umsami Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 So I have two friends going through two different life changing events right now. One friend's divorce was just finalized....after a long painful process. The other is going to have a hysterectomy tomorrow. :( If you've gone through either one, what would have been a nice gift to receive? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathmarm Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 A book. It can be non-fiction, fiction, self-help or anything in between. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 After my hysterectomy I was thankful for meals. I knew the family would eat better than hot dogs. And I knew the kitchen wouldn't be trashed. It was nice to know that was taken care of. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 Post-hysterectomy: meals; a good book; if she doesn't have one, an absolutely fabulous, cushy heating pad; favorite treat foods, just for her; movies/shows; lotions & potions; flowers really did make me smile. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 Hysterectomy: meals, disposable paper dishes, etc, plate of homemade holiday goodies since I wasn't up to the task, small memory foam pillow for lap After SIL's divorce, I took her a ready made meal basket (gourmet spaghetti sauce, etc). I also tucked in one of these happy spoons with a note acknowledging her sadness/pain, and wishing her happy days ahead. http://www.amazon.com/Red-Happy-Spoon-Zak-Designs/dp/B000X7KR5I/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1427308148&sr=8-4&keywords=happy+spoon 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 I agree with the meals after a hysterectomy. I was so stinkin' tired after mine. Not really that sore, but tired for a couple weeks. Very kind of you to do this! :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 I've never had a hysterectomy, but I've had a divorce. I didn't receive any gifts, but depending on the circumstances, maybe a girls night out, gc for a massage/mani/pedi/new do, something for a new home if she has to move (HELP with moving!!). I had to move to a different house and I wanted all new things--nothing that looked like the old home I'd lived in with him. I remember I bought a new bed and bedding (gc to Bed, Bath and Beyond?), and once my divorce settlement came, I got all new furniture, new dishes, new car, etc. So, I'd feel out what she might need or want and go from there. NO self help books on how to survive a divorce, unless she mentions wanting one. If there are kids, maybe tickets to some event for her and the kids, sort of a way to start off a "new" family memory. Most of all, be supportive. That meant more to me than anything. My divorce was hideous and what I found out about EX was unbelievable. I was in shock/crisis mode for a long time. Having friends validate my feelings and support me meant more than any tangible gift could have. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 So I have two friends going through two different life changing events right now. One friend's divorce was just finalized....after a long painful process. The other is going to have a hysterectomy tomorrow. :( If you've gone through either one, what would have been a nice gift to receive? I gave my sister a charm for her James Avery bracelet that said Hope on it. After her divorce. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 I've never had a hysterectomy, but I've had a divorce. I didn't receive any gifts, but depending on the circumstances, maybe a girls night out, gc for a massage/mani/pedi/new do, something for a new home if she has to move (HELP with moving!!). I had to move to a different house and I wanted all new things--nothing that looked like the old home I'd lived in with him. I remember I bought a new bed and bedding (gc to Bed, Bath and Beyond?), and once my divorce settlement came, I got all new furniture, new dishes, new car, etc. So, I'd feel out what she might need or want and go from there. NO self help books on how to survive a divorce, unless she mentions wanting one. If there are kids, maybe tickets to some event for her and the kids, sort of a way to start off a "new" family memory. Most of all, be supportive. That meant more to me than anything. My divorce was hideous and what I found out about EX was unbelievable. I was in shock/crisis mode for a long time. Having friends validate my feelings and support me meant more than any tangible gift could have. Oooooh new bedding. I remember throwing my sheets away after I kicked XH out. Then realized I didnt have another set. LOL.....mom came through for me. I got two gifts post divorce......one was a $200 check from my best friend and a card...another was a card with a hand drawn pic of a tree with a single bloom on it....and the caption said "ready to bloom.?" 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 When my best friend had a hysterectomy, I went to her house and cleaned it while she was in the hospital. Her DH was at work and her kids were at her mom's. That only works for a particular sort of friend, though. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cafdog Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Post-hysterectomy, I was so grateful to a friend who would come and chat with me for an hour or so. I was bored, but not ready to be out and about, nor entertain, and was grateful for a little (short-term) company. Books are always good, too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arnold Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 After my hysterectomy we had a lot of people bring food. I loved when people got us gift cards to restaurants that we could carry out from. It was a change of pace and kind of a treat as we don't eat out much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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