Joanne Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 As the date gets closer (late August), I get more anxious. I *think* he's the one in trouble; he will be 5 digits in arrears by the time the hearing happens. He was "served", I was given notice by mail. But I am still not quite over the trauma of the 4 year long battle, and the lack of sense so much of it made. I did a search, and our original Judge has died (she was sick when we had the battle). I know that the arrears will not be lowered (unless I agree, and I won't) but that modification may happen ongoing. Some things I read indicate that him not trying to have it modified might even be an issue (for him, not me). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Buckin' Longhorn Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 If my sister's experience is any indication, as long as he comes to court with a little money and a promise to do better . . . then absolutely nothing will happen. Her ex is in 6 digit arrears. He did lose his driver's license, but drives anyway. He is self employed and lives very well, but that keeps his wages from being garnished. He has all of his new family's assets in his new wife's name and is generally an all around crappy guy. But nothing of any real consequence ever happens in the child support hearings. He gives a sob story. They set another hearing date 3 or 6 months into the future to see if he can do any better, he doesn't do better but brings a new and improved sob story next go round . . . rinse, repeat ad nauseam. She eventually gave up trying to collect. She was losing too much time away from work going to hearings without collecting any child support to make up for the lost wages. Boo. Hiss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I'm clueless about this, Joanne, but I wanted to wish you good luck. I would be very stressed and anxious about it, too! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I don't know. I just want to wish you well. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 Joanne, I have no clue either, but hoping there's a positive outcome. Big Buckin'... that is incredibly sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 No idea, but wanted to express support. ((((Hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Buckin' Longhorn Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have been so negative. The words "Texas" and "child support" make me so frustrated on my little sister's behalf. I hope all goes well at your hearing. I know you are in a different county than I am. I hope your judge is much more proactive than my sister's is. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted July 27, 2014 Author Share Posted July 27, 2014 I'm so sorry. I shouldn't have been so negative. The words "Texas" and "child support" make me so frustrated on my little sister's behalf. I hope all goes well at your hearing. I know you are in a different county than I am. I hope your judge is much more proactive than my sister's is. Good luck! {{{hugs for your sister}}} I have talked to some people locally - guys I know have had struggles and each and every one of them mention "jail" is possible. Since he is not working (my xh), I wouldn't hate that outcome. His SSN is flagged: I get all tax returns and any income will be garnished. I haven't gotten a 2013 tax return, but I did get one for 2012 last summer. As of yet, he has not filed for SS retirement (he is old enough) but I've been given mixed info on whether than can be garnished. Maybe I'll email the Guardian Ad litem who was on the custody case. I have a good relationship with him, and MY wages are garnished by him to pay my half of his (court appointed) services for the unwanted, needless, life altering custody battle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 I know people who have been in support situations in Harris County. I could share some details if you want to pm me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted July 28, 2014 Share Posted July 28, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 Joanne I don't do many messages. I saw my reply sitting in my box, but I am not sure if you have got it -- or if I sent it multiple times?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeghansMom Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 And this too, shall pass. *hugs* I volunteered as a GAL when I lived in Florida. My hubby and I also had exes that did NOT pay child support. His ex had 11 jobs in one year and all she had to do was pay over half of what was owed and the cycle would start all over again. My ex has a well paying job and his check was garnished and his tax return taken. Those years were pure hell. The kids are grown and on their own now, thankfully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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