer seasons. I was looking today for a gap in games and can't find any until about the third week of October. My 25yods is getting married Nov 6 so it would be best to have it done at least two weeks before those activities. We'll see. My son and his family who live overseas are arriving next week after multiple flights to stay with us for the foreseeable future. I've been hoping our immunity carries us through whatever they might be exposed to on this trip.

My mom was in hospice care for about 24 hours before she died. This was a separate wing of the hospital and though it was a short time, they were wonderful. They helped us through that day, helped Mom be comfortable and were so kind. I'll never forget their kindness, gentle spirits and the wonderful knowledge they were able to convey that helped us to deal with the different steps Mom went through that day.

This may not have been appropriate on the teacher's part but it's not like it was duct tape. Masking tape barely sticks to skin or doesn't stick very long unless it was some kind of super strength masking tape. I was probably one of the quietest kids in my class but one day my best friend and I were cutting up in sixth grade math. The teacher drew a small circle on the chalkboard for each of us and made us stand for the rest of class with our noses in the circles. I was mortified. It would probably be deemed a horrible punishment now but I'll tell you, that was the last time I ever got in trouble in that class and it didn't injure anything but my pride.

I feel sympathy with the teacher though because that was probably the only time she had to concentrate all of her efforts on the kids who needed a little extra help in math. The teacher's are often between a rock and a hard place on that kind of stuff.

Thank you for this. She has an Android phone so maybe I can make this work.

Paper doesn't help because she really can't comprehend most writing very well. I'm updating the phone and email to mine as much as she will let me but there are a few things that are constantly slipping through the cracks.

Some may remember my aunt who suddenly began having major memory and cognitive issues last summer. Surprisingly, she's doing much better. She was diagnosed with low B12 levels and taking supplements along with some coping mechanisms she has developed seem to be helping a lot. This summer our major problem centers around technology. She has an iPad and a cell phone. The iPad she seems to primarily use for jigsaw puzzles. The cell phone she uses as a phone but also reads her email and receives texts. She is frequently getting agitated over texts and emails because she will read something, then not remember how to reread it. She calls me and gets angry if I can't solve the problem. I think we've got the email figured out. We can copy it all to me as a separate folder that way if she needs me to I can see it, too. Texts are another story. Is there anyway to have texts automatically duplicated and forwarded to another phone. In the past week her cable company (in a different state) and her homeowners association has given her info through texts that we/she needed but it turned a simple thing into a big deal because she either deleted the texts or couldn't remember that they were texts and couldn't find them again. Right now she lives about 20 minutes from me which means I am driving back and forth frequently only to solve electronics issues. I told my dh I was going to throw them in the pond by her condo - j/k, mostly. In a month she will be 12 hours away for the winter. I need to get this figured out before then. How have you dealt with this stuff with aging and confused people?

This what we've done once they reached a basic competency (being able to keep the car straight, understanding how the brakes feel, etc.). Because of where we live there is a lot of highway driving involved in going anywhere so they need to get used to it. Most of them also learned to drive in our 12 passenger van - lol! My oldest was sure he could pass the driving test and manueverability test in the van but at the last minute chickened out and drove a smaller car 🤣

Child #5 moved to the dorms on Monday. He insisted he didn't need help so I assumed he was packing things up back in his room. As I was leaving for an extended errand I stuck my head in the door to check on his progress and zero had been done. He was gone when I got back but if you surveyed his room you couldn't tell he had actually taken anything with him except part of his "college" pile of supplies (comforter, towels, microwave and mini-fridge) had disappeared. He returned that night to pick up the new sheets he had forgotten. He returned last night to pick up some clothes and his computer and to return the car that we told him he couldn't have on campus this year. He texted to ask dh to bring him some hangers today. (dh works at the same university). It's probably a good thing he didn't go too far away from home - LOL!

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"structured"