Calizzy Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Our piano teacher’s daughter is getting married. I don’t know her, but I think my piano teacher is a wonderfully sweet lady and would like to acknowledge this wedding somehow. We’re not invited to the wedding, is it weird to give a card with a bit of money? Is it normal to give a gift to a wedding you weren’t invited to? I don’t want to look passive aggressive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I don’t see how a gift would be passive aggressive unless there’s some extreme dynamic not explained here. We got a lot of cards & small cash wedding gifts from people in DH’s (small) hometown that weren’t invited. They were all appreciated. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoraBora Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 9 minutes ago, Calizzy said: Our piano teacher’s daughter is getting married. I don’t know her, but I think my piano teacher is a wonderfully sweet lady and would like to acknowledge this wedding somehow. We’re not invited to the wedding, is it weird to give a card with a bit of money? Is it normal to give a gift to a wedding you weren’t invited to? I don’t want to look passive aggressive. I think a card with a bit of money would be a sweet gift! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calizzy Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 20 minutes ago, Katy said: I don’t see how a gift would be passive aggressive unless there’s some extreme dynamic not explained here. We got a lot of cards & small cash wedding gifts from people in DH’s (small) hometown that weren’t invited. They were all appreciated. Ok, that’s good to know. No weird dynamics. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 In this situation, I might do a Mother of the Bride gift instead. Perhaps something pampering. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I think a gift would be appreciated as very thoughtful and generous. There's nothing wrong with wanting to contribute to a new couple getting married! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I think it would be gracious, but not necessary. Give your card/gift and wish the couple well. I'm sorry you've had so much exposure to passive-aggressive people that you feel you have to ask. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I think it’s a lovely idea. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 A gift for the piano teacher or a gift for her daughter? I like the idea of getting a little mother of bride gift of some kind? A flowering plant, a bottle of wine, a bath set, a gift card, a photo album or frame, etc. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Since you don't know her daughter I think I would get something for the mother of the bride. A really pretty frame for her to put a picture of her and her daughter on her wedding day would be lovely. You might even research "mother of bride gifts" and see if something unique and special comes up that fits her personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calizzy Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 38 minutes ago, Ditto said: Since you don't know her daughter I think I would get something for the mother of the bride. A really pretty frame for her to put a picture of her and her daughter on her wedding day would be lovely. You might even research "mother of bride gifts" and see if something unique and special comes up that fits her personality. Ok, fun. I’ll look in to this. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Not quite the same situation, but I’ve passed along baby gifts for each of my hairdresser’s new grand babies. I have been seeing her for 16+ years and consider her a friend. I think in the situation you describe, I might pass it along after the wedding is over, since you’re worried about looking like fishing for an invite. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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