I also say ER now. And have him keep his leg as still as possible. His movements could cause it to go deeper and (God forbid) tear into muscle or vein.

Of course people CAN change, but trying to make someone change is completely different.

Not a parent ( ;)), but I was raised by such a parent. As a sensitive child (and still pretty sensitive as an adult), it did hurt and sometimes I think back and feel hurt all over again. Your husband isn't helping your son to develop a healthy way to show his feelings. Eventually, your son may decide it's better to NOT show his emotions and hold it all in. And that never leads to anything good. As other previous posters mentioned, I wouldn't count on change after 16 years. You may just have to coach your son to ignore his father when he does such things. You can't change your husband's actions, but you can teach your son to not react due to them. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

Of course they can't know, but it happened in the US into the 50s and unfortunately, it continues to happen in other countries. Here's just one story from an EE birth mother discussing the pressure put on herself and her husband to put their son into an institution, where he would receive "proper care": http://guests.blogactiv.eu/2014/12/12/a-child-with-down-syndrome-placed-directly-into-an-institution/ There aren't any programs in EE similar to Early Intervention. There aren't any supports for developmentally, physically, or otherwise delayed children. Until the medical community in EE understands the variation of capabilities within the DS community, there won't be any change.

I don't use eBay, so I don't know how getting a refund works, but that's what I'd do. File a dispute or whatever it takes on eBay. It sounds to me like he knew it didn't work, or had a good chance of not working, and is trying to make it a you problem.

I'm working on becoming more grey in my thinking. I'm very much a black/white thinker, but it's never served me well. Being able to look at both sides, as unbiased as possible, has helped me to see the world in a much better light. Of course, I'm nowhere near where I'd like to be. But, it has caused me to change a few of my views. I also struggle with my social base. I tend to just stay quiet, unless asked. I sometimes wonder if they really knew how I thought, they'd drop me. But I recently moved away so it's not as much of an issue. It still bugs me, though.

For those commenting on this thread, I can assume the vast majority have encountered at least ONE adult with Down Syndrome. This is not so in MANY Eastern European countries. Due to the lack of medical care, social awareness, and acceptance, the majority of children with DS are placed in institutions upon birth. At the age of five, many "age out" and are placed into adult mental institutions. Does every child deserve a family? Absolutely! But unfortunately in this situation, the surrounding society and culture come into play. If her story is to be believed (and I really don't see anything that doesn't line up with the father's version), then she saw an opportunity for her child she could not give him. If her story is to be believed, her husband gave her the option of raising him together in Armenia or taking his son to New Zealand and raising him by himself. She made a choice -- one she felt best for her child. Many medical professionals in EE see children with DS as lost causes. Sure, she could have fought tooth and nail for his whole life. But for what? Sub-par medical and developmental care? It's an unfortunate situation. But there really doesn't need to be an either-or battle in terms of sympathy and compassion. It wasn't too long ago that women in the US in the 50s were being told their children with DS were stillborn. It wasn't too long ago that doctors were using heavy duty scare tactics to scare women into giving their DS children over to the state. All because of fear of the unknown.

I have to ask -- in regards to the bolded, have you actually ever met a child named Syphillis? I only ask because I think this is what others were trying to say upthread about classism and the like. When you hear Syphillis, or Lemonjello and Oranjello, or De'niece and De'nephew, what images do they conjure up? What race are the parents who named their children such names? This series over on Baby Name Wizard sums it up well. The humor in those "I-know-a-woman-who-has-a-cousin-who-has-a-daughter-who-named-her-child ......" stories is lost as soon as the racial and socioeconomic background is mentioned. So, we don't mention them. I'm not picking on you, kiwik. Just something I thought was worth bringing up.

The way you pronounce it is my favorite way. If we ever have a daughter, I really love this name, but worry about having to constantly correct it.

Poor baby. He's SIX. The people he loved and trusted most scarred him for life. I'm glad he was able to tell someone at school.

Interesting. I was an anxious child, and as an adult I've been diagnosed with GAD and OCD. But I agree with texasmama.

Urgh! TurboTax was the only one that allowed me to e-file my state return for free :glare: I guess I'll be using Tax Act and just cough up the $14.99.

I didn't want to like this, so instead I'll give you a :grouphug: . I hope you're feeling well soon!

Just a fun little thread to help me procrastinate some more :laugh: I should be working, but instead I'm reading the boards and floating around other forums I frequent.

Salt & Vinegar Lays. Yum!!

While periactin was first used as an antihistamine, it's now wildly used for nausea. It's not like zofran, which treats acute nausea, but is taken daily to prevent chronic nausea.

I'll have to look into it. We only use KY because it's one of the cheaper options on Amazon LOL

KY here. Though, I'm not a huge fan. I'd like to try coconut oil, but I can't see DH being too thrilled about giving that a try.

This little mix up had me giggling :)

WIN.

Nothing confusing. Smokie for our 19-year old female kitty. I don't remember if the shelter named her, or my mother. I think it was my mother, though. She's grey. Tigger for my baby boy that passed away 2 years ago at age 10. We brought him home at 7 months and he was a bouncy little guy. And a goof. Lily for our 9-year old girl. She was originally named Hallie, after the Halliwell sisters from Charmed, but it never really stuck. Lily did. I did have a Hamster named Snuggles who hated people. And two parakeets, Cloudy (blue and white male) and Zee (yellow and white female). Zee's name was eventually changed to Sunshine.

Tofu, beans, eggs. I like salsa and beans with tortilla chips. Easy and cheap. Hard boiled eggs. Nut butters. Soy, sunflower, almond, etc.

I'm so glad that he felt safe to come to you. Whether it was a one-time thing or not, I'm sure he'll remember the kindness.

I'm with you there! I also smile when it's awkward. Everyone knows me as a "smiler," but it's usually due to nerves/anxiety/awkwardness. But yeah, I've laughed when receiving troubling news.

I think apostrophes that are used incorrectly, usually seen on a store's signage. Fruits' and Vegetables' and the like