I have a 17 yr old has been doing her own laundry since she was 10 for this exact reason. Yes 10. She FREAKED out b/c something she wanted to wear wasn't clean.
Gee, weeelll it WASN'T in her basket but apparently my mad mom skillz should have read her mind & picked it up from under the BED! Instead, my mad mom skillz taught her how to use spot remover!!!
Even now at 17,shes one of her few friends that knows how to do laundry, spot clean, sew a button & press her clothing.