Carrie12345 Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 My mom has had a rough few years and 2020 has just extra sucked in many, many ways. It’s been bad. Late last night, my sister texted me to let me know our stepfather was in the hospital. He recently had surgery for lung cancer and then had some complications. He started heavy dose chemo, which is supposedly just as a precaution. Now he’s hospitalized for double pneumonia and renal failure. I haven’t gotten any follow up details in the past 12 hours. They’re a 2 hour flight, 13 hour drive away, and I usually try to go and help with kids, pets, the house, etc whenever he has health issues, but that’s not an option this time. I’m not sure what my stepbrother (also in another state) will want to do since mom’s house is already a mostly no-visitors space. (My other sister and niece went for a masked, outdoor Thanksgiving.) My mom’s already been struggling with her ability to cope with everything she’s been going through, and I have no idea how she’s going to cope with more scary complications. She doesn’t do communication when she’s in the midst of “stuff”, so directly checking in would feel like a burden to her. I got a text when my grandmother died, and that was mostly a courtesy so that other people didn’t have to tell me. So now I just sit and wait to see if my sister sends an update. I have no idea what I should be braced for. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 ((Carrie)) Praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 (((((Carrie))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 So sorry, Carrie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 I'm sorry. That's really hard. 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeppermintPattie Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 I'm sorry, Carrie. Renal failure is pretty serious. If you want to see your step-dad again, you might want to find out more information. But it stinks that you have to wait for other people to give you updates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 I am so sorry, waiting is so hard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 I am so sorry. That is so stressful. I am sending lots of prayers for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matrips Posted November 29, 2020 Share Posted November 29, 2020 7 hours ago, Carrie12345 said: My mom has had a rough few years and 2020 has just extra sucked in many, many ways. It’s been bad. Late last night, my sister texted me to let me know our stepfather was in the hospital. He recently had surgery for lung cancer and then had some complications. He started heavy dose chemo, which is supposedly just as a precaution. Now he’s hospitalized for double pneumonia and renal failure. I haven’t gotten any follow up details in the past 12 hours. They’re a 2 hour flight, 13 hour drive away, and I usually try to go and help with kids, pets, the house, etc whenever he has health issues, but that’s not an option this time. I’m not sure what my stepbrother (also in another state) will want to do since mom’s house is already a mostly no-visitors space. (My other sister and niece went for a masked, outdoor Thanksgiving.) My mom’s already been struggling with her ability to cope with everything she’s been going through, and I have no idea how she’s going to cope with more scary complications. She doesn’t do communication when she’s in the midst of “stuff”, so directly checking in would feel like a burden to her. I got a text when my grandmother died, and that was mostly a courtesy so that other people didn’t have to tell me. So now I just sit and wait to see if my sister sends an update. I have no idea what I should be braced for. If you’re trying to help from a distance, maybe you can see if she’d qualify for Meals on Wheels, and find some in home help for her? Just things that would take something off her plate. im sorry about your stepdad 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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